Conservatives have been talking about the feminization of men for a long time, but it's definitely gotten worse due to porn.
The feminization of men has nothing to do with porn. It has to do with a society whom for the past 50 years has fucking BEATEN men over the head and told them they are source of every problem. You have multiple generations of fathers who preach "Happy wife, happy life" and lead men astray. Porn is just a satiater and outlet. The problems with porn are something entirely different. That have nothing to do with why men have become so pathetic. It's only a small part of many, far larger factors.
You have pornsick men who don't even want a real woman because she isn't going to want to have porn star sex, you have pornsick men who don't want a real woman because she's not an anime character, you have pornsick men who become gay furries because that's where their fetish directed them.
Those men are normally notorious beta male leftists. They're not conservatives who want traditional values and families. They're I Stand With Her fans and Male feminists majority of the time or they're mentally ill. They're losers and deserve to be made fun of and they are made fun of on every corner of society from the real world down to the internet. However, they're not as present in the real world as you think they are and you should touch grass if you think there's any statistically significant portion of men who prefer an anime waifu over a real woman.
The fetish thing is entirely porn's fault though.
Feminine or not, most men are not capable of being a good husband because it requires sacrifice and selflessness - something that society in general has been teaching us is not worth it
Who teaches men that sacrifice and selflessness isn't worth it?
I'll give you a hint: It's WOMEN.
Do you think the girls in high school date the nice guy who's generous and caring for them and buys them flowers and politely asks them on a date? Maybe 40 years ago, sure. In the 2020s? FUCK NO. They date the thug jock who's a jackass because they like that "they're mean to everyone else but them and that makes them feel special". You have entire generations of men whom for the past 30 years have been taught if they want to get laid, they cannot be sacrificing and selfless even if they want to be. Why? Because to a modern woman, kindness is weakness.
The reality is every boy dreams of being the brave knight who saves the princess. Then they grow up and reality hits and the princess dates, fucks, and gets knocked up/marries the bad guy. Every young boy growing up after the 70s has had to deal with this reality and it CRUSHES them.
Why put forth the effort to be a good husband to someone like Anisa?
You're absolutely right and we're in a death spiral there's no way out of.
Even this post struggles to not make it an "us vs them" issue because both men and women are so broken right now that pointing out flaws on either side feels like assigning blame.
It's because one side accepts blame. Conservative men out there are finding God again. They're playing less vidya. They're watching less porn. They're advocating for porn bans. You have lots of men coming out and saying they genuinely want families.
What have women done? They've denied and insist it's still men's fault. The few women who saw the tides turning and were smart enough to pivot their beliefs and attitudes have been labeled as "Pick-mes" and have been viciously attacked, berated, and shamed by other women. There's no women out there talking about being better wives. No women advocating for removal of permanent alimony. No women out there want to solve this problem because it gives up their societal power and anyone that tries is attacked for it.
You can't solve this issue when it's clearly one side that refuses to deny their role in a problem exists.
