why are you still single - and general discussion of the dating game

  • 🔧 At about Midnight EST I am going to completely fuck up the site trying to fix something.
Doktor Grimm said:
For sure, I'm quite confident I can work it out with the right people one way or another given enough time -- it's just a matter of figuring out how to go about things. I'm only in my first year so college relationships are something I'm still puzzling together. (Being the designated Beers Guy might be out of the question, I fear; NOBODY FUCKING DRINKS.)
Click to expand...
That's a big problem and I've noticed that as well about younger people. They embrace weed a lot more than booze. Except they don't seem to understand that weed is not a social drug. If anything it's strictly anti-social.
 
  • Agree
  • Thunk-Provoking
Reactions: Drael, Kulmeister, KSachiko77 and 2 others
revisiting the topic, been on a few dates since my last post and I've come to the conclusion I'm just fine being by myself for now. Everyone is either fat, on a litany of prescriptions, or is otherwise retarded and a chore to be around. Dates aren't fun they're just stressful and I want them over like a bad work meeting. Frankly no girl or women I've met recently under the age of 40 seems like they're not a real ensouled person just vapid NPCs repeating whatever they see on tiktok or instagram.

men aren't much better (for friendships that is) to be honest most of my friends are all people I met 10 years ago seems impossible to make any meaningful connections across the genders.

I don't know feels like social media and then covid really just killed people's souls or something

Its so funny I spent so much of my early 20s feeling so horrible about never being able to get any dates. Now that I'm getting them I find they suck and I'd rather spend time tending to my garden or practicing keyboard or catching up on my books. Or just chilling in the backyard with the boys like the sopranos cast does in front of Satriale's Pork Store.

I won't give up I guess but I'm just getting more comfortable with just taking it easy and enjoying what I can instead of stressing about needing to be at some arbitrary dating/marriage goalpost just because I'm 2 years away from being 30.
 
  • Winner
  • Feels
  • Like
Reactions: (((I am NOT a jew))), Kujo Jotaro, Whoopsie Daisy and 7 others
Anasûrimbor Kellhus said:
revisiting the topic, been on a few dates since my last post and I've come to the conclusion I'm just fine being by myself for now. Everyone is either fat, on a litany of prescriptions, or is otherwise retarded and a chore to be around. Dates aren't fun they're just stressful and I want them over like a bad work meeting. Frankly no girl or women I've met recently under the age of 40 seems like they're not a real ensouled person just vapid NPCs repeating whatever they see on tiktok or instagram.

men aren't much better (for friendships that is) to be honest most of my friends are all people I met 10 years ago seems impossible to make any meaningful connections across the genders.

I don't know feels like social media and then covid really just killed people's souls or something

Its so funny I spent so much of my early 20s feeling so horrible about never being able to get any dates. Now that I'm getting them I find they suck and I'd rather spend time tending to my garden or practicing keyboard or catching up on my books. Or just chilling in the backyard with the boys like the sopranos cast does in front of Satriale's Pork Store.

I won't give up I guess but I'm just getting more comfortable with just taking it easy and enjoying what I can instead of stressing about needing to be at some arbitrary dating/marriage goalpost just because I'm 2 years away from being 30.
Click to expand...
Then what? Fuck your fist in a cold lifeless bed for the rest of your life?
 
Anasûrimbor Kellhus said:
men aren't much better (for friendships that is) to be honest most of my friends are all people I met 10 years ago seems impossible to make any meaningful connections across the genders.
Click to expand...
I'm gonna cross post this link from the Gen Z thread.

I got into this argument a month ago but it really got under my skin so it's memorable enough for me. These people genuine believe that playing Elden Ring online for an hour with a friend is a better option than going to a barbecue with their friends in person. I got neg-rated to hell and back over it because I rightfully called them autistic and retarded. The fact their lives are this online and this out of touch with reality is horrifying.

Fuck, I'm currently arguing irl with my friend's nephew to let us take him out on his 21st birthday. That's how antisocial young people are. It's not good. It's a fucking cancer. I've never prayed for an EMP hard enough. These people are insane.
 
  • Like
  • Feels
  • Informative
Reactions: Kujo Jotaro, Giles Corey, K-Farmers Anonymous and 3 others
Party Hat Wurmple said:
I'm gonna cross post this link from the Gen Z thread.

I got into this argument a month ago but it really got under my skin so it's memorable enough for me. These people genuine believe that playing Elden Ring online for an hour with a friend is a better option than going to a barbecue with their friends in person. I got neg-rated to hell and back over it because I rightfully called them autistic and retarded. The fact their lives are this online and this out of touch with reality is horrifying.

Fuck, I'm currently arguing irl with my friend's nephew to let us take him out on his 21st birthday. That's how antisocial young people are. It's not good. It's a fucking cancer. I've never prayed for an EMP hard enough. These people are insane.
Click to expand...
yeah I mean me and the boys sometimes do a few rounds of Lethal company but never at the expense of actual hanging out. I couldn't imagine that being our primary way of hanging out it just isn't the same as a nice cookout or maybe game of catan. you need to be with people face to face if just to keep your social skills sharp
 
  • Like
Reactions: Ughubughughughughughghlug, Kulmeister and Party Hat Wurmple
Anasûrimbor Kellhus said:
yeah I mean me and the boys sometimes do a few rounds of Lethal company but never at the expense of actual hanging out. I couldn't imagine that being our primary way of hanging out it just isn't the same as a nice cookout or maybe game of catan. you need to be with people face to face if just to keep your social skills sharp
Click to expand...
Well there are now people arguing not only is this just as good as hanging out face to face but rather it's the preferred way to socialize. That's not good. That's how we legitimately end up in the pods and eating the bugs. It was a warning. Not fucking advice.
 
  • Feels
  • Like
Reactions: Giles Corey, Kulmeister and Local Fed
Anasûrimbor Kellhus said:
revisiting the topic, been on a few dates since my last post and I've come to the conclusion I'm just fine being by myself for now. Everyone is either fat, on a litany of prescriptions, or is otherwise retarded and a chore to be around. Dates aren't fun they're just stressful and I want them over like a bad work meeting. Frankly no girl or women I've met recently under the age of 40 seems like they're not a real ensouled person just vapid NPCs repeating whatever they see on tiktok or instagram.

men aren't much better (for friendships that is) to be honest most of my friends are all people I met 10 years ago seems impossible to make any meaningful connections across the genders.

I don't know feels like social media and then covid really just killed people's souls or something

Its so funny I spent so much of my early 20s feeling so horrible about never being able to get any dates. Now that I'm getting them I find they suck and I'd rather spend time tending to my garden or practicing keyboard or catching up on my books. Or just chilling in the backyard with the boys like the sopranos cast does in front of Satriale's Pork Store.

I won't give up I guess but I'm just getting more comfortable with just taking it easy and enjoying what I can instead of stressing about needing to be at some arbitrary dating/marriage goalpost just because I'm 2 years away from being 30.
Click to expand...
This in theory... and then the isolation of having zero friends IRL builds up and makes me want to kill myself. You can't win!
 
  • Agree
Reactions: Anonitolia
Suel Forrester said:
Then what? Fuck your fist in a cold lifeless bed for the rest of your life?
Click to expand...
There's a shortage of monks in many monasteries. There's an Antiochian Orthodox Metropolitan who's trying to get more monks and monasteries going.

A lot of the friendship problems can be solved at Churches (traditional ones). You want a Third Place, that's it.

Being friends isn't so much about talking as it is accomplishing things together. Talking is just to help you understand what you're supposed to do together. There's always grape leaves to roll and weeds to pick
 
Last edited:
  • Autistic
Reactions: cocko
California Newt said:
There's a shortage of monks in many monasteries. There's an Antiochian Orthodox Metropolitan who's trying to get more monks and monasteries going.

A lot of the friendship problems can be solved at Churches (traditional ones). You want a Third Place, that's it.

Being friends isn't so much about talking as it is accomplishing things together. Talking is just to help you understand what you're supposed to do together. There's always grape leaves to roll and weeds to pick
Click to expand...
you would think so, on paper at least
 
  • Mad at the Internet
Reactions: Axiom.
California Newt said:
A lot of the friendship problems can be solved at Churches (traditional ones). You want a Third Place, that's it.
Click to expand...
That really only works if you’re religious. If you’re not, you’re not gonna get much out of it beyond going from “live and let live” to reddit euphoric atheism.
 
  • Agree
Reactions: anustart76
Gingervitis said:
That really only works if you’re religious.
Click to expand...
Well, yeah. You have to be religious for anything to work, just in a general human sense. We tried not doing that for 100 years and now we've got this thread.

Logical Positivism collapsed the better part of a century ago, so there's really no intellectual obstacle. We're no longer haunted by the spectre of Bertrand Russel (the CEO of Atheism).

Here you go, I'll hook you up with the pdf on the collapse of western autonomous epistemology. Happy hunting:
 

Attachments

  • Dumb
  • Disagree
  • Autistic
Reactions: Gingervitis, anustart76, Geddy Lee's Fee and See and 1 other person
Party Hat Wurmple said:
I'm gonna cross post this link from the Gen Z thread.

I got into this argument a month ago but it really got under my skin so it's memorable enough for me. These people genuine believe that playing Elden Ring online for an hour with a friend is a better option than going to a barbecue with their friends in person. I got neg-rated to hell and back over it because I rightfully called them autistic and retarded. The fact their lives are this online and this out of touch with reality is horrifying.

Fuck, I'm currently arguing irl with my friend's nephew to let us take him out on his 21st birthday. That's how antisocial young people are. It's not good. It's a fucking cancer. I've never prayed for an EMP hard enough. These people are insane.
Click to expand...
He doesn't find you or his uncle socially restoring but instead draining and he might not like the local bar scene's reputation. He doesn't want to awkwardly explain to his uncle and his friend which girls he finds attractive, assuming there's even any around his age.
 
  • Dumb
  • Like
Reactions: Justa Grata Honoria and Party Hat Wurmple
PaleTay said:
He doesn't find you or his uncle socially restoring but instead draining and he might not like the local bar scene's reputation. He doesn't want to awkwardly explain to his uncle and his friend which girls he finds attractive, assuming there's even any around his age.
Click to expand...
You're as bad as the autistics in the Zoomer Thread. How hard is it for you to just admit your anti-social attitude is fucking retarded? Life behind a screen is gay and retarded.

He is being given a blank check to go wherever he wants. Be it clubs, casinos, dives, or otherwise. He's to his own admission a bit of a NEET.
 
Last edited:
  • Optimistic
  • Dumb
  • Mad at the Internet
Reactions: KeekeeMewmew, Audit, Giles Corey and 3 others
Party Hat Wurmple said:
You're as bad as the autistics in the Zoomer Thread. How hard is it for you to just admit your anti-social attitude is fucking retarded? Life behind a screen is gay and retarded.

He is being given a blank check to go wherever he wants. Be it clubs, casinos, dives, or otherwise. He's to his own admission a bit of a NEET.
Click to expand...
None of those places sound particularly appealing unless you're good at picking up random women, or you're an alcoholic. Also I'm guessing you and his uncle are a lot older than him, not exactly a college-aged kid's idea of fun company to hang out with.
 
  • Dumb
  • Agree
  • Like
Reactions: Giles Corey, Party Hat Wurmple, Ibanez RG 350EX and 1 other person
I am autistic and I don't get out of the house other than to go on walks (not a good place to meet people unless you're stopping off at a pub) and to go to church (most of the people there my age are other guys).

My parents have both told me I'd get results if I joined a non-serious choir, but I don't really feel like it would work out well for me as I was still single when I was in my school's choir.

I'm not even sure there's a point in trying to chase a married future as I keep getting pangs to go off and join a Monastery.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
Back