Women are anonymously spilling tea about men in their cities on viral app - The surveillance state equivalent of the mean girls burn book

When Cid Walker opens the Tea app, she’s greeted by a barrage of posts about men and their apparent "red" and "green" "flags."

“He’s a cheater,” Walker said, reading some of the comments on one post out loud.

"What clubs does he go to?" another person asked on a different post. "He’s cute."

The app, which appears to have been advertising itself online since at least last fall, allows users to solicit feedback about specific men they’re dating.

Walker, 22, is among the 4 million users on the women-only safety app, which this week became the No. 1 free app in the Apple App Store.

It picked up viral traction in the last month after some people began talking about it online on Reddit and TikTok. The app gained more than 900,000 new signups in the last few days, Tea said on social media. Getting off the waitlist can now take days, an inconvenience many new users complained about in comments on the app's Instagram posts.

Upon opening Tea, users are presented with local men whose photos have been uploaded, along with their first names. For each of the men, other women on the app can report whether they deem him a “red flag” or a “green flag” and leave comments about him, such as those recounting negative date experiences or vouching for him as a friend.

“I’ve seen so many people I know on the app, it’s crazy,” said Walker, a Cleveland-area user who joined the app last week after having seen multiple viral posts about it. “Like, oh my God, I would never think all this stuff about them.”

App users can look up individual names in the search bar or create custom alerts for specific men. The app also offers functions that let users run background checks, search for criminal histories and reverse-search photos to check whether a man is catfishing by using someone else’s photos on his dating profile.

The woman-only app was created by a man, Sean Cook, who said on Tea’s website that he was inspired after he watched his mother’s “terrifying experience with online dating,” including being catfished and unknowingly dating men with criminal records.

Cook’s profile on LinkedIn lists him as the founder of Tea since 2022. The description under his role says, “Tea was self-funded by Sean.”

Cook did not respond to a request for comment. A representative for Tea said the app isn’t offering interviews at this time.

Tea’s mission mirrors similar efforts that have gained popularity in other online forums, such as “Are We Dating The Same Guy?,” a Facebook community with millions of members across the country in localized offshoots.

While the communities have stated that their mission is to keep women safe, they have also faced backlash from men online who say they fear being misrepresented or doxxed on the platforms.

The Facebook groups, which advertise themselves as spaces for women to warn other women about “liars, cheaters, abusers, or anyone who exhibits any type of toxic or dangerous behavior,” have for years been criticized online for devolving into places for gossip or for spreading possible misinformation about people. Last year, judges dismissed two defamation lawsuits filed in Illinois and California by men who were posted in the groups.

With Tea, some men have posted in forums asking for others to report the app in hope of getting it shut down, and others have expressed interest in a men-only equivalent on which they could discuss and mock women.

One app has already tried to offer that. The Teaborn app climbed to No. 3 in the free apps chart Wednesday before it disappeared from the App Store.

Shortly ahead of its removal, the app had rolled out an update with “enhanced content moderation and reporting tools” after its creator condemned users for allegedly sharing revenge porn on the platform.

Teaborn told NBC News in a social media statement: “Apple just removed us yesterday because Tea app doesn’t like competition, but we are working to go back with a new brand!”

Apple didn’t respond to a request for comment.

Despite finding apps like Tea entertaining, users like Walker have expressed discomfort with the idea of allowing so many people to anonymously speak negatively about others online.

Signing up for Tea requires users to take selfies, which the app says are deleted after review, to prove they are women. All users who get accepted are anonymous outside of the usernames they choose. Screenshots are also blocked.

On its website, Tea describes itself as “more than an app; it’s a sisterhood.” The app claims it donates 10% of its profits to the National Domestic Violence Hotline.

A spokesperson for the hotline didn’t immediately respond to a request for comment Thursday.

“Together, we’re redefining modern dating,” the app says.

Walker said that she has noticed many users focus more on gossip than real safety concerns but that she believes some people have found Tea useful for exposing serious issues like abuse.

“I feel like if people were to use the app how it’s supposed to be used, this could actually save a lot of women from being hurt or harmed,” Walker said. “But at this point, I think it’s like a joke to everybody and just like cyberbullying.”



 
Because they're still men, they're just Pakistani men/men you view as subhuman
Because they are and they're all rapists. It would be like me finding a group of mentally retarded women from an asylum who rape kids and molest chickens and saying all women. Or to put it in a way you understand on a spectrum of your idea of bears as peaceful teddies and yogis to brown men white men are in the middle closer to the teddy bears
 
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there is already a gigantic facebook group like this called "are we dating the same guy" that i joined when a friend of mine was apparently notified about a guy she was dating and it piqued my curiosity. in her case it was a bunch of different women posting super specific things that he did like "threw beer on me when he was drunk" that he had already done at least once to my friend. she didn't break up with him either over it lol so that just goes to show how useful this kind of thing is even when it works as intended and identifies a man who actually is a serial abuser.

i still lurk on the group sometimes and its mostly just retarded bitches whining about some guy they met on tinder whose photos make it obvious he is a cheesy scumbag. its so repetitive it gets boring fast. 95% of the postse ither explicitly say or heavily imply that they barely know the guy, meeting up with him a few times or a lot of cases only texting lol. he lovebombed, gaslit, then ghosted them! like, yeah bitch he is a 45 year old guy on tinder with spikey hair posing on a motorcycle in a photo that is clearly 10+ years old im shocked he wasnt a prince.

there are actually a fair amount of posts asking for tea that are just some poor dude that they matched with on an app that the paranoid psycho actually is interested in dating, fishing to see if he is talking to other women. its crazy how often someone will post a photo of a guy from an app and a bunch of other women will post "matched with him but didnt talk" or something as a green light of sorts. the pool of middle aged app-based serial daters who waste time on facebook groups is apparently pretty small, at least in my city.

generally the comments are pretty tame and the stories are so mundane that they actually sound like the truth, or at least the "lived truth" of a vindictive, unstable woman with a low IQ and don't even make the guy look particularly bad at all. the leak is kind of funny because holy shit why would you give a niche shittalking app a photo of your drivers license but i dont think there is anything wrong with giving the losers who use the app a containment zone to post as long as they dont cross the line into actionable defamation.
 
I expect that they will justify it with "its to be safe and warn other potential victims if men are rapey and acting in violent ways" But when does it go too far? How can they possibly know that someone isnt using others anger and trauma as a way to attack a man they dont like? I thought it didnt happen when I was younger, that women couldnt possibly do such an evil thing, but then I saw it happen in real time over and over. I believe that shit like that if its to be taken seriously and require id, they should substantiate claims made against individuals. Even then, always go to police first. It just becomes a mess of gossip and is used by actual predatory men to discredit in the future "Look how many men get falsly accused, thats whats happening to me!". As a gorl I will fullheartedly say, I understand why, its just execution I have a problem with. I also believe both men and women should be able to share experiences and evidence of abuse done to them and that it shouldnt be segregated unless there is reason, eg to stop someone looking for victims, but that can happen with same sex too so i dont know.

I see this whole app as a terrible net negative for society and unmanageable from a moral standpoint. Just stick to your girly groupchats and talk with friends, you do not need any of this and all your data being breached

The fact that these retards left identifying info of all these women so readily available is so fucked in the context that they are sharing information that could get them hurt in revenge/honor killing. The people behind this shit should be arrested for being so fucking stupid in so many ways.

I empathise with every person who has ever been falsely accused and I am so sorry if thats happened to you. Its horrific being isolated and excluded and I hope that you are alright. I can imagine many victims of such a thing would see this thread and want to comment so that is why I say this.
 
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There is nothing you need to anonymously inform your community about regarding local men that wouldn't already be in public record (ex. sex offender, convicted abuser, etc.). If so and so didn't wipe his ass properly laugh about it with the girls in your groupchat. I think everyone here can agree gossiping for gossiping's sake is in human nature (Look what site you're on), but the self righteous tone of it all set this up for disaster from the start. Nobody even wins in this scenario?
 
I used to think assburgers was a curse, but with time I'm starting to think it's a blessing, or at least a lateral pivot from normieville. I couldn't imagine being as obsessed and enraged with every little moid/foid behavior flaw as so many on this site and elsewhere seem to be, to the point of writing entire dissertations on it. I got Pokemon to level up.

I'm very curious about where one of those markers landed in my neck of the woods, but I'm not downloading 59 gigs of shit to try and find out. I hope the dumps get further divided by broad metro area or state or something. To the guy digging into the exif data, doing god's work. I'd help but I'm a retard.

Got assblasted at holes being called holes, got chewed out by josh and negrated to hell. She says shes done and left the site. I give her three months.
Three months? I joined in March and she's "left the site" at least twice in that span. Which I only know because it's always sitewide news when it happens.
 
It's funny that women will literally put an app on the device that holds all their info - from an absolute stranger yet refuse to ride in cab with one or talk to someone out of their social circle.
God THIS hits like a brick to the skull. So many women are tech illiterate and dont understand how much danger they are in with weird apps that track them and require information and then give that data out publicly, it allows them to pinpoint exactly where you are and its not hard to do, the average teenager has done this before (snapchat app especially)

Also fraud and people taking your money with your identity....
 
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There is quite literally nothing more fragile on the planet than the male ego.
You're bullshitting, bitching, sneeding and lying, to try to get men to carve out a place for certain women to bitch bullshit lie and sneed. Everyone knows the point of this is to let shitty women like you gossip behind anonymity, provided by men, and a complete lack of accountability.

From the feminist POV, you're saying women need to gossip and sometimes be "vindictive" for their own good, which is precisely the stereotype feminists have tried to dismantle. You are literally arguing for weaponized gossip as women’s empowerment while admitting it's destructive. I'm now thinking that feminist POV was actually reified by a man who helped feminism out just like how Anita Sarkeesian needed that help.
It's not that complicated. The Tea app is basically just an incel forum but for women.

The point of being an incel is to pretend your problems are entirely due the personal decisions of the opposite sex which makes it easier to ignore your problems in exchange for never ever being able to fix those problems.


Can we admit that basically everyone is unhappy and it is because of decisions made before most young people were ever born, that society is fundamentally broken and the way everyone lives now is wrong and all the people who are unhappy don't know how to fix it? Can we do that instead of just blaming the opposite sex yet?

Am I expecting too much? Probably honestly.
 
This faggot is selling your data and spying on you, because your Tinder date raped you.
Here's the horrifying modern reality:
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Alright, well using the above dump, there only seem to be GPS coordinates in 38 out of the 7659 files (and a bunch of those are just 0,0). Looks like most phones are good about not turning on location by default. The EXIF data is all in there. There are phone names/models.
I totally missed this map in the thread. That's amazing, exactly what I was looking for.

I'm very curious about where one of those markers landed in my neck of the woods, but I'm not downloading 59 gigs of shit to try and find out. I hope the dumps get further divided by broad metro area or state or something. To the guy digging into the exif data, doing god's work. I'd help but I'm a retard.
The KML is only 10MB (1MB compressed). You can download it directly from the Google Map.

One angle that hasn't been covered is how the photos apparently still have their EXIF data. Furthermore, a lot of people signed up for this app from military installations like the Aberdeen Proving Ground. I can't find an article confirming this other than S2 Underground.

So it's confirmed. There is zero data for Manhattan and DC, two massive population centers. Very weird.

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So it's confirmed. There is zero data for Manhattan and DC, two massive population centers. Very weird.
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Yeah also SF

Edit: Actually as I'm zooming in to more cities, most have nothing, some are more pronounced, but all have their centers oddly dark. Pretty sure this isn't city center women using dating apps less
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