Boson
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- Nov 4, 2014
I might be a bit late to this but I just want to say:
As someone who was in a(n) (abusive) relationship with someone older than me -- an adult, as you said, about 4 years or so older -- it's really fucking disturbing you're advocating this relationship. There's a massive difference in emotional maturity in a newly-turned 16 year old and a 19 year old (Almost 20 iirc?). Think of someone entering college dating a Sophomore/junior in high school. Fucking side-eye worthy.
I was not emotionally mature enough to know what my abuser was doing was not okay. I was dependent on them and emotionally vulnerable, volatile, and not nearly at the proper level for a healthy relationship. It took family members forcibly cutting me off from them for me to realize maybe this wasn't good. Jeremy deserves someone healthier, better, and closer to his own age. You're right in saying that 3 years isn't that big of a difference but that's really only for someone who is an adult. Even a teen dating a teen 3 years a part (14 yo with 17 yo, etc) is a bit weird.
Also, as a person who has been in a poly relationship, that is not healthy poly. Your partners aren't fucking disposable. It's gross to me you think so. 'No big deal'... then why bother sticking your neck out so far for this asshole? Honestly?
As someone who was in a(n) (abusive) relationship with someone older than me -- an adult, as you said, about 4 years or so older -- it's really fucking disturbing you're advocating this relationship. There's a massive difference in emotional maturity in a newly-turned 16 year old and a 19 year old (Almost 20 iirc?). Think of someone entering college dating a Sophomore/junior in high school. Fucking side-eye worthy.
I was not emotionally mature enough to know what my abuser was doing was not okay. I was dependent on them and emotionally vulnerable, volatile, and not nearly at the proper level for a healthy relationship. It took family members forcibly cutting me off from them for me to realize maybe this wasn't good. Jeremy deserves someone healthier, better, and closer to his own age. You're right in saying that 3 years isn't that big of a difference but that's really only for someone who is an adult. Even a teen dating a teen 3 years a part (14 yo with 17 yo, etc) is a bit weird.
Also, as a person who has been in a poly relationship, that is not healthy poly. Your partners aren't fucking disposable. It's gross to me you think so. 'No big deal'... then why bother sticking your neck out so far for this asshole? Honestly?