I never comment bc it makes me feel too horrible BUT ....
If you read her (now deleted) blog, its somewhere in the first pages of this forum there were two birth doulas. the 1st birth doula was with her for two days and TRIED to get robyn to let her intervene, go to the hospital and have luna seen immediately after birth. Robyns whole tirade is against the 1st woman who basically "filled her head with doubt that she could do this" ON THE SECOND DAY. she had to convince robyn to let her feel if Lunas head was breeched, which is wasn't and her "shoving her hands inside me" made her feel "violated" and robyn explicitly says she "HATED" her after she checked for luna. literally uses the word "hated."
then the second one came who she considers an angel to relieve the first one. before the 1st one left they discussed that considering she was going on day three of labor ... it was probablyyyyyyyyy... in mom and babies best interest to get over to this hospital. this made robyn mad bc it filled her head with doubt of her own capabilities.
at some point with the 2nd doula robyn thinks she should go to the hospital but is gratefully talked out of it by the 2nd doula and her husband. and she is sOOooOooOOooo grateful that they believed in her. when the 1st doula, I forget either called or came back once luna was born she tried to pressure robyn to get her checked at the hospital where early intervention COULD HAVE BEEN VISIBLE.
she also notes that luna was NOT latching in her first few days or weeks of birth which is what they assumed was making her underweight. instead of giving her a fucking bottle of formula they gave her nothing until she was basically hungry enough to latch. she was clearly under weight, and STILL didnt take her to be seen.
can you imagine being the first doula, basically know that there is an ill fated out come, begging the mom to go to the hospital, for this to all happen, only despite Robyns own protests and now shes considered suing them??????????? (she doesnt have a chance in hell of winning against the doulas or Lunas doctors. medical science didnt miss something she refused intervention at literally every single turn.) she feels she was violated and they didnt follow her plan and not because luna wasn't facing correctly, or robyn didnt get one fucking scan where they would have seen the cord.. BUT.. by basically stressing robyn out by suggesting she not be a feral fucking alley cat (who instinctually actually knows more than she does), suggested they get her to a hospital and the stress imposed by the 1st doula DOING HER JOB is what made this traumatic and caused this? that she has posted blogs about how traumatic her birth was, by her own doing?
can you imagine being the 1st doula walking out of the house, knowing something is going to go terribly wrong and besides calling 911 (which is what I think most of us would have done but idk the legalities behind that) knowing that there is zero you can do. its like being a patrol cop with no power, telling a driver they suppose is drunk to slow down, but the driver knows they have no Breathalyzer test and cant give them a ticket, yelling F you and then crashing into a wall 10 feet later? like thats basically what happened.
with that being said... what the fuck do you guys want her to do? stick her in a box and put her under a bed? thats still her kid,. if she didnt at least try to give her a quality of life which she clearly is. whether or not things work is different but at least shes trying. America is a fucked country. if a child is too much for you to handle and you surrender your child, youre put in jail, you cant euthanize your kid, the hospital isn't going to hold on to luna forever, theyre going to keep sending her home, put her in some sort of home and forget she exists? she clearly is thriving shes getting bigger and fatter. what should she do? stop feeding her and just let her die? it doest work like that. like cut her a break. even something as fucking stupid as turkey sauce or whatever, at least it seems like the kid likes it. I dont know all the terms here or anything so im not trying to be "sunshine" or whatever the fuck it is but really... what do you expect them to do with her? I mean could she do better, maybe? but you cant get blood from a rock. and, for what its worth, the kid couldn't move her mouth a few months ago and now she can clearly take a little liquid food orally. also, bc of her condition like (I forget who explained it not he last page) right now, her neurological hand tightness might release and she might be able to grab a rattle and hit her mom with it. they dont know if she actually is able to hear or see.. shes doing a little more then she used to.
also its unfair robyn gets all the fucking blame. she has a husband who ENCOURAGED her to stay home instead of saying "fuck this, that baby is mine too im calling 911." or "shes wearing that helmet every day or else." theres two people there not just one.