Strange things men do/have/endure with - Things guys put up with women just don’t get

[ShiftyBoi]

TFW you're peeing and you only feel one ball

 

[oldTireWater]

I'm 5 ft 11

in solidarity with my short kangs

Motherfucker, you are short.

 

[Polyarmory]

Isolation. Men tend to have to struggle being alone. I'm not talking "incel, doesn't go out, doesn't try to make friends" kind of alone.

Women tend to have girlfriends they can bounce things off of, talk openly, and generally get along better so even during work and stuff they tend to get along.

Men very rarely get actual, proper bonding time, especially as an adult. If you're not friends with someone that you've known since schooling days, you're more than likely not going to get anybody you form a close connection with like that. It's a vicious cycle because men are still expected to be quiet about things. Bro talks are extremely rare and only reserved for the closest of people. It's very, very easy for a man to be in a situation where he doesn't have any of those people.

This is a skill issue. I hardly leave my apartment, and I have made three confidants in my adult life. Being a man is not an excuse; if you want close connection, you need introspection, and you need to take conversational risks. If you're never the first person to say "nigger", you can't reasonably be upset that you don't share that bond with anyone IRL.

Not talking about you in particular, but most men have no real friends also because when it's time to talk about their feelings, they instantly revert to being whiny little faggots because they bottle their feelings and hide from them instead of facing them head-on like a man should. If you never sit in dark silence and suffer through your feelings (especially your feelings about yourself), you probably won't make any real friends.

Thread tax: Women assume that you psychically know how houses and cars work, and you're emasculated if you don't know this random information that doesn't matter 99% of the time. I think it's instinctive in some way; women who are otherwise very feminist will still have this expectation.

 

[We Are The Witches]

That in some countries gender violence against men does not exist in the law, and is not considered by it. There is gender violence against women, and there is domestic violence, all with their corresponding punishments, but not gender violence against males.

Which is inherently unfair and unjustified, as the law should protect victims & punish wrongdoers, not give special treatment based on gender, specially on something like this, as there's literally no justification to not punish equally a female offender.

That's one strange thing from the many.

 

[Brenda Holiday]

The fact that most of this thread is jokey says something about the topic that I can't really explain.
Being seen as disposable, and not having sexual abuse taken seriously is two things I have observed men deal with. Especially the second one, in a uniquely male way, it being assumed since you're a man that you're always horny so nothing is sexual abuse, if you were molested by a women as a child you were "lucky", etc
I wish guys felt more able to talk about their feelings to women. Its been a struggle to get my husband comfortable enough to admit and talk about things that I'd have no trouble talking about casually over breakfast. But I understand why.

 

[Party Pizza]

If you’re ever stuck somewhere or having a medical emergency chances are you’ll be the one calming the women around you and directing them on what to do next.

 

[Core Theorist]

I have to iron my dick and balls every fucking day and nobody comments on it. I was in the showers at the gym and I didn't even get a "nice cock and balls, bro" for the past 2 months! Could you imagine? I'm jelqing CONSTANTLY and NOBODY FUCKING CARES!!!

I JUST NEED SOME JUICE!!!

 

[FamicomGorby]

Basically this, I think it comes from the male desire for purpose in life.

I'm 5 ft 11 (180cm), and it's so weird to me how often height is mentioned by girls on dating apps. Like, I get having a preference for "Tall, dark and handsome" but do you really have to spell it out on your Hinge profile? You don't see guys specify which cup size or weight range they'd get with in the same way. It's something I've distinctly noticed to be more common in the UK than in the US
I always X these profiles when I see them even if we'd match in solidarity with my short kangs (not to mention how vapid they tend to be, its basically a warning sign)

I think some guys might do something like that but in general a woman who isn't morbidly obese/disfigured will get attention on a dating app no matter what, so shitty profiles don't matter for em. Also I'm pretty sure a dating app, I think it was OKcupid, released stats a few years back and a ton of women have a filter set for 6' height minimum on their preferences.

 

[Daddy's Angry Juice]

If you’re ever stuck somewhere or having a medical emergency chances are you’ll be the one calming the women around you and directing them on what to do next.

shut up, thats too fucking real.

 

[Lord of the Large Pants]

There's this pooner I know IRL. I don't have to interact with them, they're somebody else's coworker, but I could. I've heard them sperg about the room being addressed as "ladies" and they replied with "and guys!" annoyed. I think about how, if I wanted to be charitable, the most manly thing I could do to include them in THE MAN EXPERIENCE™ is sit them down for a phone call. I'd call my friend [JAMES] and put it it on speakerphone and say "Hey James, is your wife home? Yeah? I think you need to tell Patty how you're a faggot and that you like men. You need to admit to Patty how much you like penis." It isn't grilling or shopping for sweatpants, it's prank calling your bros and openly accusing them of homosexuality, and both of you laughing at the absurdity of the exchange. I don't think the pooner would like or appreciate this, but then again they aren't an actual guy, so...

It deeply concerns me that gay chicken is the primary mark of true male friendship... but you're not wrong.

 

[KhorneFlakes]

The prevelence of creepy men in the working world is something I don't think is spoken of enough by other men. I've had it a few times where bosses of mine have looked like striaght up necrotic goblins and go around making comments about women in the workplace and because of their status in the business/company people just sort of accept it. As a man, I do believe it is my responsibility to call this shit out and that we should essentially police our own, yet when I've done this I have been told to "stop taking things so seriously". Don't get me wrong, I love beautiful women and I am just as guilty as any man of looking at them, but there is a difference between that and loudly making gross comments while staring from across the room. In a just world where we lived in a polite society, we'd be allowed to publically shame, beat or exile men like this, now thoiugh we just make them regional/district managers.

The fact that most of this thread is jokey says something about the topic that I can't really explain.
Being seen as disposable, and not having sexual abuse taken seriously is two things I have observed men deal with. Especially the second one, in a uniquely male way, it being assumed since you're a man that you're always horny so nothing is sexual abuse, if you were molested by a women as a child you were "lucky", etc
I wish guys felt more able to talk about their feelings to women. Its been a struggle to get my husband comfortable enough to admit and talk about things that I'd have no trouble talking about casually over breakfast. But I understand why.

I know a lot more men who have been sexually assaulted than I do women, and it's never something small like "oh she touched my ass", that's not to say women are all rapists, but I'd for sure say the amount of sexually violent people is approximately equal for both genders these days

 

[Daddy's Angry Juice]

this thread reminded me of this (sorry for the quality its the only copy i could find)

 

[oldTireWater]

Spoiler: Images of Idealized Masculinity

 

[Idiotron]

The prevelence of creepy men in the working world is something I don't think is spoken of enough by other men.

So the problem is that men didn't do enough.

As a man, I do believe it is my responsibility to call this shit out

Why do I need to be a White Knight when I'm not guilty of anything?

In a just world where we lived in a polite society, we'd be allowed to publically shame, beat or exile men like this

So we should physically hurt men because they said "nice tits"?
Would your just world have women get beaten up and kicked out of society for casual non-physical sexism?

This is my contribution to this thread:
Innocent men have to constantly be pressured to deal with guilty men and are often blamed for the actions of the guilty men.
It's also acceptable to advocate for physical violence against men in response to words.

 

[Administrator Flotsam]

Trying to understand how its socially unacceptable to "body-shame" people but its perfectly ok to body shame men is definitely a strange thing to endure.

 

[MAAAD]

Making friends with a guy you just had a fist fight with. I wouldn't really call it something you put up with but it was an extremely common experience (especially on the school yard) and I have never seen or heard of a woman/girl doing it.

This one's based and true. I had a fight with my classmate on the school yard in like 5th grade, with the rest of boys from our class watching. Even though I lost the fight, I gained a best friend that stuck with me through life.

Well we can talk about that. My best friend of almost 20 years confided in me he can’t cry. And he really wants to a lot of times. But he just can’t. Even when he’s alone

This hits right in the feels.

 

[Lord of the Large Pants]

I wish guys felt more able to talk about their feelings to women. Its been a struggle to get my husband comfortable enough to admit and talk about things that I'd have no trouble talking about casually over breakfast. But I understand why.

I know this thread isn't for woman hate, but you seem sincere so I'm going to get real for a second.

Women say they want us to talk about our feelings, but they really don't. They may think they do, they may have been told by society that they're supposed to, but they don't.

When men talk about their feelings with women, the BEST possible outcome is the woman offers superficial support while subconsciously thinking that the man is weak. At worst, the woman is deliberately lying and looking for something to use against you later. Every man instinctively knows this, but if we say it out loud we're accused of having soggy knees or whatever. That's why we don't talk about it, and why we don't talk about why we don't talk about it. Every woman thinks they'll be the exception, but I'm sorry, you probably aren't. Even if you've been married for 50 years, that's just not how it goes it real life.

I don't believe women are (usually) being malicious when they ask men to talk about their feelings. They just don't understand what they're actually asking for. I'm not even angry about it, it's just the way things are.

 

[NoReturn]

Not a guy, but I wanted to contribute something that's not obvious from the outside to other women.
When men tell you they aren't thinking of anything, they're telling the truth.
Men have the ability to have quiet minds. Maybe it's the differences in the corpus collosum, who knows? The point is we shouldn't react with disbelief or think they're not willing to tell us, sometimes they just have quiet in their brains.

 

[Soggy Floppa]

when you scratch your balls and accidentally end up squeezing one

 

[Michael_Jordan_Peterson]

Where do other male users keep their bottle of emotions? I feel like the mental shelf I keep mine on hurts my back.

most of my emotions are screaming so i get them out by screaming loudly. If im not screaming and cursing while working something really horrible probably happened.

Mattress on floor + no furniture. although i feel enduring all the extra furniture and cleaning is 100x worse.

never going to the doctor for anything. ill just die when i die.

never talking to friends about anything serious