I've never touched a woman, I thought they were all soft.
This is the kind of doom spiraling and vague standards that gets the trash cans.
Just go for a high-five or a handshake whenever it fits socially. Congratulations or formal greeting, respectively.
And nah some people are downright bony. If you only assume the best of everyone, of course it will seem like an impossible challenge.
QnA is a shitpost area though.
Yeah but people get drunk in bars to be stupider. It's shitposting lite.
I don't think you can go anywhere to make connections in real life anymore can you? Do your places still give you company?
Kinda. In some settings it's possible to meet people and start connections. For easy and low-stakes stuff, I assume bars and running groups and choirs and rock gyms and musicals are simple enough. They give people a common goal to work together on and a way to understand each other (if they know the topic well enough).
The part that got me jaded was that everyone is busy, their attention is being pulled around, and they often are commuting to this hangout spot. I found myself drifting away from a lot of people before I learned that I had to put in 95% of the effort myself or I'd be back alone. This means inviting people out to places, concerts, or for walks or something. Also hosting events like weekly movie nights or barbecues might get regular arrivals. CRITICAL tip: People are drawn to food.
It doesn't mean instant sex or relationships, but if you get familiar with people, you'll probably be less frustrated and anxious around them. Start off talking to guys or girls you aren't attracted to because they'll probably treat you better and you won't take the IQ penalty of being around a pretty woman.
Bars are just a place to go with people you know, you will never have the chance of meeting a woman there.
It probably depends on the place. I know 2 bars in my city where people go to socialize. Everywhere else is for getting drunk.
If there isn't any place where people go to socialize, that sucks. Around here they exist but they all cost money. Free stuff might be found on meetup.com I guess.
Side note: check out the content creator Justin Veenema
https://store.justinveenema.com/en-jpy/
He doesn't get laid, but he gets reps in approaching strangers, mostly with dogs, and taking free photos. People like to feel heard and seen, and if you do so genuinely and then don't betray them, they'll probably think you're cool. Still a decent chance they'll never see you again, but that's the world we're living in. Fuck it we ball.
I'm still a virgin too btw. For a while I had virgin rage/shame but after things changed I decided I'd rather be in a committed relationship first.