why are you still single - and general discussion of the dating game

[Not A Bunny]

This I think is pretty rare amongst Men and Women these days.



Guys are merely acting on what responses they've had in the past from other Women. And the last one about berating you, was guys that read PUA stuff and was hoping you'd be responsive to put-downs to elevate themselves into being date-able.

Oh, no. There's a difference between negging and being told "no man would want you".

Which I didn't take entirely personally. One said this because I wouldn't give into his booty calls and the other said this because I had the nerve to have friends before I met him. This isn't PUA shit, which I've also gotten; PUA shit is supposed to be flirty and teasing. This was in the midst of getting mad at me because they already picked me up, but I didn't act the way they wanted.

It's vicious and ugly, but I take it more personally that I can't seem to find people who wouldn't treat me like that if given half a chance.

 

[Matt Damon]

Oh, no. There's a difference between negging and being told "no man would want you".

Which I didn't take entirely personally. One said this because I wouldn't give into his booty calls and the other said this because I had the nerve to have friends before I met him. This isn't PUA shit, which I've also gotten; PUA shit is supposed to be flirty and teasing. This was in the midst of getting mad at me because they already picked me up, but I didn't act the way they wanted.

It's vicious and ugly, but I take it more personally that I can't seem to find people who wouldn't treat me like that if given half a chance.

I've never quite understood this and it reminds me of how common it is for people to say and do terrible things to each other when they break up. Even if you're a total sociopath with no intrinsic desire to be a decent human being for its own sake, women still talk and it's not good for your future prospects with other women to be that spiteful psycho guy.

 

[Anasûrimbor Kellhus]

Just never met the right person I guess, though atm family is in a bit of a transition period so I'm a little too swamped to try particularly hard. Maybe I can put more effort into this stuff next year but I honestly don't even think I'm in a proper place to do so right now.

Plus I've learned well and good being alone is better than having a bad partner and I don't care for anything casual.

 

[Not A Bunny]

I've never quite understood this and it reminds me of how common it is for people to say and do terrible things to each other when they break up. Even if you're a total sociopath with no intrinsic desire to be a decent human being for its own sake, women still talk and it's not good for your future prospects with other women to be that spiteful psycho guy.

What's weird is that they weren't trying to break up with me. They were trying to get me to do what they wanted.

"You may as well do the thing I want, because the next guy is going to ask you for it, too, so you may as well just hand your agency over to me or you're going to be hated by every man you come across anyway."

Like, motherfucker, when did all men appoint your sorry ass as spokesmen for all of them? Including, ya know, my friends who actually ARE men.

Strangely, one of those motherfuckers emailed me a single line a few weeks later: "Is this how you wanted it to end?"

Yes, of course, every woman dreams of being led on by a manipulative asshole just so she can dump him later for being a patronizing, manipulative and insulting shithead, and I am oh so grateful for the opportunity to waste my time in such a manner.

 

[Jeff_the_Thriller]

My pajeet ex shit on the street of my heart.

 

[mudwogg]

Because getting in a relationship (the kind the thread is asking) isn't one of the things I desire in life. Never has been or perhaps my standards are too damn high. I know my limits. Never gave in to peer pressure growing up and always stood on my own two feet.

It is much easier for me to know what I don't want over what I want. It has always been my priority to live a quiet life with bullshit, especially coming from other people, kept to a minimum. While I'm managing fine in looking after myself, it is high maintenance work, especially keeping my sanity in check.

 

[Johan Schmidt]

I move around a lot, for work, for study. Which makes it awkward to put down the roots needed for a proper relationship.

 

[Dynamite Bean]

I fucking hate people way too much and don't think i'd be able to tolerate any form of romantic relationship so for my sake and others it would be best to not bother

 

[Ughubughughughughughghlug]

I very rarely ask women out. I think I went about, like, seven years before the most reason one.

 

[Nitro!]

I'm not drunk enough to put in the effort.

 

[Car Won't Crank]

Lately it has been a combination of single moms, gaudy and excessive tattoos, and onlyfans wenches. Why even bother.

 

[Shidoen]

I’m eventually gonna try to find a long term relationship again but as of right now I’m focusing on losing more weight and gaining more muscle, finding a good job, and getting my own place.

 

[Sumptinsfuckey]

I aint. Im married, got a kid, working on making more. I'm an ugly asshole who never finished high school, has almost no friends, and who's brother pretended to cancel his son's first birthday party because I said I might try to come by. Sounds to me like yall are just a bunch of fat losers who are too fucking scared to try.

 

[Geddy Lee's Fee and See]

I aint. Im married, got a kid, working on making more. I'm an ugly asshole who never finished high school, has almost no friends, and who's brother pretended to cancel his son's first birthday party because I said I might try to come by. Sounds to me like yall are just a bunch of fat losers who are too fucking scared to try.

Good for you lad. Surely I will take the advice of a sperg that can't help himself from humblebragging on the Internet about something he knows nothing about.

 

[Otterly]

One girl was a furry, and is the reason I have a scar on my face now. Another harassed me, and followed me around for a month after I said hi to her once. A different girl started being friends with a furry, then started wearing horrific looking clown make up.

What did she do to scar you?
Actual clown makeup? If you don’t mind, tell the story?

Sometimes I wonder. Were people always this selfish and narcissistic?

No. They really weren’t, not on this scale. There’s always been plenty of narcs and selfish people but they weren’t the norm. Social media has warped us

 

[Hitchhiker]

What did she do to scar you?
Actual clown makeup? If you don’t mind, tell the story?

I may have phrased it poorly, because she didn't really give me the scar, but she was the inciting factor. She said bye to me, and when I turned around to say bye back I kept walking, then as soon as I faced forward I walked into a pole. My forehead was bleeding like crazy, and I still have a medium sized scar. So she did not attack me like a feral animal luckily.

The other girl would cake the entirety around her eyes with mascara, and intentionally smeared it down her face so it looked like she had been crying, she did some other stuff with makeup like making herself pasty white, but I don't remember too much.

 

[Otterly]

kept walking, then as soon as I faced forward I walked into a pole.

So she really was a stunner ? (Sorry, sorry…)
The makeup thing sounds insane. Dodged a bullet there.
I was single for a very long time, even back before widespread social media madness overtook humanity. It is quite hard to find nice people and I’m always a bit amazed (and grateful ) that I did get married. If anything ever happened to Mr. O, God forbid, I would have no idea how to find a nice chap and would probably just be single forever.
Perhaps we need a farms dating service. I feel like it’s really hard for nice people to meet irl. Apps are full of people who just want sex. Where do people meet these days?

 

[Cats]

By the time I turned 29 I had already been married and divorced twice with more bad experiences under my belt than most men have in a lifetime. The relationship right after my second divorce turned out to be the last serious relationship I decided I was going to invest that amount of time and energy and emotional vulnerability.

It also turned out to be the one that ended in the worst way, with the most far reaching and serious consequences that will probably never stop hurting. The fucking kicker is it was a complete act of fate and nobody is there for me to blame so I don't even have the luxury of crawling into that defense mechanism. Sometimes horrible shit just happens to the people you love.

I am not interested in anything that goes beyond the relative safety of "casual dating" anymore. This has even slowed down since I moved away from the college town I used to live in. I honestly just couldn't give any less of a shit anymore. I still party every now and then and I recently did have somewhat of a steady girlfriend but I am not about to devote my entire life to someone ever again. I don't think I could if I tried.

 

[Perfectly Innocent]

“If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it” comes to mind.

I get to:

• Run around my house naked (even while working)
• Make friends with people I actually want to befriend
• Take holidays and otherwise do nothing when I please
• Do random college courses just for fun and egoboo
• Waste money on anything without any real worries
• Leave my smartphone switched off most days
• Eat, drink and otherwise consume anything I want

My only responsibilities are to pay the bills and pay myself.
That’s the way I live my life, and I love it!

 

[Ultrapenguin]

Perhaps we need a farms dating service. I feel like it’s really hard for nice people to meet irl. Apps are full of people who just want sex. Where do people meet these days?

I agree, I keep trying to say that Josh should do that. He could call it the Kiwi Karing Konnection (KKK) for consistent theming, and all the neurotic forum goers could get together and form a whole new generation of lolcow shepherds to take over once everyone here gets too old.

Nobody else ever takes my idea seriously though. Too small minded you see.