Sorry to self-quote, but a thought occurred, and I didn't want to add on so late to an earlier post.
Based on what Nick has said about his early life, I believe it to be a change over the last several years.
He can bang the drum all he wants about how he hasn't changed,
Balldoman's claim will go back to his defense on Chrissie Mayr's pod after bottlegate - I've always liked porn! I've never been repressed. This is who I am.
We know per Balldoman's own (unreliable) words that he was a weirdo loser in high school, sad enough to write up a kill list, which he got in some amount of trouble for. My guess is he was what today we would call, an incel. He was probably too lazy to try to get a girlfriend, and a coward to boot.
He went on to "show up and pass" college and "played" "gay" to eventually land his future wife. He claims he or they were both each other's first, although the wording on this has been inconsistent on Kayla's side. We know he somehow "gay" "caught" her on the rebound after a long relationship.
That virtue (or at least patience) aside, we know Nick was also watching porn by at least middle school, if not earlier, thanks to his parents' lax control of the cable. Per that Chrissie podcast, we know he was watching a lot of porn up through at least 2010, well into his marriage, because he has named several early 2000s internet porn stars, and still remembers their names to this day.
So yes, I do believe Balldoman was and is a coomer.
Probably to the detriment of his life and then marriage. This is his cope, how he justifies it. "I've always been this way." Well, we accept the cooming as fact.
The change we see, is the smooth-and-wet brain shit on display these days: the oversharing, the crass disregard for others, the deteriorating mental and physical conditions, the missed social cues... this all appears to be "new". As in, within the last 2 years or so.
But somehow this barely functioning human is on a mission to liberate the prudes. It is a laugh.
How can he hope to "save" others, when he cannot even save himself.