At the time I was very worried about finding a girlfriend. I felt like I was way behind because I didn't date in high school, and I felt this huge pressure on me, like I had to catch up, I had to find a wife for when I graduated and since it's a kind of random process I had to date feverishly. This was all foolish, of course, but I think many of you understand how a young person will place burdens on themselves, will worry themselves to death over things that have to sort themself out in their own time. There's an irony, isn't there, that younger people often feel like they have less time because they have so little of it behind them that they can't see how much they have before them. It wasn't just about love/companionship either. My father was an old man even when I was born and I was/am very attached to my parents. They'd take me to graveyards and funerals a lot when I was a little kid.
Goddamn nigga that hit me where I live
I was similar, nerd in HS (oddly enough DIDN'T join the anime club) didn't have a serious GF till college.
Anyway, sorry that EVIL bitch did you dirty like that. At least you got to clap and I hope she was hot. Now she's probably fat and unattractive
Tren and test here I come
yeah but not her pick of ripped alpha chads, just boring skinny betas. that's what she's lamenting here.
Well more likely is morbidly OBESE smelly betas.
No one is perfect, its about finding the person you click with the best. Your hobbies, interests, etc etc should fall by the wayside when initially dating, if they are niche and arent something thats extremely popular. Sometimes you'll find a woman who is just interested in what you have to say, and is enthralled by the passion you have for a topic, just don't go overboard with it. Its all about striking a balance, and most importantly being someone people want to be around. Be funny, be interesting, be charming but don't fake it because everyone can see through that. Grow your confidence. Once you're in a relationship though, communication and emotional honesty is the name of the game, but that has to be built. Relationships take a lot of time, once you find someone that "clicks" with you invest in them, if you find out they aren't for you then slowly cut the cord and move on. Maybe I take a lot of what I had when I was a teenager/young adult for granted with regards to the current dating culture, but I still have the sense that there are people out there for you if you want to find them.
All fine but getting past the first hurdle is getting super rough these days.
I've said it before but I got almost identical "I didn't feel a lifelong romantic connection over a meal with you" text essays three times last year.
I've seen otherwise normal well adjusted women torpedo normal dudes because of the most idiotic bullshit (ewww he wore cargo pants or eeewwe he talk about his hobbies)
Man, why is every woman on the farms a massive cunt for no reason?
My boy is out here, pouring his heart out to his E-frens when out comes the skank brigade to say "Erm, this gives me the heckin ick, you deserved it".
Islam is right about women.
Goddamn so true. I'm pretty sure most women cannot conceptualize living as a man and being invisible until they get older, think 45+ and then they turn invisible.
Not gonna PL, but trust me when I say I'm not talking about "I like D&D/Cars" hobbies. If someone calls themselves a girl in these circles, you 100% assume they're trans unless explicitly proven otherwise.
Less about finding chads, more about residing in the sixth circle of autism hell.
Christ that sounds like some tabletop stuff plus anime/manga and possibly guns. Or a combination of all three.
NGL pretty based if a chick is into it and yeah I'd be pretty suspicious too.....
Fell free to DM me some pics


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after everyone in my social circle either fucked off out the country, died or i just got sick of them i started hermitmaxxing. I am also drawn to women that are insane and bad for me , after fucking my life enough i got burned out of that cycle and don't want to repeat it. Dating honestly revolts me at this point in my life. I can't stand zoomerinas so dispensing free lunches and tolerating younger women just to get laid is also not something that interests me.
Feels man. So many people I knew moved a few times zones away or went hermit.
"Tehe, my hubby has such nerdy hobbies. He's into Star Wars and RC cars, what a loveable dork!"
Yep. That is some basic bitch tier nerd stuff. Come at me when he's having arguments about stichdown vs Goodyear welted vs blake stitched footwear.
Or if Bubblegum Crisis or Iria the bounty hunter is the better OVA.
RC cars are the retards of the RC hobby world. A monkey with a single arm can control an RC car. Doesn't surprise me someone thinks RC cars are "nerdy." The real action and innovation are in aerial stuff - helis, multirotors, autogyros, airplanes.
Yep. My boss is actually a huge model airplane dude and he's married with 3 children.... He's also pushing 60 and got married decades ago and even HE says "Falco, you young men these days have it ROUGH, these young women are out of the damn minds"
Imagine caring about what women think regarding your hobbies. I do my hobbies for me because I enjoy them, if you're doing it to get women you're doing it wrong. Drop this mental model and have fun with your hobbies.
Exactly. I don't go to watch meetups for the hoes. Or gun shows, or the gun range, or the shoe factory.