I think I may have an answer for this. The reason these fujoshi's and pooners fall in love with these men and want to be them is because these men, unlike the men you listed, are nonthreatening. The men I posted in my meme are men who are effeminate but are not threatening like real manly men are. There is a reason why women love gay men, despite the fact that gay men hate them, is because they don't feel threatened by them. These characters also have this aura of cool and wittiness behind them. From my experience with fujoshi's in high school these girls were very often the weird and awkward girls who other girls would make fun of relentlessly. These girls always dreamed of being cool and witty like the heartthrob in their yaoi manga. Unfortunately we live in a time where many men and women can't sperate fantasy from reality and often try to make the fantasy become reality. These people end up learning the hard way that fantasy is just that, fantasy.