Pick-me women / #NotLikeTheOtherGirls General

[Radion_Godiva]

Arf, Arf Arf, Best Thread Eva! Arf Arf.

 

[Yeeted Teet]

Is there a male counterpart to the pickme?

Male feminists

 

[The Skeksis Emperor]

I avoided falling into the trap of pick-me because of the motherfucking SPICE GIRLS. They do not get enough credit for stomping out pick-me behaviour. Yes it was all artificial as hell but it really did unite girls in my age group for a while.
I was a Baby Spice but I really wanted to be Mel C...it was all cool though, as long as you weren't a filthy BOY.

 

[Free the Pedos]

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Tell us again how you’re a shit SAHM with no respect for the position. So many of these trad pick mes are like the quiverfull crowd: all about their stats (how many kids, the ideology you raise them in be it grass fed beef or homeschooling) without caring about the end result of producing well adjusted children. It makes me MATI.

 

[The Feline Solution]

I don't know what it says about me or society that, despite your tag, I've always assumed you were a dude. I even had to doubletake to make sure that was what you wrote.

You truly are just like one of the guys and Not Like Other Girls! Teenage you would be so proud. Congratulations.

This is how i feel about @NoReturn right now. What the fuck, you are all cootie-havers?

I do think it's worth pointing out the NLOG phase is an overreaction to being bullied by other girls and women, especially for GNC behavior. It's not a healthy reaction, but it is what it is.

Nowadays those girls just insist they aren't girls at all.

Never thought i'd "Winner" one of your posts ever, either.

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Very, very classy. Jesus.

Also, @Stan still mad about shitposts in Mass Debates.

 

[Cr1ms0n_&_C10v3r]

I feel like my personal perspective on this is a bit unique because growing up I was much more of a "tomboy" and I had a pretty equal split of male and female friends up until the age of about 16, but overall I still relate to and prefer the company of women more. I admit I can't relate to very feminine hetero women and girls but I get along with them just fine. If there is anything I don't like about women it's that many of them are too nice for their own good, and lack confidence and assertiveness to the point it's frustrating.

From what I've seen irl and online pick me girls are a product of two main factors, either one or both: they have a bad relationship with their mothers or bad experiences with female peers and have struggled to fit in due to general social ineptitude, being surrounded by shitty women which is just circumstance, or other factors like being very nonconforming, and the second cause, craving some kind of existential validation from men they can't get from women.
With the latter, they're simply too naive to understand the kind of people you have to grovel and simp for to win their approval is exactly the kind of person whose approval you don't want. Decent men don't respect pick mes, and shitty men see them as easy targets. They've been mentioned in this thread but just look at Pearl and Wigonhead, both single and childless past 25, one being past 30 having been dumped by a flabby manchild who collected Star Wars toys and put dog collars on her and wasted years of her 20s being in a LDR. That's where being a pick me lands you as a woman dating men. Sad!

 

[AbyssStarer]

I've always thought "not like other girls" was a teenage exaggeration of the way everyone feels like they're not one of the cattle, I think boys experience it to a slightly lesser degree but I always got the feeling they just don't outwardly express it as much. Like, of course the male ego induces a feeling of being unique, while their lack of ability to express themselves or the fact that girls have low standards anyway means they don't say it. A lot of guys probably have pretend for so long it's only a woman thing so they can put women against each other.

The male version involves more Blade Runner, like that guy with the bandage on his nose idfk) and model collecting. If you ever have to hear about Warhammer from a guy, good luck, and you'll probably hear something to the effect of..."I'm not like other guys, my favorite Warhammer 40k faction is _____.”

 

[Lidl Drip]

Also, I think it naturally occurs more on dating apps in particular since the goal is to stand out from the others. I can’t exactly fault people for that when trying to find a husband/boyfriend, but it also isn’t necessary either. There’s no need to put women down to set yourself apart. If you can’t stand out without belittling others, then maybe you aren’t worth dating. That’s my opinion.

Also the kind of man you attract as a pick-me is going to be the most misogynistic loser. Any man who wants a woman who hates all other women is a red flag for an abuser who wants you isolated. Without any girl friends that you can talk to about his behavior and reflect he is free to abuse you as much as he wants.

Thankfully most men don't even like women who are doormats and who beg for their attention. They think they do, sure, but men don't know what they want. Men love to chase a woman and they love having to work for it. If you just give them whatever they want they get bored easily. Basically, men are dogs.

 

[community member]

Honestly I think it's a cope the way many ideologies are copes, like, people are very frightened by the idea that there might not be a higher power who is interested in helping or loving them or that everything we do in this universe might result in absolutely nothing gained for us. I think people really really really want THE OBJECTIVELY CORRECT structure to live life by in their minds and so adhering very strictly to religious doctrines is highly compatible with adhering strictly to conventional gender roles. To be clear, I don't really have anything against women who are happy to be housewives raising children, but it's that need to look down on everybody else for not agreeing to do exactly the same which seems so neurotic and malignant to me in that coping way. Like they are genuinely afraid any deviation will result in degenerate wickedness and hellfire

I kinda wanted to add to this to mention that I actually do see an argument for families being more important than childless households too. So that's not really what I mean by "looking down on" other people. There are good reasons to prioritize families in society. Anyway there are way more considerations in this whole issue than are properly addressed by neurotic parents shoving their daughters into dresses lol

 

[KittyGremlin]

What baffles me the most about pick-mes is that all they ever needed to do was to have an interesting hobby they are genuinely into. Literally anything, doesn't even have to be a manly hobby to "fit in with the boys". Just have something interesting to talk about and they would have a lot less problems with both male attention and socializing in general. Anything that isn't some dumb TikTok fad or empty gossip about other people. Which is funny because this is normally advice men receive.

 

[EpicGamerMoment]

Why are you niggas seething so much at girls who have nerdy interests or don’t want to wageslave lmao

The only genuinely cringe and awful pick me seems to pearlythingz. Actually most female right wing grifters are.

 

[unexpected onions]

Why are you niggas seething so much at girls who have nerdy interests or don’t want to wageslave lmao

The only genuinely cringe and awful pick me seems to pearlythingz. Actually most female right wing grifters are.

It's not just about having nerdy interests. Thinking that those interests make you somehow special and better than other girls and making them your whole personality is the problem.

 

[JambledUpWords]

Useful chart

 

[Geddy Lee's Fee and See]

I avoided falling into the trap of pick-me because of the motherfucking SPICE GIRLS. They do not get enough credit for stomping out pick-me behaviour. Yes it was all artificial as hell but it really did unite girls in my age group for a while.
I was a Baby Spice but I really wanted to be Mel C...it was all cool though, as long as you weren't a filthy BOY.

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The Spice Girls were pretty based ngl.

 

[umami's milk]

don’t want to wageslave lmao

Girls that 'don't want to wageslave work a job' are either insanely or already have their lifestyle financed by insanely rich husbands, fathers, boyfriends, etc. Look at every big tradwife / coquette grifter, it's all multi-acre farmland and thousands of dollars in kitchen appliances. That's just not feasible for a lot of people.

For 99% of people now you need at least a two-person income to comfortably sustain a family of 2+ people.

 

[Stan]

Why are you niggas seething so much at girls who have nerdy interests or don’t want to wageslave lmao

We're seething about women who objectify themselves and other women to personally get ahead in a male-dominated society.

Nerdy or not, working or not: pickmes come in pretty much every race, creed, and political ideology. The defining feature is their willingness to pay into sexism in the hopes that it'll pay out later (in terms of employment, relationships, marriage, social status etc.)

Also, @Stan still mad about shitposts in Mass Debates.

I'm more concerned by how retarded you all are, and mildly bemused that you think calling me "Miss Piggy" and showing me a picture of my own face is going to accomplish anything except me putting you on ignore.

 

[OrionBalls]

We're seething about women who objectify themselves and other women to personally get ahead in a male-dominated society.

Nerdy or not, working or not: pickmes come in pretty much every race, creed, and political ideology. The defining feature is their willingness to pay into sexism in the hopes that it'll pay out later (in terms of employment, relationships, marriage, social status etc.)

It's not objectification if I can run circles around you. Keep up, or get the fuck out of the way, mate.

 

[Stan]

It's not objectification if I can run circles around you. Keep up, or get the fuck out of the way, mate.

You've been trained into this competitive attitude by men who denigrated your sense of self. I'm sorry that you define yourself solely by what moids think of you.

 

[umami's milk]

You've been trained into this competitive attitude by men who denigrated your sense of self.

Well that's a little infantilizing. Is it not simply that some women actively choose to be bitches?

 

[OrionBalls]

You've been trained into this competitive attitude by men who denigrated your sense of self. I'm sorry that you define yourself solely by what moids think of you.

Fuck off, with that shit.

Well that's a little infantilizing. Is it not simply that some women actively choose to be bitches?

I am, indeed, a bitch.

Culinary is still very much a man's world. The only way to get ahead is to be stronger, faster, and more precise than the competition.