@TamarYaelBatYah Do you and Marshall have a chore chart like this? The man is rewarded with sex favors by his wife if he does those chores. Id have one too, but instead of "BJ!!!!" Id request one prolapsed asshole suck. Id lightly squat down and push my entire smol intestine out and ask her to go to town.
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Is she not reading the emotions on her husband's face? He's clearly not happy with this idea. I'm not taking his side because he's a man. I'm calling this a bad idea because of what it says about women's sexuality.
I think this is a bad idea if the punishment/reward concept for not equally being a "giver" to his wife in the relationship is based on sexual withholding/sexual rewards.
First issue with that, is it denies her the pleasure of sex (and sexual activity) as well. She seems to think sex (and sexual activity) is something you give a man rather than sex (and sexual activity) being something you mutually participate in as a woman, or even just take for yourself as a woman at times. Everyone deserves some days where they can be the "taker" in the sack. Nothing wrong with that, as long as it's not all the time.
I see that she's a product of internalized misogyny in that she sees sex and sexual activity as a chore and a thing you give away to a man. It's like when people say a woman has "lost her virginity". It's like, where was the woman during all that?
Gaining the experience and pleasure of sex, you didn't lose anything. It's like, welcome to the better side!
She might also think sex is a chore or obligation because she's not in touch with her own sexuality and doesn't know how to manufacture her own fantasies and desires. The concept of female desire for a man is suppressed and under developed in her. Sex therapy could help her with that. Not listening to society helps too. This mentality she has could also possibly be because she has a low libido due to bad diet, lack of enorphins, some kind of birth control, or social conditioning. As long as a woman continues to believe sex is a man thing, he ability to desire sex, enjoy sex and control her sexuality will be thwarted.
Sex should be an almost daily thing between a couple in order to connect and it should not be used for reward/punishment. A BJ should definitely not be thought of as a reward. It's part of a mutual sexual experience that brings you closer to your husband. A desire to make his life better by sexual satisfaction, seeing that pleasure on his face. The woman should be into the BJ as much as he is into receiving the pleasure, it certainly shouldn't be a "chore". Who wants their spouse acting like it's a chore? It's normal for younger women under 25 not to initiate desire, they usually have to be seduced and coached during sex, but this woman looks over 30, so she's at the age where she should be initiating and pursuing sex with her man more aggressively. She's sexually repressed in her mind, for any of the reasons I said above.
Anyhow, I think the rewards should be other things like cooking his favorite meal. She has beer on there, that's cool. If Marshall acts up I withhold food. I don't withhold sex, I will communicate to him though when his behavior is becoming a sexual turnoff for me, and let him know that I'm not in the mood that day because he's getting on my nerves. Even still, I might still fuck him if I'm angry because I need the sex that particular day. If he's really acting up I make him scrape around and make his own dinner if he really makes me mad. If he's being loving and not neglecting me I'll make him 5 star meals. Marshall likes my cooking. He says I should open my own restaurant because my cooking is so good.