- Joined
- Sep 16, 2013
One of his question/answers was: "How important is it for your future partner to have been a virgin when you met?" And his response was 'very important" to the point that putting "not important" or even "slightly important" gave me a red answer (meaning he wouldn't accept it). Of douse, this is fucking stupid considering that the way OKCupid works is this. You answer your question, and then you put down what you'd accept. If Chris is only accepting "Very Important" or "important" for the answer; he's insinuating that his woman needs to want a virgin too... which he's not.
Of course, later he said he wanted a woman who was at least a little experienced, though he accepted all available answers and then also continued that by saying that he wanted his future woman to have a sex tape with someone else he could watch. So.. there's that for ya.
I should point out that you can attach different levels of importance to questions. Hopefully Chris attached very little importance to hid desire to disappoint his future match with his non-virginity.
To defend Chris a little, I have been on OKCupid for a while and a lot of people make that mistake. You can sort by how important a question is to a person. Very often I will see questions like "Would you date someone with a kid/without a car/who lives with their parents/is a smoker?" with a no answer and high importance. I am pretty sure that most of the time the person meant that they would really not want to date that type of person, so they are trying to really emphasize their no answer. Instead, what they end up implying is that they really want their match to have the same restrictions they do about dating this type of person. I suppose this could happen, but I can't imagine that would be one of the most important factors to most people. Obviously the correct response would be to say "no" to this question, give it low importance, and then give high importance to a no answer in the corresponding "Do you have a kid?" type question, but a lot of people, not just Chris don't think it through carefully.
I am willing to say that what he meant to say is that he wants to date a virgin, and then meant to make that answer somewhat important. But even granting Chris that, he still answered "Very important" to the virginity question, which is fairly horrible. It is a pretty blatant example of his double standards, which apparently he is ok with putting out there publicly. It is bound to offend/drive away non-virgins, or even virgins who don't think it is his business or are offended by his double standard. I think we can all agree that whatever small chance Chris has at sex comes from a drunken encounter with a fairly "loose" woman. If a woman has decided to save herself for Mr. Right, Chris should probably keep walking.
One of the most amusing parts of this to me, is that Chris has a lot of answers which express openness to being with a lot of people. Not a bad strategy for a normal person, if you think something might be a deal-breaker, but are not sure, say it isn't and you can always leave the relationship if it turns out to be. But apparently virginity is crucial.
Chris is ok if you want to pee on him, but you better not have peed on anyone else.