I remember it all as if it was yesterday. The day I decided to start skinwalking as my 8 year old neighbor.
For those new (or new-ish) to the whole skinwalking Erin the flower crown girl,
I wrote a long post a while back about Tony’s origin story. It covers this, plus Tony’s family, and his exposure to questionable things on the Internet at a young age.
One day you have a husband and the father of your firstborn building a life with you, who you can count on, the next day he’s skinwalking a childhood playmate and won’t stay the fuck out of your clothes.
Not that it lessens the horror much, but I believe that Tony only started acting out his trans identity after they separated and were heading for divorce.
Still can't believe they gave him custody of that child. Courts always favored the mother no matter what but troon privilege literally takes everything from women.
We seem to be missing a transcript from the divorce hearing where the judge laid out his reasons, but it doesn’t appear that Tony’s trans-identification played a role.
I wrote up the divorce documents that
@Marvin very kindly fetched for us last summer, but in short: Tony was the primary caregiver, Kate was the one to leave the family home (leaving Kiddo with Tony), Kate had an unstable work life (long hours then unemployed), Kate had a newborn with her new partner, and had moved several hours away to Virginia (away from Kiddo’s friends and school).
And, last but not least: Kate had previously agreed to something like the arrangement they have now, and then a few weeks later refused to return Kiddo to Tony at the end of a scheduled visit. (She had to be ordered by a court to return Kiddo.)
There is more in my earlier post that suggests some extra context to those things, but sadly those were the facts.
Personally I do feel that Tony’s obsessive behaviour (up all hours posting about some invented genocide) and his unconventional romantic life (multiple mentally ill partners) mean that Kiddo would be better off with his mum. But that doesn’t mean the court made an irrational decision back in 2021 on the facts it had before it.