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Latest from Noah's IG stories. Is this what he sent to Alex?
Trainwreck Alex Dacy / Alex Dzimtowicz / Wheelchair Rapunzel - 50% wholesome disability influencer, 50% that cash me outside girl
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Pshhhhh no one told me what horrors awaited. The clots. Ugh. I’m sure she knows but that’s gotta be awful being in a wheelchair. Fuck.
I don’t think anyone really can describe it. A lot of people assume they get all the ick sucked out via c section (kinda) not realizing they have a dinner plate sized wound that needs to heal.
Baby looks little but fairly healthy, not a micro premie thank godbear, it makes me happy. I hope and assume they have had case workers in a few times already to talk to her.
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To anyone so inclined to understand post partum woes, this is a good, short essay that is often passrd atound some birthing communities online.
The Lemon Clot Essay- IF YOU ARE PLANNING TO HAVE PEOPLE OVER AFTER BIRTH YOU NEED TO READ THIS!
The Lemon Clot Essay (by Sharon1964) You will be leaking out of places you don't want to leak out of. Do you really want to stand up from the couch and have…
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I read it before my first delivery, and it helped prepare me for what was to come.
I do hope Alex has a good support group for the next few weeks. She will be sore, bleeding, and feeling quite icky if she doednt have people helping her manage her bleeding and also the wound site. I hope she stays well.
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Imagine being such an idiot you think after you miss the birth that a single flower and a card with one little line written by some sweaty guy reading off the order notes will suffice as a replacement. Even I know you better either send a Fedex'd handwritten letter detailing every nice thought you ever had about her or a testicle in a box.
I hope someone abandons him in a strange city someday and he posts online so I can laugh about how much the meaner girls around here cackle. The worst of you cackled at this post. Rate this however because everyone here and IRL already knows.
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It BLOWS MY MIND that he didn’t really try, even with a wrangler to be there for her. I hope he goes away soon honestlyImagine being such an idiot you think after you miss the birth that a single flower and a card with one little line written by some sweaty guy reading off the order notes will suffice as a replacement. Even I know you better either send a Fedex'd handwritten letter detailing every nice thought you ever had about her or a testicle in a box.
I hope someone abandons him in a strange city someday and he posts online so I can laugh about how much the meaner girls around here cackle. The worst of you cackled at this post. Rate this however because everyone here and IRL already knows.
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There are grown men who live with really dumb weird guilt they missed that time in stepchildren's and adopted children's lives because birth isn't just vulnerable for the woman, but even if she's a throwaway, it's a vulnerable time for YOUR child. If he grows into a better person, it's going to hurt him forever.
I'm ready for this particular side character to be abandoned in a strange city or die of a heroin OD or whatever. I don't wish death on him, but I'd be lying if I didn't say there would be a unique sense of relief affiliated with a confirmation he's dead, if he's on the fence between the same old life or death, I have suggestions. I would prefer he get better, but it's not like I always have to have my way or that other options don't have upsides.
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I’m glad the baby is okay.
Now come the hard part.
Now come the hard part.
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Anyone else kind of disappointed she gave the kid Noah's surname?
Baby looks very well padded, but must be a little small in her frame - I plotted 10-15th percentile for weight for her gestation. But maybe she's a little short.
Also Re: formula feeds, Alex's milk won't have started to come in yet so baby needs food. They'll hopefully be helping her express and get her milk going, getting cuddles, etc. (This is not a political post, just feed babies I don't care).
Baby looks very well padded, but must be a little small in her frame - I plotted 10-15th percentile for weight for her gestation. But maybe she's a little short.
Also Re: formula feeds, Alex's milk won't have started to come in yet so baby needs food. They'll hopefully be helping her express and get her milk going, getting cuddles, etc. (This is not a political post, just feed babies I don't care).
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Unless theres something wrong, wouldnt she at least be producing her colostrum? Or is it different with a preemie and they need the extra nutrition right away? All my babies decided to stick around a week or so later than delivery date so I honestly dont know
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Totally agree.
Of course he is ostensibly there in Florida for 'rehab', but we all saw his live - the only thing getting clean is his wallet.
He's been too busy partying to bother with something as trivial as the birth of his daughter, because he doesn't really care.
My personal theory is that having to care for Alex broke him. He eventually realised the nightmare his life would be having to look after her and a newborn, and he ran for the hills.
The rehab is simply a cope that they cooked up to save face for Noah, and Alex gets to keep telling her 'love story'.
Cynical? Moi?
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I don’t think ‘they’ cooked up this story. Alex doesn’t seem to realize yet that she is very much a single mom.
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I was under the impression that colostrum production starts when the baby's head drops into the pelvis and the mucus plug gets loose and the cervix starts to thin and shit. As far as Alex's body was concerned, delivery was still a ways away so it may not have had time to start making colostrum - it was still firmly in pregnancy mode and they just essentially ripped the baby out. I hope that made sense. I could be totally off base.Unless theres something wrong, wouldnt she at least be producing her colostrum? Or is it different with a preemie and they need the extra nutrition right away? All my babies decided to stick around a week or so later than delivery date so I honestly dont know
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Colostrum is just the first milk, and it's often only 1-2mL at a time (still extremely precious though!!). So you gotta feed baby in the interim until her flow gets going. They can help stimulate it with medications (like Domperidone) and regular expressing, cuddles.Unless theres something wrong, wouldnt she at least be producing her colostrum? Or is it different with a preemie and they need the extra nutrition right away? All my babies decided to stick around a week or so later than delivery date so I honestly dont know
All very normal for Mums in NICU, the Nurses would be all over it.
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Yeah I suppose I'm torn between her being completely clueless about her one true love, and on the other hand doing damage control.
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This whole thread has been a tragicomedy with the one highlight of baby A’s safe delivery.
Godspeed little one, you’ll need it with the genetics you have and the emotionally immature narcissistic goblin that you’ll have to call mother.
Godspeed little one, you’ll need it with the genetics you have and the emotionally immature narcissistic goblin that you’ll have to call mother.
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Baby looks jaundiced, but not horribly so. Jaundice is actually super common due to babies having immature livers.
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I'm just blown away by how good that baby looks all things considered. I know science and medicine had a major hand in this but its a real "life finds a way" moment that a body in as weakened condition as Alex's managed to gestate such a substantial and complete sprog.
Like how when you have a plant that's on its last legs it will put out a last ditch bloom you've never seen the like of. Nature is fucking WILD when it comes to reproduction. No matter how much theory you understand seeing shit like this is still slightly magical.
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Indeed. Color me surprised.
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Fun fact for anyone who cares: the reason we discovered you can use UV light to fix jaundice in babies is because it was noted that babies near the window of the hospital nursery were less likely to have it.
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No. He should have to live with the shame of what he's done as long as Ari wants his name, and the second she doesn't, pay for the name change. You can't make it law, but I wish it could be.