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- Aug 2, 2021
You're trying to get ahead in a man's world by showing them how you're so much better at acting like a man than other women are.Fuck off, with that shit.
I am, indeed, a bitch.
Culinary is still very much a man's world. The only way to get ahead is to be stronger, faster, and more precise than the competition.
You're the "tough girl" pickme: you act as macho as possible, denigrate "feminine" traits like being pleasant/kind/sensitive, and you have the resultant emotional logjam to show for it. You don't want the men who employ you to think you're weak behind the line, so you keep your emotions to yourself and see every other girl in the kitchen as a threat. That's why you're being so hostile to me right now.
Thing is, I'm not in meaningful competition with you in anyway. I'm not gunning for your job, I'm not trying to steal your boyfriend, I'm not trying to ice you out from your friends. Apart from this single interaction we're having, I got nothing to do with you.
And at the end of the day, your male coworkers will still see you as a woman and inherently lesser than them, no matter how fast and thin you can slice the potatoes. You're never going to beat misogyny by leaning into it like this.