@cuddle striker I am so glad you're back. People have been necroing this thread for ages wanting updates and discussing nonsense and hand-wringing, it's very good to have some sold information posted, and also to know she's still (figuratively) kicking.
It's very frustrating that she doesn't qualify for inpatient psych treatment (although I'm not sure how much use, if any, it would be in any case) and I can't imagine how frustrating it must be for her doctors to have to watch her slowly kill herself like this knowing that they don't have recourse beyond fixing her back up every time.
I'm not sure she would ever consider or request MAID even if she eventually qualifies. Given all she's been through and put herself through, she probably looks at her current life and health situation and thinks she is doing okay, all things considered. I wouldn't blame her for that, either; even if she knows she will eventually die from all this, with the right pain meds and social care/support she can probably still have a surprisingly reasonable QOL (relatively speaking, ofc). Every day she's alive might be another chance for her to pick herself into sepsis, but it also might be the day she decides it's time to leave her legs alone and engage with help.
All that said, I do wonder how her sister and family are doing. It must be excruciating knowing she's going to kill herself this way and having it be such an agonisingly slow process.