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[Shaka Brah]

I've been wondering if the image of US universities presented by Hollywood is as false as the image of high school. Someone I knew went to do a semester in a humanities subject at a well-respected US College and she came back completely disillusioned, saying that it was a.) far less challenging than the standard she had grown used to in the UK, and b.) that there was a really weird, patronising vibe and that everyone acted like overgrown children.

It is quite frequently like that, especially at the most "prestigious" schools. My experience with the larger universities and colleges is that their graduates are highly indoctrinated and minimally trained.

 

[Meat Target]

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How is having a sex partner count in the triple digits, and in such a short timespan, even possible? I mean, I know about the Carousel and all that, but I don't even imagine hookers having that many in a year.

Does being skeptical of such wanton harlotry mean I'm sheltered?

 

[Shaka Brah]

How is having a sex partner count in the triple digits, and in such a short timespan, even possible? I mean, I know about the Carousel and all that, but I don't even imagine hookers having that many in a year.

Does being skeptical of such wanton harlotry mean I'm sheltered?

Unfortunately, yes. There are a lot of whorish women who fuck as many men as they can. Society encourages them to do it by calling it liberating and feminist.

 

[Crunchy Leaf]

How is having a sex partner count in the triple digits, and in such a short timespan, even possible? I mean, I know about the Carousel and all that, but I don't even imagine hookers having that many in a year.

Does being skeptical of such wanton harlotry mean I'm sheltered?

I see nobody has ever told you about gay men in the 70s. Quadruple digit partner counts.

 

[Meat Target]

Unfortunately, yes. There are a lot of whorish women who fuck as many men as they can. Society encourages them to do it by calling it liberating and feminist.

See, I always thought it'd be like a dozen guys at the worst. I would think even the worst of college thots would have some modicum of reluctance to bang every guy that asks.

I didn't go to a traditional college (CC and online classes). I know college towns have plenty of debauchery, but to that magnitude? My mind cannot fathom it.

I see nobody has ever told you about gay men in the 70s. Quadruple digit partner counts.

That's more plausible, because they already have a pathological obsession with sex.

 

[Crunchy Leaf]

See, I always thought it'd be like a dozen guys at the worst. I would think even the worst of college thots would have some modicum of reluctance to bang every guy that asks.

I didn't go to a traditional college (CC and online classes). I know college towns have plenty of debauchery, but to that magnitude? My mind cannot fathom it.

I am a woman and I don’t get it either. I thought most women wanted to reserve sex for long term relationships and men were pressuring them into more, but clearly that is not always true.

i posted on kiwifarms instead of going outside

 

[KingCoelacanth]

See, I always thought it'd be like a dozen guys at the worst. I would think even the worst of college thots would have some modicum of reluctance to bang every guy that asks.

I didn't go to a traditional college (CC and online classes). I know college towns have plenty of debauchery, but to that magnitude? My mind cannot fathom it.

I doubt it'd be that hard. One of them does the math, which shows how far you'll go by attending a party or two every week. Reaching over 100 over the course of 4 years is really nothing if they're going out once a week to fuck some random guy

 

[Meat Target]

I am a woman and I don’t get it either. I thought most women wanted to reserve sex for long term relationships and men were pressuring them into more, but clearly that is not always true.

i posted on kiwifarms instead of going outside

I spent my college years around super-devoted church girls who stick to the Waiting Till Marriage meme. I know there are a lot of fakers in the church girl crowd as well, but I really didn't pay attention to them, because I could kinda tell which ones were bogus.

So yeah, I'm sheltered. But I've set my standards high. I know it's probably to hold out for a "no-hymen-no-diamond", but I'd rather wait and have blue balls than settle for sloppy seconds.

I doubt it'd be that hard. One of them does the math, which shows how far you'll go by attending a party or two every week. Reaching over 100 over the course of 4 years is really nothing if they're going out once a week to fuck some random guy

Makes sense, but why? For comparison, I love getting tipsy and probably drink more than is healthy, but this would be like me going full-on Jim Lahey every single night.

 

[God Emperor]

I've been wondering if the image of US universities presented by Hollywood is as false as the image of high school. Someone I knew went to do a semester in a humanities subject at a well-respected US College and she came back completely disillusioned, saying that it was a.) far less challenging than the standard she had grown used to in the UK, and b.) that there was a really weird, patronising vibe and that everyone acted like overgrown children.

When I was younger some of my girlfriends were university students, and I would visit them and spend time on campus at social events (this was around 1999-2001).

Seemed like a blast to me at the time, there was a fair amount of sexual experimentation and casual sex, there were pranks and parties, there was a streaking event, we drank excessively and tried drugs, the dorms themselves were a paradise for reckless young people free from their parents for the first time (while still working hard to finish assignments, qualify for sports competitions, and pass their classes).

When I got to experience it for myself, as a student, I was already grown up - it was 2011 and things had REALLY changed.

I was embarrassed on behalf of the young men and women around me, who were so coddled and spoiled by the learning environment that it was downright offensive, and... surreal.

The tests and assignments were a joke, most of them were open book and online, and they had become designed so that even international students with little understanding of English could understand them.

They brought in therapy dogs during exams, not for those with serious and officially diagnosed issues with anxiety, not for a child testifying in a trial while facing the man who raped them, but for the general student population.

They put bean-bag chairs in the main lobby, gave people free popcorn, and wheeled in televisions to play Disney movies to calm people down in between exams.

Student sports had completely shut down, no one cared anymore, and the wild parties from a decade ago were gone.

They closed the dance floor in the bar in the student union building when a girl claimed to have been groped.

Pranks? Not in the post-911 environment of heightened security (they shut the whole campus down, and locked the classroom doors, when a homeless man came into the building to use the bathroom).

There were countless organizations and services designed specifically to protect and advocate for students and their 'diversity' or emotional needs. One girl was taking a business class, and when the subject of an employer's legal responsibilities for workplace harassment was brought up, she fled the classroom while crying. She was granted an immediate audience with the dean, who then brought it to the professor, who then had to submit a formal and public apology for 'triggering' her post-traumatic stress disorder (despite having no knowledge of her personal history or mental problems, and without having targeted her or saying anything hurtful or wrong).

There had never been a recorded instance of a violent rape in the schools history, and yet, there were teams of volunteers that would surround and escort women to their cars or public transit after the sun had gone down (this was in a very safe city, where violent crime and sexual assault by strangers was exceptionally rare).

Women made up the overwhelming majority of the student population, not to mention the staff and faculty, and yet every wall and screen was plastered with a constant propaganda campaign about the dangers of sexual harassment by men against women.

I stopped going to campus altogether after my first two semesters, save for tests and labs.

 

[God Emperor]

Makes sense, but why?

Sex is fun, and with proper precautions, without consequence.

¯\_(ツ)_/¯

That being said, that many partners is a definite warning flag; you should have developed a long term relationship during that period, if only by accident.

Having sex with a NEW person every week, for years, is an indication of some sort of dysfunction.

 

[Big Brown Schlub]

See, I always thought it'd be like a dozen guys at the worst. I would think even the worst of college thots would have some modicum of reluctance to bang every guy that asks.

We have our own version of extremely loose university girls here in Europe, through something called the Erasmus program, where you can spend a semester in another university in another country that is part of the program. The idea behind it is your usual EU brainwashing. You know the "you're an EU CITIZEN and not a CITIZEN OF YOUR COUNTRY" kinda deal, but in reality nobody gives a shit about that.
Erasmus is widely known as an all-expenses-paid sex vacation. All of the Erasmus students don't give a single fuck about even attending, let alone passing any courses and are notoriously easy to bed, so much so that there's zero excuse for being an incel if you attend an European university, just find your nearest Erasmus student.

 

[Large]

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[Shaka Brah]

Sex is fun, and with proper precautions, without consequence.

¯\_(ツ)_/¯

That being said, that many partners is a definite warning flag; you should have developed a long term relationship during that period, if only by accident.

Having sex with a NEW person every week, for years, is an indication of some sort of dysfunction.

Take this as you will.

 

[discombobulate]

I've been wondering if the image of US universities presented by Hollywood is as false as the image of high school. Someone I knew went to do a semester in a humanities subject at a well-respected US College and she came back completely disillusioned, saying that it was a.) far less challenging than the standard she had grown used to in the UK, and b.) that there was a really weird, patronising vibe and that everyone acted like overgrown children.

Depends on whether you mean "well-respected" or just "well-known" and what kind of program. Evergreen is well-known but isn't respected at all anymore except in "interdisciplinary" studies. For the US in the more professional humanities (arts or language), if you're in an legitimate program for a legitimate field it's more about just working and/or making connections rather caring about a curriculum - it's easy as hell to coast through one as long as you can pay but that doesn't mean anyone will pay for you. In the UK the curriculum for your entire studies is much more calcified so they do very well on a limited set of courses, whereas in the US it's all up to you in most places and is therefore what you make of it, which allows you to either specialize well or screw yourself over.

 

[Yangon]

How is having a sex partner count in the triple digits, and in such a short timespan, even possible? I mean, I know about the Carousel and all that, but I don't even imagine hookers having that many in a year.

Does being skeptical of such wanton harlotry mean I'm sheltered?

My question is, how is that even in any way pleasurable? When you're in a relationship or at least have a permanent fuckbuddy, you get to know each other's bodies, what you like and don't like etc., so sex is getting better. But fucking 3 different guys each week? I'm a male with a typical male sex drive, and fucking 3 different women each week may seem like an ultimate fantasy, but I think if that actually happened I'd get bored pretty quickly. Wouldn't it better to have a fuckbuddy or even several fuckbuddies (surely they wouldn't have problems with getting them), so that you can get to know each other and try new things together, instead of having drunk sex with a random guy each week?
Also, sorry if this is a retarded question, but why do these women randomly suck dick? That one girl in the Reddit post says she had sex with 50 men but 400+ when giving oral is included. But why? At least with normal sex she's getting off too, but why would she suck dick when getting nothing in return?

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why is the highest chance of divorce at 2 partners and then it decreases lol

 

[KingCoelacanth]

Makes sense, but why? For comparison, I love getting tipsy and probably drink more than is healthy, but this would be like me going full-on Jim Lahey every single night.

In these cases they just see it as being meaningless and having fun. Sucking 5 dudes off in a row while they chug beer isn't demeaning its empowering.
I'd wager to bet, however, that when looking for a long term relationship, most of the women doing this will put more value into sex and wait for the right moment.

 

[God Emperor]

why is the highest chance of divorce at 2 partners and then it decreases lol

Because that's near the average, at the point of their first divorce.

It's kind of like the fact that the majority of fatal car accidents happen within 5 minutes of the home, it's not that those roads are particularly dangerous or you drive recklessly in your own neighbourhood, it's just that that's where you spend most of your time.

As for multiple partners being pleasurable, well... what's better, the same dinner every night, or different meals every day? I'm not advocating for casual sex, I've been happily married for a very long time, but it's pretty easy to see the allure.

Habit blunts the edge of pleasure, but one night stands and other flings are passionate, reckless, and novel.

Even if you disagree with them on personal or moral grounds, let's not pretend we don't understand why people enjoy them.

 

[whogoesthere]

My question is, how is that even in any way pleasurable? When you're in a relationship or at least have a permanent fuckbuddy, you get to know each other's bodies, what you like and don't like etc., so sex is getting better. But fucking 3 different guys each week? I'm a male with a typical male sex drive, and fucking 3 different women each week may seem like an ultimate fantasy, but I think if that actually happened I'd get bored pretty quickly. Wouldn't it better to have a fuckbuddy or even several fuckbuddies (surely they wouldn't have problems with getting them), so that you can get to know each other and try new things together, instead of having drunk sex with a random guy each week?
Also, sorry if this is a retarded question, but why do these women randomly suck dick? That one girl in the Reddit post says she had sex with 50 men but 400+ when giving oral is included. But why? At least with normal sex she's getting off too, but why would she suck dick when getting nothing in return?

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why is the highest chance of divorce at 2 partners and then it decreases lol

First, just because someone said something on reddit does not make it true. They could be showing off, or anything as a reason to simply lie/troll.

I would also question the sheer availability of that many men. Sure 50 could maybe work, but when you are over 100 in a handful of years, how are they meeting that many different men on such a regular basis.

But alas, some people do indeed shag about. What you have to do is stop thinking from your own perspective and consider a different view. They are not having sex for the fun of sex, but as a means to connect and be desired. The sex is simply a tool to get that validation in their own minds. Its sadly common with lasses who have experienced abuse in their childhood, it fucks up their ability to connect with men with something other than sex.

They end up unable to have meaningful relationships and make love, so they continue to shag about and fuck like an animal. Thus making the problem worse, and feeding that vicious cycle.

As to the edit, I suspect its not exactly going down overall, its just that over a number of partners, the chances of failure increase and this is just statistical noise. If you did bigger and longer studies, anything over 2 would level out to be much the same.

 

[Large]

Because that's near the average, at the point of their first divorce.

It's kind of like the fact that the majority of fatal car accidents happen within 5 minutes of the home, it's not that those roads are particularly dangerous or you drive recklessly in your own neighbourhood, it's just that that's where you spend most of your time.

It's a percentage calculated by divorced/(divorced+undivorced) for x number of partners, not by (divorced for x number of partners)/divorced, so that does not apply.

 

[God Emperor]

It's a percentage calculated by divorced/(divorced+undivorced) for x number of partners, not by (divorced for x number of partners)/divorced, so that does not apply.

The chart depicts the percentage of first marriages ending in divorce within five years of wedlock according to the decade the wedding took place and how many sex partners a woman had prior to marriage.

This article goes into greater detail: https://ifstudies.org/blog/counteri...-between-premarital-sex-and-marital-stability

Two things to note:

1. The median number of opposite-sex partners in lifetime among sexually experienced men and women aged 25-44 years of age (2011-2015) is only 5.2 in the United States (6.1 for men and 4.2 for women).

NSFG - Listing N - Key Statistics from the National Survey of Family Growth

Key Statistics from the National Survey of Family Growth

www.cdc.gov

2. The following chart.

There are more factors at play here than sexual partners, including the massive changes to divorce laws in the 1970's and 1980's, that are also more important.

There's also the fact that the current younger generation, those under 25 years old, have the highest number of virgins and the lowest number of sexual partners than any other generation before them...