Continuously violating the restraining orders that the Vickers have against him will surely help him in family court. Ralph, dude, if the Vickers don't want you to see Xander then you won't. You have basically no chance to win this with your criminal record and your racist podcast and your history with Faith. The only thing you could hope for is the Vickers agreeing to let you see him, which they won't if you continue to snap back at them. You put yourself into a position where you have to take Vickers dick up your ass and accept it, or you never get to see Xander.