This paragraph is so symptomatic of all of these muppets - they can never just be stressed out or a bit overwhelmed. No, it’s gotta be a ”flare” of this or that, because they’re too goddamn special for normal human experiences. Vicky Markhoff is the GOAT at this, but Kelly is a close second.
"Dysregulation" is a therapy term, usually used for people with Histrionic or Borderline-type emotional outbursts. Everyone who misuses it is weaponizing therapy language, as the sort of person who would encounter that term in the course of their therapy (or scrolling social media for hashtag-mental-health or hashtag-therapy content) is wont to do.
‘It’s too late. You can have a glass of milk and we will do eggs in the morning.’ This is too late for kids to eat. They need a bit of time before bed for food to go down. Once in a while if you’ve all got in late from an adventure is fine but this is chaos
That’s just revolting. And so bad for the kid. Once a week for that kind of stuff max. Set a ‘sweets on Saturday’ rule or whatever. If they peeled off a bit and wasted the rest I wouldnt buy it again. One of her kids is diabetic, she shouldn’t be even having stuff like that in the house
Yeah, even though the kids are out of control, I have to stand up for kid #1 here. She asked for eggs at bedtime, was told no but that she could have eggs in the morning, and then ... expected eggs in the morning. Not her mom browsing Fetlife for half an hour first. Sure she could be more patient but even well-behaved kids have issues with impatience.
I noticed that she had set a timer to drink her coffee and then "locked down (her) profile" with the kids looking over her shoulder, before even beginning to bother getting the kids breakfast. I'm hoping it wasn't her FetLife account, but I think we can be reasonably certain that it was and her kids got a full view of it.
This I have to slightly disagree with and have to point out something else. This is such general broad therapy speak term that it may seem like it’s cluster b related due to misuse but with this. It’s not. not with these girls. Kelly has gone out of her way to try to imply autism with herself and her own kiddos many times. Emotional Dysregulation has been used regarding people with autism for ages. With the way she talks about meltdowns + emotional dysregulation it’s def what she means by that. On the other hand: Kelly is a specimen of pure and simple Narcissism who hates when she doesn’t get her way. Her ass is “dysregulated” because of that. These girls lack any form of structure outside of what mom wants. So they pitch fits or do things they shouldn’t because it’s the only way they can get her to give a shit.
When I read this I thought it meant like her account on the family computer and really really hope you are wrong lol
She bitches twice about dishes for making eggs - how she had to clean a pan to make them and the bowl was the wrong size bc it’s been 4 days since doing dishes…so even allowing that as true (and it’s not actually a week or two)), they’re living under a mountain of dirty dishes. They live reasonably well enough that there is not just a single pan in the house, or a single bowl than can hold eggs. That means that all the pans and bowls were dirty. And that’s in the most used area of the house, a place that most people keep reasonably clean or at least functional…because people need to eat everyday. Imagine the rest of the place.
She waited until nearly 8 pm to pay attention enough to notice. And yes, she should be cleaning up after her children. Teaching them to be self-sufficient, yes, but at 9, no, you of course still need to take care of them.
I forgot about this part of her post and you're right.
my bad, if I came off that way with mine. My biggest thing with Kelly and her kids is that it just seems like she has very minimal involvement outside of just throwing food at them or when the kiddos are acting out to get her attention. Which honestly this whole rant was an admission to.
I feel like this should just be the thread motto sometimes lol
When you are a parent of young children you generally end up eating whatever your kids wanted because its just easier. It is easier to crack 2 more eggs in the pan and eat them (out of the pan) after the kids get their food than it is to make a separate thing and more dishes. Often you end up eating off the kids plate because they didn't finish their food. All of this is a function of being tired as hell, because little kids cannot clean messes, only generate them, and they cannot get you anything you need, they can only demand things, and they never want to go to bed. They make up for this by being cute and small. Kelly's kids are functionally like three year olds because they do not pick up after themselves in any capacity and cannot make any of their own food. I would want to kill myself if I had to indefinitely deal with children who are capable of doing better and also not so cute anymore. I sympathize with how hard it must be, but I am also sure that kelly views any real solution to the problem as being oppressive or immoral to her family so she is stuck with it and no one can help her as long as she chooses this. She would rather live this way than admit she got something wrong. She could turn it around at literally any time with approximately a month of sustained effort. There would be a lot of bitching and tantrums but it sounds like there already is anyway so she doesn't have anything to lose.
this term is used in a ton of contemporary "gentle parenting" literature in a non-technical way. The idea is that no kids are ever truly being shitty, they just need an adjustment in their mood to be good, so they have to search out the source of bad moods like a new age detective. They're treated like robots that need re-calibrating. Making a kids mood worse with lack of sleep and shitty food/screens etc will make them more inclined to make poor choices, but that doesn't supersede the human nature of sometimes doing bad shit simply because it would be fun and you might get away with it.
That’s the annoying thing for me: she’s right that a parent’s day contains a hundred little annoyances and compromises, but that’s the nature of being a parent. You can accept it and work it make life less annoying by doing the basics to prepare ahead and raise your kids to be normal, or be miserable. Most people take the first choice without thinking about it.
I’d actually love to see if behavioral therapy for autists would work well on them. It would be a fun experiment.
In order to have effective behavioral therapy, especially for kids, it has to involve parents too. A behavior analyst can create the most perfect behavioral plan, and have behavioral therapists working under him/her that are the most consistent possible with implementing the plan, and still not have much progress if parents don’t reinforce it at home outside of session. You can’t expect the parents to behave exactly like the trained therapists do, but there should be at least some expectation that the parents can help with the behaviors they see at home. This is why any good ABA (applied behavioral analysis) company will emphasize parent training as part of the intervention. Kelly would hate this, because of these reasons:
I pray they will find adult children of alcoholics one day which is for adult children of all dysfunctional families. https://adultchildren.org/
