why are you still single - and general discussion of the dating game

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Oh so many single ladies these days literally want a romance novel romance IRL..... Like literally lifelong love at first sight or at least first meeting
One of the women at work was showing me her tinder account. Bear in mind this is a single mother, too.
She had multiple thousands of people sending her likes. These were generally speaking average to above average guys too, men who seemed to have things at least mostly in order, many of them looked to be highly successful. When there are so many to choose from what woman would not gain an overinflated ego? What woman wouldn't gain a sense of entitlement?
Oh what's that you don't make six figures? Well I've got a dozen high rollers all lined up yearning to kiss my feet so why would I pay you any attention?
 
Not wanting to date women. Being alone brings a lot more solace. I like walking my dog, spending time with my friends and family. I see no need to go out and see the filth around me. I live in a liberal area full of unfuckable snizz.
 
The dating app burnout has set in again. I'm in a weird death spiral lately, where I think I want to meet new people, but then I meet them and immediately start craving the freedom of being single.
Maybe find someone who you can enjoy activities with instead of feeling like dating and being in a relationship is a separate activity all in itself.
 
Maybe find someone who you can enjoy activities with instead of feeling like dating and being in a relationship is a separate activity all in itself.
It's so weird how advice like this isn't just second nature to most everyone. Why date someone who is so different from you, you can't hang out with them? I get you can't marry yourself, but you won't have a real relationship with someone that you can't share parts of your life with, including your hobbies, interests and especially values and most intimate feelings and moments. I barely talk to people that are too dissimilar to me unless it is in a professional context and I'm being paid for it. I wouldn't date let alone marry a woman who I can't relate to in any way nor is there a possibility of relating to her.

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i have two jobs and a house that is under renovation, i dont want to start a relationship until my house looks like a construction site and i am not preoccupied with work
 
Modern women are genuinely horrible. The whole purpose for dating is to get future divorced married, and have kids, but with how absolutely fucking irresponsible these broads are, I don't think that's a very good idea. I hope it's better in other places, because I don't really have a dating pool outside of my hometown.

Setting the female element aside, what's actually in it for me? Real question. I have money in the bank. My credit score is retarded good for my age. I could take on the very real risk of losing half of my shit in a divorce, or I COULD be happily married, but I'll be raising my children in an era of actual zombie ipad babies, with seemingly no end in sight for the prevalence of The Digital Parent. A cheap tablet with Chinese apps, doing the job that belongs to two full time employees, and badly. Gen Alpha scares the living SHIT out of me, dude. There are entire classes full of kids, even whites and asians, that are failing. A huge amount of early Gen A can't even read, and the oldest ones are 13 now. I want to see things radically improve in society before I have kids, because if it doesn't, I'll just be bringing cannon fodder into this world. Things can't be as hopeless as the future looks right now for the next generation, it's just setting them up to die. Having kids will be my reward for living to see a better future, and if it happens, it happens.
 
I get along well enough with people and have friendly relations with members of both sexes as long as they aren't' sucked into the fake as hell politics clout game shit, and I'm kinda fine with that.

Never ran into someone i had those romantic kinda feelings for since a good while back in the day, and even back then the ones that actually approached me in ways other than just friendship were kinda crazy, not in a good way and not in an actually incoherent/malicious crazy way, but the "beat you up and talk shit about you one moment and months later you found out because they were into you" type shit. Kinda wonder where they are now, probably better off than me lmao. Financial/living situations in general ain't exactly marriage material right now either. People in on identity terms game shit when they aren't the ones just immediately demonizing me tend to assume I'm "aromantic" and "asexual" by my behavior but they just don't realize I'm just a normal ass guy who never found anyone. Kinda fucks me up a little sometimes thinking about how stagnant shits been the last decade. 2014 doesn't feel like 10 years ago, we're still dealing with the same old fucking shit with a different flavor.
 
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I genuinely enjoy my alone time and not feeling beholden to anyone. Should the opportunity for a long-term relationship present itself I would be open to seeing where it may lead. Problem being however is that I’m a gay man who values monogamy and a relatively quiet lifestyle and isn’t interested in a fuck buddy or a poly relationship or whatever other degeneracy the vast majority of the lgbt community values which makes me an outlier.
 
I’ll give a little update and say I got really close in the past couple months but it made me realize how nerve wracking it can be, hopefully I can be more content with what I have going on for now, and I proved to myself that I can do it. Doesn’t really change my perspective on a lot of other shit regarding relationships because I think it was mostly luck.
 
Women are fucking expensive.

I will elaborate. Despite being heavyset, I lived an active lifestyle in my younger years, so my body has kind of settled into an eternal "offensive lineman" physique where despite being 80 pounds overweight, I still look like a physical threat. This is only to say that I've let myself go but I know I still look decently physically attractive and can still protect a woman on a date if I ever need to start swinging.

The problem is that I don't like taking women out on cheap dates because I inherently feel that if I am going to spend time with someone, naturally, it's going to come at some sort of financial cost. Even if I decide to just host at my place, cooking a dinner worth of shit still at least means two steaks, two separate entrees, sides for two, and drinks for two, all for an evening where we "don't spend money". At that point, it's not a bad idea to just go to Chili's or something similar and get her something while we watch sportsball and chat.

The fact of the matter is that's just with regard to eating. There's also the necessary giftgiving, because the line between being frugal and being a cheapskate is blurred to women. On one hand, I do feel bad not getting her something for Valentine's Day or something festive for Saint Paddy's Day, or 4th of July. On the other hand, do I really need to be spending money on Valentine's Day, Saint Paddy's Day, or 4th of July?

Caring for women is expensive and if I can't really be affording to treat her how I feel she should be treated, I can wait.
 
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  • I don't feel I bring anything to the table right now, so I can't expect someone else to.
  • Women my age are insane.
  • Women younger than me are fucking retarded.

Seems like every guy I meet or fall in love with ends up being a pedo. I hate having cabbage patch syndrome meaning looking way younger than I am.
Combining these two sounds like bait, lol.
 
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