Are you lost needing femoid advice post here - For the poor bastard's who dare or are just curious

[ShiftyBoi]

I just use a Lamy Safari F with a converter and whatever ink the bookstore has in stock...

I have found cartridge fountain pens never give as good line quality as classic dip pens or brush pens. The problem is that dip pens are a hassle to use and you can't take them anywhere unless you want to risk being murdered for spilling india ink on something.

This thread has made me realize how terrible I am at socializing. I think my only real pull is that I can draw really well, it's the only "in" I can think of. I express with pictures not words. It's good for romance but what comes inbetween "hello, it's nice to meet you" and "can I draw you while we listen to slow 80s music" will forever remain a mystery to me. I think it's better to do this and be myself than try and chameleon into someone else's tastes.

 

[Olive D. Cox]

Weird question. What do you women think of the the Linebacker physic? I've heard a lot of women in this thread dislike fat men, but is fat with muscle a no go as well?

This is my favorite. I like em strong and thicc. Like those strong men competitions where they're built like fuckin barrels? Noice.

Maybe it's because they're like exotic birds to me since the men in my culture don't generally have that body type? Maybe because I love to cook and they *clearly* love food? Idk what the draw is--but if you look like you can eat a seven course meal and then go huck a giant log across a field effortlessly -- you're fuckin gold.

 

[Susanna]

I have found cartridge fountain pens never give as good line quality as classic dip pens or brush pens. The problem is that dip pens are a hassle to use and you can't take them anywhere unless you want to risk being murdered for spilling india ink on something.

This thread has made me realize how terrible I am at socializing. I think my only real pull is that I can draw really well, it's the only "in" I can think of. I express with pictures not words. It's good for romance but what comes inbetween "hello, it's nice to meet you" and "can I draw you while we listen to slow 80s music" will forever remain a mystery to me. I think it's better to do this and be myself than try and chameleon into someone else's tastes.

To be honest I care less about line quality than I do about looking hip. Fountain pens were en vogue for a while. They are genuinely comfy for writing though, so I never switched back to ballpoint after the fad wore out. I only write cursive so it fits that really well, I get cramp before long with a ballpoint but the fountain pen I can use all day. I'd never consider using a dip or brush pen, I'd have to carry ink around everywhere. Cartridge means no ink issues, it's just a matter of not dipping the nib too deep while filling the cartridge, and not touching whatever it is you've written for a minute after finishing. Just fill it up whenever you notice it's running low and you'll be fine for a while.

 

[Sienna Fuegonasus]

How to get into skincare? Im mid twenties so i figure theres still something to be saved in my case but without family or rl womenfriends its kinda hard to get into cus if i ask my friends im just called a faggit and im pretty sure most of them just wing it anyway.

Yea if you were lucky enough to find your passion early in life i gues its hard to wrap your head around how some people struggle with finding hobbies but sadly that not the case for everyone. I dont even mean being retarded or frying your brain with drugs but just being unable to get significant enjoyment out of things or worse being told that "average" exitement for things isnt good enough. Hell being poor alone is quite a limiting factor in being able to try things out.

Skincare - do it! Start basic, cleanser, moisturiser, sunscreen (every day!). CeraVe is a good place to start and pretty affordable, the hydrating cleanser and moisturising lotion are a good baseline. If you want to get a bit crazy chuck an exfoliating toner in the mix (I like this one).

Damn. I was hoping ladies preferred body because I can't really do much about my face. Oh well.

The prawns are alright, mate.

Oh, no. He does none of that. He believes that it is unreasonable and offensive for other people to request that he not cause them to look around to see who just shit themselves. He finds it completely unreasonable that I will not play tonsil hockey with someone who everyone turns their face away from when he speaks. It is that bad.

He has complete agency over his body, it’s his choice. I gave up trying even in the most gentle and tactful of ways about fifteen years ago. He is now losing several teeth a year.

So, bros. Toothpaste. Mouthwash. Floss. Mints. Dental care. Just do it. Even if you never want to get laid in your life, please just do it for everyone you work with.

This is gross, how are you still with this person? Waterboard him with Listerine.

Imagine not leaving the house for weeks at a time except to buy food over the course of a few years. You'll very quickly stop caring after forgetting to brush after a few weeks because why bother when the plan for the comming days is just to continue being a shut in. Teethbrushing can wait until its time to stock up on food and the deliveryservice guys that might have to endure the stench dont matter because you can just order somewhere else and this is just what comes to mind off the top of my head.
Also dont blame it on the parents, as far as i can tell boys arrent just not told that bad breath is sozial suicide(at least in my friendcircle) but feel free to blame shutins.


aka the local soccer club

Manchild moment but you should have gotten some blokes to beat him up every day he continued to encourage his mouthrott so its somewhat your fault too for tolerating it. Still dont think you deserve that but whats done is done

I think one has to be heavily autistic to be literally friendless since i cant imagine anyone failing to get some dude gamer friends from whatever game one dumps their time into. I gues you could also just do literally nothing as a shutin but thats a depression problem then.

Being freshly showered and having flossed, brushed, rinsed feels so good. Not showering or brushing your teeth is autistic at best and just degenerate gross moid behaviour at worst.

Weird question. What do you women think of the the Linebacker physic? I've heard a lot of women in this thread dislike fat men, but is fat with muscle a no go as well?

Best body is functional strength body. If you can lift heavy things and do prolonged manual labour without getting wrecked then that's basically 10/10, even if you've got a bit of extra chub.

 

[Foxymophandlemama]

How to get into skincare? Im mid twenties so i figure theres still something to be saved in my case but without family or rl womenfriends its kinda hard to get into cus if i ask my friends im just called a faggit and im pretty sure most of them just wing it anyway.

Facial soap, moisturizing and using sunscreen are the first and most basic steps for it. There are plenty of products that don't have fragrance and are affordable — can't name some because I don't live in NA — but for me the sunscreen is the most important because melasma, cancer, etc.
You do it in the mornings and at night, once you see that you can stick to this routine, I recommend to see a dermatologist so they can check your skin and suggest what is better for you, as there are so many different products in the market with different functions that sometimes you don't even know how to start.

 

[Fareal]

Re the chub debate: all I would say is that if you are packing a few extra pounds yourself, you should be gracious about a few extra on your other half. Not like 300 extra, that is quite the health and psychological issue. You know exactly what I mean.

None of this “I’ll eat steak with bearnaise because I’m a moid but I expect you to subsist on lettuce and coffee“ bullshit. I don’t care what the MRA forum fantasists say: that dog won’t hunt IRL. No one actually wants to waste their life on someone who is judging every time they look twice at the dessert menu.

Frankly a dollop of understanding and grace about each others imperfections will go a long way, especially if either of you want to unwind your anxieties long enough to actually have sex. Grace, and dim lighting. Our species tends to reproduce in the dark.

Bread guy, I still can’t get over how you think women would not want to do bread with you. You know a shitload of us bake and are vaguely spergy about it? Like, “let’s discuss sourdough all weekend” is like, The Business? I mean, between the bread sperg, the pen sperg and the mycology sperg, you and I would already be bros IRL. I feel like you could really improve my focaccia.

I don’t write anywhere near as much as I used when I worked, so I make do with a somewhat aged Parker Sonnet, but I have my eye on a Sailor model I fancy. I struggle with the scratchy noise of proper cheapies, which is sad, because I am naturally inclined to be cheap.

I have too much Ferris Wheel Press ink because it comes in pretty glittery colours in pretty bottles and fundamentally, I gotta be me. I’m only writing for myself now, so I may as well do it in violet if I like. It’s been many years since I took a hand lettering course and I’m getting not-good at it again; I need to do a refresher. All of my skills are in this “completely useless” category of talents. If there’s a good online one on the go, I’m looking for recommendations. The YouTubers aren’t as helpful as they might be.

 

[Foxymophandlemama]

I think it's better to do this and be myself than try and chameleon into someone else's tastes.

100%. It's so easier for me to get a conversation started when I have something in common with the person.
Where I live there are small cafes/book shops/museums that will do "architecture drawing and wine evening" type of events. Most of them are quiet compared to bars or night clubs, but you still can find people with the same interests as you and, even better, who have different ones that can add to a conversation and expand your worldview. I find those quite lovely, even though I'm not an artist, but watching from outside.
And you don't want someone to stay with you for who you actually aren't. Try to make up a whole new person for others, instead of bettering yourself but not losing yourself, is really detrimental in the long run. As long you aren't a fucking asshole and treat others with respect — when they respect you — you can make a friend or two, even if your interests might be weird.

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So here's the question. Where is the line between "an interesting hobby" and "an unsettling fixation" for you? How do I sell the fact I think ants and mushrooms are cool as shit, that I have strong preferences for inks and calligraphy, or that if we're making bread I'm going to be about twice as interested in bread than you.

Basically is how you talk about your interests. Can you explain them well, in an entertaining way? Do you only speak about that kind of stuff and nothing else? Do you give space for the other person to engage, make questions but also talk about their interests? Are you interested in get to knowing the other person and their hobbies?
Deep down, it's not only about the interests of that person but their personality. My late grandpa could talk about buses and I would listen intently because he made it fun, and I don't care about buses. You are the bread guy, and aside from technical stuff like fermentation, do you have other things related to bread to talk about? Personally, I would love to know the origin of a recipe, what would harmonize with it, the first time you made it. You don't have to be technical or teach, but just talk about and make it fun. The other person might not want to make breads in the future but will appreciate you and your skills.

 

[CoolFool]

Weird question. What do you women think of the the Linebacker physic? I've heard a lot of women in this thread dislike fat men, but is fat with muscle a no go as well?

No go for me. I guess it's better than like, a skinny-fat guy, but still, I don't like fat guys.

Besides, every single guy I've seen with this body type ages poorly. They might be strong while young, but eventually all they're left with is the fat as they age. No thanks.

 

[Autistic Mushroom]

My brother in Josh, you need to actually talk to women, I don’t even mean ones you fancy. I mean like any women. Chatter. Mindless conversation. Remind yourself women are also people.

I think I gave up after a while, I didn't think a woman would ever really care. Not saying that I think women are that different, but with my male friends and women I'm not into we don't have to relate that deeply. Someone you might end up in a relationship with is a much more strict test of interpersonal compatibility.
You'll have to excuse me for coming across as retarded in this regard, I do treat women like people and talk to them. The things you mentioned are like a whole new world to me, though. Going to a planetarium? I never once considered that for a date. It still feels wrong, dragging a woman around to places for shit you care about. I feel like she would hate it, she'd go along with it and regret it. The same thing goes for everything else, I assumed that it'd all just be boring and pointless to her. I guess I have the wrong perspective on how this stuff works.
The picnic idea is so funny to me because I hate cheesy stuff like that so much, but it would also make me so happy to just have someone who wanted to sit and talk casually with me like that. I would be so embarrassed suggesting something like that.

As they say, you have to kiss a lot of frogs... Not necessarily literally (not literal frogs, obvs, but I mean even literal kissing, though could be). Point: expect bad or mediocre experiences as part of the process and don't let it get to you.

I appreciate the sentiment, and I'd certainly like to have it in me to keep trying. I'm not actually autistic even if I'm lost about women enough to seem that way, you don't have to explain non-literal speech to me. If anything I think I'm learning I have the opposite problem. I've known a few autistic guys and they certainly have a tendency to ramble on to women they like about whatever has their fixation at the moment. I think maybe I have an issue opening up to people, or an unhealthy distrust of others.

My brother in Christ, you sound like a cool guy. I don't know what you think's wrong lol?

I'm very sorry for my apparent stupidity but I truly and honestly thought that my interests were repulsive as a partner. I thought those would all be somewhere between boring or lame. Except for the guitar part which I thought would be considered cool at first, followed by disappointment when they find out my music taste is a lot heavier than they liked. When I think of interests a woman wants a man to have my mind can't pin anything down for sure but I imagine maybe movies and cats? That's two things women often ask me about. Probably things like cooking too? I do like cats though, and I don't know much about cooking but I try to learn here and there.

I'm honestly at a total loss for what to even do with this information. I don't know how to flirt and I suck at small talk, every gf I ever had came from just randomly hitting it off with zero effort. I guess I can just keep pursuing my hobbies until I meet a woman I click with. I picked up a nasty cold after thanksgiving and I am totally dazed, sitting here trying to process the reality of this emotional isolation I've been accepting for years.

 

[Fields Of Rye]

I just use a Lamy Safari F with a converter and whatever ink the bookstore has in stock...

Well if it works it works right? There’s nothing worse in life than becoming a snob in something that can’t be done cheaply.

As a wise man once said, Better to love the cheddar than rue the Harvati when your only nearby store isn’t a fancy fucking Whole Foods full of European gas station cheese

 

[anliteralidiot]

When I think of interests a woman wants a man to have my mind can't pin anything down for sure but I imagine maybe movies and cats?

So, personally speaking, it helps to have at least one in common with a guy. I never wanted my husband to have any specific interests, just one that we share, and since we both met when we were in our teens, and we're internet weirdos, we like sonic the hedgehog. We talk about Sonic music, sometimes the games, and we're going to the Sonic Symphony in a few weeks, since it's touring. It's not a deep interest, or something really valuable, or one you'd think women would want, but here we are!

My husband is a science guy, and I'm a music gal. We both have respect for each other's interests, and have enough information to understand what we're saying. When he gets into the specifics of some function in crabs, it's not boring for me, because I can tell he's really into it. Sure, some of it is just flying over my head, because I don't know some specific terms, but it's still nice to hear him share his interests.

Likewise, when I'm raving because I've figured out the chord progression in a piece I've been arranging, he's at least respectfully listening.

That's two things women often ask me about. Probably things like cooking too? I do like cats though, and I don't know much about cooking but I try to learn here and there.

They're probably just trying to get a baseline of what you're like. Movies are an easy thing to ask about, and they're sort of an indicator or if you like going out, or maybe want a date. Cats might just be to ask if you have pets, but I've met a lot of guys who didn't like cats, so who knows.

I know it's cliche, but being yourself, and letting go of some worries about being good enough really helps.

 

[NOT Satoshi Nakamoto]

How hard do I need to hit my femoid to make her stop talking about her boring, stupid day?

 

[No Batty Boys in Jamaica]

I will never understand people who have no interests or hobbies.

Poverty will do that to people. No free time = no interests or hobbies.

This includes being time poor. If you’re working 60 hours a week to make ends meet, you probably don’t have interests or hobbies.

Also, OP, you clearly have time to browse KiwiFarms. Maybe you should update your Bumble and Hinge profiles to let the ladies know that you like laughing at retards on the internet. Or just walk up to a boyfriend free girl at the club or bar and ask her, straight up, if she knows about Chris Chan. If she says yes, ask if she is down to watch GenoSamuel and Chill. If she says no, move on to the next one.

Putting your interests on a sign is also an option, but women prefer when the man takes the initiative.

 

[BeetleBug242]

This is sad, nigga all you have to do is make her laugh

 

[Grub]

Poverty will do that to people. No free time = no interests or hobbies.

This includes being time poor. If you’re working 60 hours a week to make ends meet, you probably don’t have interests or hobbies.

Being poor's never stopped me from having interests and hobbies.

 

[AWizard]

We talk about Sonic music, sometimes the games, and we're going to the Sonic Symphony in a few weeks, since it's touring.

Absolute kek. I've been to a couple of those post-covid spate of manchild OST concerts that have appeared recently. It's an odd experience when going as a 30+ year old dude.

 

[Shidoen]

@Fareal fuck your sourdough bread. It’s wheat and whole-grain all the way.

 

[Autistic Mushroom]

So, personally speaking, it helps to have at least one in common with a guy. I never wanted my husband to have any specific interests, just one that we share, and since we both met when we were in our teens, and we're internet weirdos, we like sonic the hedgehog. We talk about Sonic music, sometimes the games, and we're going to the Sonic Symphony in a few weeks, since it's touring. It's not a deep interest, or something really valuable, or one you'd think women would want, but here we are!

I don't think you can even blame me for this one, I'm very surprised to hear that. I think I'll still be holding off on talking about video games unless she really seems interested, though.

Likewise, when I'm raving because I've figured out the chord progression in a piece I've been arranging, he's at least respectfully listening.

I know it's cliche, but being yourself, and letting go of some worries about being good enough really helps.

Thanks. I feel extremely stupid in hindsight, and I'm glad I got some advice. I don't think my issues were with women, I think I just have this irrational fear of opening up to people.

 

[HyperboreanRightsActivist]

I love women but femoids give awful advice

 

[Justa Grata Honoria]

"The bread guy"

Nigga you should quit dating all together , men like you used to be dropped of the monastery and became monks to do autistic shit together with other autists . Now I wish i knew some order Of the AUTISTS existing so i can redirect you there but alas it all has been demolished in the last century, social clubs, monasteries that you put in your autistic child in, etc .

i gotta say i find mushrooms interesting as a crop that you can grow on tree since i like food but nothing more than that .

. Femoids will go many months, indeed years with no bf and in fact have a pretty happy life.

my mom had nonexistent social life til the divorce many women go reverse the stop going out once the kids come out and the husband attaches .