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- Feb 21, 2018
Yeah that's kind of the distinction I was making. There's real BPD which I absolutely believe is real and probably hell to treat. I've talked to a lot of people including some on this very forum who swear they are the good borderlines who go to treatment, totally unaware that all they're doing is using therapy to justify their behavior. My friend calls it "therapy masturbation" - they go to make themselves feel better about themselves, convince themselves they're not a problem anymore, while continuing to do exactly the same thing but it's okay now because they're really trying and using their coping skills and whatever therapy speak they can pull out of their asses on the fly. It also gives them a new way to play victim when you point out that's what they're doing. How could you be so horrible to them when they're really trying? They're fucking irredeemable.It definitely is training them with more effective excuses and language to use to manipulate others.
However, having known two total BPD cases before the advent of SM, they cannot hold jobs.
Then there's a whole bunch of young women whose manipulative bullshit is being rewarded by social media who are getting diagnosed with BPD because they have the symptoms of that disorder, but who would be fine in the absence of social media.. those people do not have real BPD. They just have hugboxes they've built that won't tell them they're wrong and an unstable identity because they're trying to find what will get them the most followers. if those people get off social media and into a routine their symptoms largely disappear because IRL no one actually rewards that shit and your lies will either get ignored or called out eventually. If you tell your social media audience the boss is a pervert and out to get you because you don't want to sleep with him and that's why you're about to get fired, chances are good it's going to go largely unquestioned. If you say it to your coworkers, they know the boss is a normal guy and they know you're getting fired because you show up late and have a shit attitude.
Real life incentivizes you to lie in the opposite way. You want to keep your job? You don't tell your boss they're a slimy weasel you can't stand, you don't say anything controversial on social media, you don't tell your coworkers about problems in your personal life they can weaponize against you, and you don't feign helplessness for attention and asspats.