When I was trying to work up the courage to go to gay sex clubs and saunas, I couldn’t find anything online about trans experiences. So I thought I’d share mine to help other guys who where thinking about it. Feel free to ask me anything. I’m an open book!
About me: I’m a 21 y/o white American guy. I’ve been on HRT for 2+ years and had top surgery with no visible scarring. No bottom surgery. I pass 100% if you can’t see what’s between my legs. When I’m at the clubs/saunas, I disclose that I’m trans before going farther than kissing. All of these visits were in March or April 2022. Using a throwaway account so I can't be doxxed from this.
Sweatbox Soho, London
Atmosphere: 7/10. Sweatbox has three floors for men to use. The ground floor where you enter has a lounge area with seats and a large jacuzzi, the upper floor has a dark steam maze and showers, and the lower floor has padded booths for private fucking, a dark room connected to a room with a swing, and another room with curtains to fuck behind. I liked the variety in the spaces. There’s also a gym you can use but I didn’t visit it. Men walk around looking for people to fuck and using the various spaces to fuck or watching others fuck. Sweatbox is (I believe) the only gay sauna in London without a bar. My biggest issue with the place is that all three floors were really warm, so if you overheat in the sauna or steam maze there’s nowhere to cool off. I also wish the sitting area by the entrance was more comfortable. Additionally, there was more groping at Sweatbox than other clubs I’ve been to, which I don’t really mind but is worth noting. My favorite part is that people under 25 have free admission on Mondays and Thursdays which is really nice!!
Trans friendly: 10/10. I emailed Sweatbox the week before asking if they allowed trans men, and they wrote back a sincere and affirming email about how they welcome trans men and have a zero tolerance policy for transphobia, and that I should report any transphobia to the staff.
Did I fuck?: 9/10. As the youngest at the club by far, I had many men interested in me. Lots asked to fuck or asked to suck my cock (lol). I turned a lot of people away. A bit after I arrived I started making out with a guy in the steam maze and then explained I was trans. He was fine with it but was confused about what to do, so we continued making out and didn’t go further. While we were making out, another guy came up to us and said he loved eating pussy, and ate me out until I came. Then I spent the next 40 minutes scoping out the rest of the scene, and eventually went back to guy #2 to fuck in one of the booths. Given the attention I was getting from all the men, I’m sure I could have had way more sex if I wanted but wasn’t interested in most of them. I want to try going on a Thursday where it’s free for guys under 25 and supposedly there are more young guys.
Conclusion: 8.6/10 Good fun. Especially if you’re young
EDIT: The last time I went to Sweatbox, I heard from a guy I hooked up with that some older men were staring at me and calling me a girl. I never heard it myself and did not interact with them directly. But keep in mind that there will still be transphobia from some patrons!