Are you lost needing femoid advice post here - For the poor bastard's who dare or are just curious

[Andoxico]

My hairdresser fucked up and now I have this cut (I was going in for a wolf cut).
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What do? Buy a wig? I have been wearing a hat outside since getting this goddamn cut

Just have fun roleplaying as a Karen for the next few months until it grows out

 

[NoReturn]

I'd like to know if some women can give their thoughts on a few questions and observations:

• Is fujo stuff generally representative of female sexuality, or is that some sort of an aberration? if so, what are the main differences?

It's "weird". It's the same type of person who would, in boys, be the weird kid who brings his dakimakura to school. Fujos like it because "two boys are better than one boy" and because they have hangups about normal interactions between men and women (and sometimes for good reason) so they retreat into slashfics and yaoi and shit because it's "safer" than real human interactions.

• I think that a lot of guys mistakenly assume that women are basically gay men in women's bodies, and get disappointed when that turns out not to be the case. I think that this is caused by the fact that most porn that they consume is drawn and written by other men, who necessarily self-insert into the woman characters. This is probably a big reason why tranny porn (no bottom surgery) is exploding in popularity. Would you agree, and have you ran into this or similar problems? Basically: have you run into the roadblock of men being gay.

I do agree with this, and I think it's indicative of a larger issue where men can't see women as women without seeing them as "inferior men" or getting mad at them for not acting like men.
As an example, a lot of men will often say things like "Why can't women say what they mean?" and women will say "Because we have to be indirect or we face harsh and sometimes dangerous consequences from both men and women." and then that guy will go "Well I would never hurt you! Women are all sneaky bitches!"
But even that accusation of being "sneaky" happens because you're expecting a woman to act like a man, to have been raised like a man, and to live up to the standards that have been expected of you as a man.

• Moving on from the gay porn questions: how does female friendship work? Men, for example, are usually friends based off of compatible talents and sense of purpose towards which they collaborate (whether that be an intellectual, creative, or other pursuit). What do women do together?

How long you get along socially. I can be friends with women with whom I have very little in common so long as we can communicate effectively. Look at the Farms as a perfect example, a lot of the women here have no hobbies in common with me, but we bond over the shared culture of the site. I say "shared culture" by the way, because it's not even about the cows themselves. There are several threads here about people I never knew about before I found them here, but those threads attract the type of posters who I find funny or insightful.

• Would you agree that it's true that men are more world-oriented, whereas women are more person-oriented?

By "world-oriented", I mean that I get the impression that men's interests are generally about topics that are not inherently social: philosophy, engineering, economics, aesthetics (in an abstract sense), the honing of a craft, etc. Sports could be thought of as social, but that's more of the collaborative emergent effort towards producing the "perfect game" of whatever sport it is.

In contrast, it seems like womens' interests are generally more inherently person-based or inherently socially based. I don't mean exclusively, but that seems to be more of the focus. You're less likely to see a woman out in a shack working on some obscure development in occult metallurgy or whatever only to emerge three weeks later with a manifesto that he can share to the other three men on the planet who know what the hell he's talking about.

They aren't really inherent so much as social. You gotta keep in mind things like how women only had their own bank accounts in the US after the 1970s, so there's not really a long history of being able to spend "the family" money on your hobbies. If you want a better idea of how women interact with world-oriented hobbies when they do have access to those sort of resources, look into the knitting and sewing world and the writing/fanfiction community.

• What is it like when you're not in Estrus, when the tides are low or however that works?

Humans don't have an estrus cycle.
That said, you can conceptualize of women as a few separate "genders"/morphs (not in the LGBTQ sense, but in the side-blotched lizard sense).
To wit, the natural human female morphs are:

• Post-pubescent women
• Menopausal women

And the modern new ones are:

• Hormonal birth control post-pubescent women
• Hormone replacement therapy menopausal women

Each one of these categories has their own differences in hormones that make them distinct from one another, and affects things like their sex drive, energy levels, metabolism, and even the type of men to which they are attracted.

So to bring it back to your actual question, and assuming we're talking about a post-pubescent woman who is not on any form of hormonal birth control, her sex drive will be dependent on which phase of her cycle she's in. Here's what it looks like (roughly) normally:

It's not visible in this stylized chart, but testosterone also spikes in the middle where you see those bumps in FSH and LH.

I can't seem to find a chart for it, but if you're on hormonal birth control, your estradiol level is "stuck" about where you see it on this chart for day 7 (20-30 pg/ml) but still higher than menopausal women who are NOT on HRT (<15pg/ml).

 

[Big Miss Steak]

I thought the point was not just to say "sufficiently large companies in situations where it can be litigated, cannot shit on minorities anymore" but rather to change society and the views of the people that make it up.

If you're saying "that would be great but it ain't happening like you or I would like it; people are really stubborn" I would almost entirely agree. I would then point out views have changed. Maybe over a longer scale, maybe by young people with different views aging up in adulthood, maybe a lot of things I can't articulate, but there is change.

Obviously, on an individual basis, the best solution to the shithead problem is to remove the shithead or yourself from the situation. I cannot argue with that. I have cut more fat out of my life than a plastic surgeon and it is one of the best things I have ever done. I agree. You are correct.

I'm asking how to push groups to change expectations and challenge people. It's Friday, my brain's phoning it in, I hope I make sense.

If you're asking how we can "change the world" or something like that, I have always believed you should be the change you want to see. Try to push for levelheaded, polite conversations with women when you disagree and encourage your male cohorts to do the same. But my original advice holds true: avoid women who don't treat you like a person or can't communicate, whenever possible.

I'd like to know if some women can give their thoughts on a few questions and observations:

• Is fujo stuff generally representative of female sexuality, or is that some sort of an aberration? if so, what are the main differences?
• I think that a lot of guys mistakenly assume that women are basically gay men in women's bodies, and get disappointed when that turns out not to be the case. I think that this is caused by the fact that most porn that they consume is drawn and written by other men, who necessarily self-insert into the woman characters. This is probably a big reason why tranny porn (no bottom surgery) is exploding in popularity. Would you agree, and have you ran into this or similar problems? Basically: have you run into the roadblock of men being gay.
• Moving on from the gay porn questions: how does female friendship work? Men, for example, are usually friends based off of compatible talents and sense of purpose towards which they collaborate (whether that be an intellectual, creative, or other pursuit). What do women do together?
• Would you agree that it's true that men are more world-oriented, whereas women are more person-oriented?
• What is it like when you're not in Estrus, when the tides are low or however that works?

• Aberration. Like NoReturn said, it's more common among terminally online/cripplingly shy women.
• I agree. Many men have few female friends, so the only females they know are their mother, any siblings, and female characters written by male authors.
• Women do still need some sort of common ground to start a friendship, but it could be as simple as working at the same place. One of my longest friendships is a woman who is extremely different from me, but we are both straight, single, worked at the same company years back, and like trying fancy restaurants. I think women are better at forming friendships based on very little.
• I'm not sure what you mean by world-oriented.
• Human females don't have estrus. Do you mean when you're not ovulating?

Go to meetup and Facebook and check any irl groups and then tour them at least one will have maximum concentration of normies that will keep the neckbeards and trannies at bay with their kid and family talk and passive aggressive ignoring them when they step out of line. But that was before i moved in middle of nowhere 3 years ago so i might be out of touch also i live in Norway.

Thanks for the tips, I live in a larger city so I will check that out for sure.

Asking for a general opinion here rather than the moid hate thread. What do women think of the growing "Karen's getting arrested/tazed/owned" that bodycam slop true crime channels are pushing?
I see channel pages full of nothing but these videos and can't help but think it's just advertiser friendly woman hate.

One one hand it's catharsis, with viewers probably projecting an overbearing mother or schoolteacher onto the woman in the video. On the other hand, I do think it's thinly-disguised enjoyment at seeing women getting physically hurt.

 

[Sayer of the N-Word]

I was hoping that the fall out from the Citibike Karen incident would be the catalyst in getting people to chill with that nonsense. Looks like it’ll never end, we’re just getting more flavors of it.

There's a subreddit called PussyPassDenied which has been around for nine years. In its heyday it was flooded with videos of women getting beaten by men with captions like "Stupid Bitch Feminist Finally Gets What She Deserves". Redditors would go there and soak in the misogynist ragebait and celebrate female pain.

(I visited the sub because I like videos of trashy people fighting irregardless of gender)

 

[umami's milk]

are you going to tell us what instrument you play or nah

 

[Ruined by the Rain]

The hairstyle looks good you can work with it. If you’re not satisfied with it you could always go for a buzz cut but overall I think it would look fine, have you dyed it at all?

It look like shit and I look like a middle aged woman. I'm not going for a buzz cut because I need to wait for my hair to grow out

 

[umami's milk]

It look like shit and I look like a middle aged woman. I'm not going for a buzz cut because I need to wait for my hair to grow out

get some hair gel if you don't have any lying around and slick it back for a fresh wet look.

 

[Foxymophandlemama]

It look like shit and I look like a middle aged woman. I'm not going for a buzz cut because I need to wait for my hair to grow out

You can style it differently from that picture, Pinterest have plenty of ideas.

Also, you can go back to the hairdresser and try a new hairstyle that doesn't look Karen-ish, like this:

 

[Ruined by the Rain]

get some hair gel if you don't have any lying around and slick it back for a fresh wet look.

I think this might work. Thanks

 

[Shidoen]

I think this might work. Thanks

Make sure before you set your hair fully make two little devil horns for the lulz.

 

[Not a bee]

For older women here, do you have any advice for women like me who are scared of menopause?
It is inevitable that we all grow old. I am worried I won't be able to enjoy life the same way I do now because of menopause. I don't know why I suddenly grew an irrational fear of aging.

 

[Friend of Dorothy Parker]

For older women here, do you have any advice for women like me who are scared of menopause?
It is inevitable that we all grow old. I am worried I won't be able to enjoy life the same way I do now because of menopause. I don't know why I suddenly grew an irrational fear of aging.

Are there specific things you're concerned about? I can tell you that overall, it's been fine, but I'm happy to be more specific if you have things in mind that are causing fear or apprehension.

How's baby?

 

[Not a bee]

Are there specific things you're concerned about? I can tell you that overall, it's been fine, but I'm happy to be more specific if you have things in mind that are causing fear or apprehension.

How's baby?

He is doing great!! Thank you for asking. He a noisy little sleeper though- he sometimes squeaks or makes lil grunts or a mix or both and I think he is awake but nope, he is asleep.

I am mostly concerned with both the mental aspects of it (brain fog, depression, memory problems) and the sexual aspects. I am still trying to come with terms that my body will be more frail, but I am going to stay active to try to stay healthy physically-wise. Bone loss scares me too.

 

[isalaide]

He is doing great!! Thank you for asking. He a noisy little sleeper though- he sometimes squeaks or makes lil grunts or a mix or both and I think he is awake but nope, he is asleep.

I am mostly concerned with both the mental aspects of it (brain fog, depression, memory problems) and the sexual aspects. I am still trying to come with terms that my body will be more frail, but I am going to stay active to try to stay healthy physically-wise. Bone loss scares me too.

Meanwhile, little bee, how are you? How are you feeling in body and mind? Have you got enough help around, and are they being genuinely helpful?

 

[The Ugly One]

How do you find DnD groups that aren't full of socially inept and brainrotted men that will hound you? I love TTRPGs but none of my irl friends and family have been able to commit to anything regular. I'm afraid to join an online group.

Go to www.meetup.com and advertise a group that's for women only. Insist on meeting in person to talk before coming to the game to filter out trannies.

Sometimes my gf's jealousy comes up out of fucking nowhere. Last night I was just watching a movie with some online acquaintances and I mentioned that to her and she was all "do any of the egirls try and flirt with you?". I have some online acquaintances that are women but they're all taken and very aware of my relationship. She's been quiet about her concerns with that for a long time. Feels like this just came out of nowhere you know. What did she mean by this?

Women are extra sensitive to the presence of other women your life when they feel their relationship with you is impermanent. You're not married, nor are you engaged, and I'm guessing from the context that she's keeping herself chemically sterilized to avoid starting a family with you. There will be times when she kind of freaks out due to not knowing whether the next step is you leaving her or you sealing the deal. Married women can act like this, too, but the bar's a lot higher before they worry.

 

[Mulbruk]

Am I making a faux pas by buying my wife a voucher to have a stylist go shopping with her for a day?

For context she complains most mornings about nothing in her wardrobe she likes or looks good in and I'd think it'd be good for her and want her to feel good in she what she wears. However, I can see the possible shitstorm I'd be possibly walking into a would like an impartial women's angle on it.

 

[CharcoalChkn]

Am I making a faux pas by buying my wife a voucher to have a stylist go shopping with her for a day?

For context she complains most mornings about nothing in her wardrobe she likes or looks good in and I'd think it'd be good for her and want her to feel good in she what she wears. However, I can see the possible shitstorm I'd be possibly walking into a would like an impartial women's angle on it.

I genuinely think this is a really thoughtful and lovely gift! I'm not a fashion girlie at all and would not take offence, in fact I think it would be pretty fun.

You know your wife better than us, is she sensitive at all when it comes to her appearance? Or is she generally confident? How is she about sharing information about herself to strangers? Does she struggle to talk about herself?

 

[Mulbruk]

I genuinely think this is a really thoughtful and lovely gift! I'm not a fashion girlie at all and would not take offence, in fact I think it would be pretty fun.

You know your wife better than us, is she sensitive at all when it comes to her appearance? Or is she generally confident? How is she about sharing information about herself to strangers? Does she struggle to talk about herself?

She's fairly sensitive and lacks confidence when it comes to appearance, but she's good at sharing and will talk to no end if you let her.

If nothing else it'd be the confidence that would limit her, but thats partly the reason as I think having a professional giving her advice would give her the push to explore styles outside her usual comfort zone. Also I've looked at multiple stylists and shortlisted ones I think she'd match so it won't be phoning it in on that front.

 

[The Ugly One]

Am I making a faux pas by buying my wife a voucher to have a stylist go shopping with her for a day?

For context she complains most mornings about nothing in her wardrobe she likes or looks good in and I'd think it'd be good for her and want her to feel good in she what she wears. However, I can see the possible shitstorm I'd be possibly walking into a would like an impartial women's angle on it.

"You ever watch those shows where Tim Gunn takes a woman shopping?" See how she reacts, and prod her a bit to see if she thinks it would be neat to have someone like that shop with her. Also, she now knows you're gay, because you watched Tim Gunn shows (they're really good).

 

[Not a bee]

Meanwhile, little bee, how are you? How are you feeling in body and mind? Have you got enough help around, and are they being genuinely helpful?

Thank you for asking! I am feeling a little sad but otherwise I am fine. No idea why though.
And yeah I have gotten help. We are gonna visit family soon.