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Least histrionic and irrational hole
literally shaking right now
An idea is an idea, and frankly, right now it's probably the healthier thing for me anyway. I'm still not uh...mended, shall we say over my last relationship. Rebuilding a friend network should be step one. Not trying to get back into a relationship.Maybe you should treat dating a bit more like networking. Go out and do the things you like, get to know other guys, and let them play matchmaker for you. I don't know if that's a good idea or a bad idea, but it's a new idea.
I should say I've pretty much always seen marriage as a religious thing and form of commitment. We could go on and on about government involvement but, my mindset is more aligned than not with your sentiment.I strongly recommend you do not get married.
I do not mean disregard monogamy or commitment to one woman. Rather, I think it's incredibly foolish to get the government involved in your relationship.
Ex showed me that exact same video. It's all fine and dandy, but I don't know how me saying "wow, that sucks" sounds genuine or is enjoyable to you. Plus listening to someone bad-mouth a guy at work for doing his job while you're not is maddening.They don't want solutions, they just need to feel their way through it.
Remember that women are far more driven by emotion, emoting about the problem to someone is part of how they work through it. It's annoying to us, because logic/solution based men just want to fix things. Thing is, to her, listening is helping her fix it. It is a pain, but this is one of those Manglish/Womanese things.Ex showed me that exact same video. It's all fine and dandy, but I don't know how me saying "wow, that sucks" sounds genuine or is enjoyable to you. Plus listening to someone bad-mouth a guy at work for doing his job while you're not is maddening.
This reverts back to the forever child / teenager talk. Nodding along and affirming your "feels", not genuinely mind you, is just a maddening thoughts to me. But boys will be boys I suppose.
Yeah, the trick is how to sound genuine...I guess? I got pretty good at it but holy fuck it's hard to agree when it's clear she was being the dolt of the situation. Much easier when your reactions are at least honest "Yeah, Becky does sound like a bitch." I suppose my hang-up is lying / not being genuine more-so than the not helping thing.Remember that women are far more driven by emotion, emoting about the problem to someone is part of how they work through it. It's annoying to us, because logic/solution based men just want to fix things. Thing is, to her, listening is helping her fix it. It is a pain, but this is one of those Manglish/Womanese things.
I recommend Dr. Manuel Smith's When I Say No, I Feel Guilty. Specifically the parts about responding assertively and Fogging, as he calls it. Respond in a way that doesn't agree or disagree, but suggests that she may be correct without invalidating her feelings. It's up there with No More Mr. Nice Guy as books all modern men should read.Yeah, the trick is how to sound genuine...I guess? I got pretty good at it but holy fuck it's hard to agree when it's clear she was being the dolt of the situation. Much easier when your reactions are at least honest "Yeah, Becky does sound like a bitch." I suppose my hang-up is lying / not being genuine more-so than the not helping thing.
I'll give it a read, thanks.Dr. Manuel Smith's When I Say No, I Feel Guilty.
The problem is how wrapped up they are in politics and how much THEY refuse to date men they disagree with. In my experience women start all the fights about politics, not men.
I too thought she was a man but the insistance on sticking to the bit way after it became stale and the over-the-top retarded language convinced me that this is a woman
I always thought what they meant by that was self proclaimed ones. The physically and financially attractive, for both sexes, will always be prime pieces of meat.How many times have you heard women online say "alpha male" dudes are pricks and anyone claiming to be one is a loser? Many times. I've told chicks I've dated, as a joke, thinking they were in on it, that I was an "alpha male." The response was always, "ooooh, I like that." Now I personally think that shit is bullshit, but it really helped open my eyes.
Neurotypical woman: stupid bitch
It's rough when you feel the clock ticking and when it seems like such a simple yet desperate need. But being a religious guy yourself, I'm sure you can relate to the idea that everything will happen in good time. Do what you can to focus on yourself and better yourself until then. Not in a way to attract a partner, but in ways that make you feel complete and others will take notice.An idea is an idea, and frankly, right now it's probably the healthier thing for me anyway. I'm still not uh...mended, shall we say over my last relationship. Rebuilding a friend network should be step one. Not trying to get back into a relationship.
I always thought what they meant by that was self proclaimed ones. Physically and financially attractive, for both sexes, will always be prime pieces of meat.