Well the fundamental reason I am single is because, like Jung said, I have standards. ("You don't have sex because no-one wants you, you don't have sex because you care who you sleep with"). Yeah I totally could pick up some makeup-caked chick at a bar while out with the boys, who will be overweight and foul tempered. Not to mention not that bright. I did it plenty when I was younger. I am 31 now and really don't care to do it anymore. Sleeping with someone is something more than just physical, and I regret doing it so much when I was a young dumb piece of shit. I've had relationships, including an almost 5 year long one. But I've been dumped every time. The first was 100% my fault, but I learned a lot from it, and since then, its been an increasingly insane trip with women. Seriously, a woman on birth control and antidepressants = RUN.
I'm also 1) not running into anyone that I find that attractive, which is probably because 2) I'm not around that many women in the first place. I am in an extremely male dominated field of "hard" I.T., statistically I think it is at least 90-95% male. My current workplace is all old boomer dudes and the occasional fat office worker wife. There is 1, ONE attractive female in this complex of about 150ish employees, and shes married to some real soyboy looking dude, star wars t shirt in their wedding photos and everything. My hobbies are a) Muay Thai, where there are some fit women but very much the minority, and the ones I've talked to have dropped "bf" around either me or some other guy, b) beer league kickball, same as above c) aussie football, again, no women. I am also gradually working on my skydiving license, again a very male dominated sport.
I mean, it sucks. It really does. I live at my parents while making a stupid big amount of money. If my plan works out over the next 3 months, I'll have two remote I.T. gigs, and be damn close to a 6 pack if not having it. My plan/hope is to achieve real-deal financial independence with a six-figure investment income by 36-37ish. I have great life goals and am working, hard, at achieving them. I read books that aren't Harry Potter, and play chess. I go out and have fun with a lot of guy friends. I've been to 4 continents. In a lot of ways my life is quite successful (seriously, gratitude journalling is awesome). Its just really hard not to think of my current situation with the ladies as some kind of karma for whoring around a lot in my young to mid 20's. They just aren't there in my life and idk what I can do to change that.
At some point, you stop really caring too. My experience in so many past relationships is emotional bullshit, manipulation, non-commitment and occasionally, real deal mental issues. Eventually you get the idea that to a big extent, what they are bringing to the table isn't worth it.
