A lot of the incel-to-female trannies weren't even particularly ugly before trooning out. They just couldn't get laid because they were porn-addicted slobs with shit personalities and no social life.
If they put in the effort to start taking care of themselves, become employed, lay off the cartoon porn, get some hobbies, and connect with their fellow human beings in the real world, they would have a perfectly decent chance at finding a lady friend (or just regular friends, for that matter).
But no. They instead come to the conclusion that their plight is not the result of their own stupidity/laziness/unlikeable personality, but the fact that men are oppwessed!!1! Their inability to get pussy has nothing to do with their lifestyle of choice; it's entirely women and society that are to blame.
That's the thing about this type: they're simultaneously narcissistic and self-loathing. They hate themselves but don't think they should actually have to analyze or change anything about themselves in order to be accepted. "Transitioning" (i.e. taking estrogen and dressing like a 12yo girl with special needs) is the most effort they're willing to put in.
Then, when they don't miraculously get that sweet female privilege and free lesbian pussy, they just give up and join the 41% like the pathetic failures of men that they are. Here's to hoping, anyway!
I think for many it's self-loathing mixed in with social retardation and dopamine burn out from easy 24/7 access to porn. Why try the difficult thing that doesn't come naturally when you can rub away any feelings of loneliness, at least for a moment. Go long enough and porn induced brainrot makes you into a psychopathic rape monster, stripey socks and all.
There are very few positive male role-models out there, those are especially important for the ones with a touch of the tisms. Any real positive influences get immediately screamed down as oppressive, archaic, sexist, dangerous, right-wing, nazi, fascists, which of course is by design. Yet somehow characters like sex trafficker Andrew Tate or crypto scammers and alpha male online course merchants get to keep chugging along, boosted by algorithms.
Recently there was a profile on some mormon family who live on a farm, BallerinaFarm or something like that, with 6 kids, the mom is a cottagecore housewife type influencer. The father was painted out as some draconian 1990s caricature of a 1950s abusive family man, while the wife was fitted with a Handmaid's mantle in the same text. All of it reeking of the writers own insecurities. It was a transparent hit piece, that was celebrated only by a bunch of e-thots with onlyfans links in their bios.
but the fact that men are oppwessed!!1!
There are a lot of really toxic assumptions and narratives that are toxic to normal sex relations. Just like it's incel behaviour to assume every woman is an evil narcissistic gold digging whore looking for a victim, it's legbeard behaviour to assume every man is a pedophile rape monster looking for an angle to rape and murder everything in sight. Not to say there aren't both of those types plenty out there in the world, many are profiled on this site, but there's a chasm between discernment and paranoia. Personally I assume people are decent until they give me a reason not to.
The difference is that incels get laughed at, but if you laugh at the insane things legbeards say you're a dangerous misogynist incel who hates women and will be tarred as such on socials. There's some pushback against this where women have noticed that behaviour that would rightly be called out for men gets YAASSS GRLLL'd for women, as if being the most toxic cunt alive was a sash you want over your shoulder. I figure the insanity of the MeToo era StareRape

and other absolute lunacy opened some eyes.