why are you still single - and general discussion of the dating game

[FILTH Tourist]

Not watching Robocop you bellend.

It was her idea actually. We were talking about favorite movies and I mentioned RoboCop as one of my favs, later she floated the idea of a movie night watching it because I said my apartment complex has a home theater you can rent. I'm going to try to arrange things tonight. If things go well, my apartment is just an elevator ride away. If things are still casual, then we can chat at a nice beef noodle place down the road.

 

[Fapcop]

It was her idea actually. We were talking about favorite movies and I mentioned RoboCop as one of my favs, later she floated the idea of a movie night watching it because I said my apartment complex has a home theater you can rent. I'm going to try to arrange things tonight. If things go well, my apartment is just an elevator ride away. If things are still casual, then we can chat at a nice beef noodle place down the road.

Nice! Sounds like it’s in the bag! Good job

Just try to not be too nervous and have fun, you know what I mean?

You don’t need to prove anything, obviously she’s interested so just relax and roll with it.

Best of luck!

 

[Kel1 shi1]

I'm going to try to arrange things tonight. If things go well, my apartment is just an elevator ride away. If things are still casual, then we can chat at a nice beef noodle place down the road.

Just make your intentions clear. You want to date her and this is a date. If you don't you'll be on the path to the friend zone.

 

[KingElizabeth]

How would you even go about finding a woman who'd accept a guy that's agoraphobic? It doesn't seem like looks or muscles matter too much when you tend to experience fight-or-flight panic attacks when a relatively short distance from home. As far as vulnerabilities go, it's a real nightmare to deal with.

 

[Overwritten Tapes]

How would you even go about finding a woman who'd accept a guy that's agoraphobic? It doesn't seem like looks or muscles matter too much when you tend to experience fight-or-flight panic attacks when a relatively short distance from home. As far as vulnerabilities go, it's a real nightmare to deal with.

Let her know you don't like large crowds. I generally don't either and the few times I go anywhere with a chick, we always make it a one on one type thing.

 

[Party Hat Wurmple]

Let her know you don't like large crowds. I generally don't either and the few times I go anywhere with a chick, we always make it a one on one type thing.

That's really just not sustainable long term. Someday you'll have to face it.

How would you even go about finding a woman who'd accept a guy that's agoraphobic? It doesn't seem like looks or muscles matter too much when you tend to experience fight-or-flight panic attacks when a relatively short distance from home. As far as vulnerabilities go, it's a real nightmare to deal with.

You kind of can't. One day there will be something she wants to do and the limit your agoraphobia places on you will make the reality of your situation very apparent. You're pretty much stuck with agoraphobic neets.

 

[DenseDeerFather]

Jesus christ the SEETHE coming from this lame ass post, I hate that shitty "who hurt you" phrase but it totally applies here.

Anyway, I do know why YOU are single.

. Yawn . You forget the cats and boxed wine.

Every fucking time. Be my guest ride that carousel into the ground like every other milenial.

Is this the moment where I ask you two to just kiss and make up?

Joking aside....

There is probably a few kiwi's on here with fucked up enough lives that they shouldn't even be considering dating atm. Unfortunately myself included.

Witnessing friends enter relationships when they were/are deeply troubled themselves just led to more misery and drama than it was worth.

Yes. It's uncomfortably enlightening. It's just uncomfortable when you get dragged into it as a therapist. I think I've gotten more dating experience through dysfunctional relationship than actually going on dates myself.

And I have never been on a date.

 

[Friend of Dorothy Parker]

It’s a low bar, don’t be fat, mental or lazy. (Give me those rainbows Kiwis)

I was asking about your comments about sex. You talked about girls who slept with you getting immediately chucked in the hook-up bin, but then the girl you thought was maybe ltr potential didn't sleep with you, so you fucked around on the basis that you're not in a relationship until you sleep with someone. Maybe you don't actually live in constant contradiction, but your references in that comment were, so that's why I pulled out the two comments and asked about what looked like a no-win situation for women with you.

 

[Kel1 shi1]

I was asking about your comments about sex. You talked about girls who slept with you getting immediately chucked in the hook-up bin, but then the girl you thought was maybe ltr potential didn't sleep with you, so you fucked around on the basis that you're not in a relationship until you sleep with someone. Maybe you don't actually live in constant contradiction, but your references in that comment were, so that's why I pulled out the two comments and asked about what looked like a no-win situation for women with you.

I guess you don't understand what the goldilocks zone is. Not too quickly, but also not too late. If she's making me wait some arbitrary time, I'm not in a relationship with her until there's sex.

 

[FILTH Tourist]

Just make your intentions clear. You want to date her and this is a date. If you don't you'll be on the path to the friend zone.

On of the main traps I fell into way too often. But my luck has flipped this year and I am a lot more confident. Should I just do some light touching or something?

Also movie night is confirmed for this Sunday!

 

[Kel1 shi1]

Should I just do some light touching or something?

Only if you can do it without being creepy.

 

[Flabba Wabba Jabba]

I don't think it's as obsessive as it is considered "niche" and therefore "weird". Some people are going to be really weird about you having other hobbies than "hanging out with friends" or "gave fun" or whatever. I say it's a them-problem.

Thanks man, that's really helped with my confidence. I am fine talking with women, but have always been hesitant to try take it a step further since I've been really self-conscious about coming off as weird. Much appreciated

 

[Fapcop]

On of the main traps I fell into way too often. But my luck has flipped this year and I am a lot more confident. Should I just do some light touching or something?

Also movie night is confirmed for this Sunday!

“light touching” sounds kinda creepy but yeah.

Just play it by ear, and read her signals: Is she sitting close, does she move away when you touch her or jerk? You’ll quickly realize how to play your cards.

But yeah, put her arm around her if you’re getting good signals.

 

[Overwritten Tapes]

That's really just not sustainable long term. Someday you'll have to face it.


You kind of can't. One day there will be something she wants to do and the limit your agoraphobia places on you will make the reality of your situation very apparent. You're pretty much stuck with agoraphobic neets.

I do just fine

 

[Party Hat Wurmple]

I do just fine

That's exactly what an agoraphobic would say. How do you even develop agoraphobia anyway as a young man? Was it COVID or are you just a NEET? Usually agoraphobia isn't a thing in younger men. It's very much an older person and rape victim disorder.

 

[Friend of Dorothy Parker]

Women will take advantage of that belief as well. Say you have a regular casual hookup woman and she calls you up to take her out, you think no problem I'll get sex at the end like we always do. So you wine and dine taker her back to your place only to be hit with "Sorry I'm on my period".

Bitch you knew that from the second you called me, kept it quiet all day because you knew damn well I'd have not taken you out. Not that she knows I had options I could have spent the day with instead. Anyway once this happens more than once with different woman you work out that this is a thing they do on purpose.

I learned this and adapted so they only ever get to pull it on me once. Got an app that tracks fertility, plug the date into that and it will tell me every month for the next year when it's rag week so I know to avoid them for that week "I'm busy" take someone else out or stay home and save my money.

Lol this is psychotic. If even true.

I guess you don't understand what the goldilocks zone is. Not too quickly, but also not too late. If she's making me wait some arbitrary time, I'm not in a relationship with her until there's sex.

I understand it's a stupid way to avoid intimacy and treat women like accessories while getting ego strokes, Casanova.

 

[the illusionist]

Single not by choice. Most men I've met had no personality to me, and even if I found one that I was interested in, he turned out to be some kind of sexual degenerate anyway. I hate how porn brain-rotten men are nowadays. It's near impossible to find a normal one.

 

[Intensening Rapeye]

Its awful. Most ladies just look like

 

[Kel1 shi1]

Lol this is psychotic. If even true.

I understand it's a stupid way to avoid intimacy and treat women like accessories while getting ego strokes, Casanova.

I suggest you date more women and find out for yourself.

 

[Ser Prize]

Because I don't have much to offer a woman, resource wise. It's a bitter pill to swallow but at the end of the day dating and marriage is a game of finding the best mate and I'm unfortunately not very well off. I take care of my disabled mother and work part time when I can, but I've never managed to secure a high income job that would secure me a woman.

I'd like to think my personality and sense of humour would be enough, but I know that's a childish fantasy.