I kinda think being trans keeps me single
I really have huge problems with coping because I'm single. Like I wanted a relationship since 14 and all people I confessed to rejected me. The only person who didn't reject me had a huge crush and knew that body contact can ignite romantic feelings in me and yeah did enough body contact like hugging so I asked if they want to be together with me. But the relationship wasn't good, we didn't have chemistry and I felt like I was being forced into male stereotypes even though I know that they didn't do it on purpose. But idk I can't seem to see this as a "real" relationship because almost all the things I wanted to do in a relationship like making out, cuddling when feeling sad, having sex etc was not possible because they couldn't do it... So yeah after that relationship I still felt like nothing happened... I yearn for a romantic relationship, in which I can hold hands, cuddle, being there for each other, also the hot stuff but mostly the cute romantic stuff. I see couples everywhere holding hands, cuddling, being almost inseparable but I'm not able to find someone special for me. I'm a 21 year old hetero trans woman, aren't there men who want to be with me? I recently started to wear a lot of anime merch about romance anime (like your name etc), aren't there any weebs who also want a girlfriend? Every man I confessed to didn't want to have a relationship, didn't see me that way. I tried to use apps like bumble or tinder to hook up at least, but people unmatch me because I'm trans or just stop chatting... On tinder there are almost only these buff gym guys who probably want to hook up with skinny girls but I'm quite chubby, so that won't do. I tried grindr but it kinda scares me how little they want to get to know you it's just a hook up, but idk I want to have a nice time and be sure that the guy is respecting my wishes... I tried to get men to make out with me at parties but they only smile at me and giving me the feeling that they want to do a move but in the next moment they're gone... I always hope for men (okay not the creepy ones) to talk to me when I'm in public but it seems like everyone is ignoring me. I just don't understand I thought that men are so lonely and really want girlfriends but they never seem to want me as their girlfriends... There is this one guy I know who suddenly started to make a move on me via chat (he lives far away but I met him a few times at events) and he's going to visit me next week to hook up with me but idk it's not romantic at all and even though I really want to try that out it's just devastating that no one else wants to hook up with me or being in a relationship with me. Is it because I'm trans? Is it because I'm chubby? Do I think I pass but in reality I don't? Is it because I'm weird? I always thought before I realized I was trans that women are lucky that they can have a boyfriend or sex whenever they want because there are always men who would want them but now I know that only creepy guys are pursuing women and even though I am a woman and I'm giving it my best being feminine I just can't find anyone... I tried being like ironically flirty with some guys I know partially because they do the same but they always back out or don't tell me if it's weird or funny if I'm flirty. Is it sexy that I'm flirty or is it weird because I'm not pretty enough that men would want to flirt with me? I just don't get it... I never could've thought that it's so hard to find a boyfriend...