- Joined
- Aug 19, 2015
Honestly, I have never been able to grasp the appeal of tinder. It seems like a fuckton of bullshit when reality still exists. Like, fucking hell, you like a girl? Ask her out. Dinner, movie, winetasting, whatever. Boom. Done. You know instantly whether or not she's interested, there's no camera angling or weird texts, and it takes about 30 seconds. Literally any problem with this system can be instantly debunked.
-You're anxious and don't have the brass to do that? Then maybe you're got personal security issues that would cripple any potential relationship anyways, and should spend some time figuring your own shit out.
-You "don't know any girls"? Then you're isolated and out of touch and need to get out more, not spend more time online.
-No one you're attracted to says yes? Then you need to examine why and ask yourself if your standards are unrealistic.
-You've "got issues" and worry that you'd come off as a project? You probably are, and should realize that a serious relationship doesn't solve shit, it introduces about a million new problems and challenges and complicates your existence significantly. If you aren't prepared for that, it's the last thing you need, to say nothing of a random hookup that just exacerbates the problem.
-You just want to hook up with no effort or attachments? Fair enough, I've been there, but you need to examine what that says about where you're at right now. If you want someone as a human fleshlight, there may be a reason you're single.
There's also a sizable body of research to indicate that people know in the first 30 seconds or so whether or not they have a connection to someone. Your initial instinct is often the best reading, so the simple "wanna grab a bite sometime?" is actually a better gauge of compatibility than any dating/hookup site formula.
TL;DR- Just ask her out, you spineless fuckwit.
I read a quote in the paper from a guy who said he swipes 100 tinder profiles in the morning and again at lunch, and then by the evening he has at least 1 or 2 that want to hook up. Why don't these guys just do that?