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[Vingle]

She admitted yesterday that she refuses to talk to me because of the "hurtful things I say"

Maybe it's time for the silent treatment. It may be easier for you, and she may feel distress over you not talking to her.
And I would suggest talking to the therapist alone, admitting you feel emotionally abused by your mother. If the therapist didn't understand it her/himself, it may be because you are in South-America, and that's just how stuff are. In general, therapists should keep quiet about their patients to their family, but it's a good idea to remind of it and you will take legal action if anything private gets out to your mother.

 

[Cheerlead-in-Chief]

Maybe it's time for the silent treatment. It may be easier for you, and she may feel distress over you not talking to her.
And I would suggest talking to the therapist alone, admitting you feel emotionally abused by your mother. If the therapist didn't understand it her/himself, it may be because you are in South-America, and that's just how stuff are. In general, therapists should keep quiet about their patients to their family, but it's a good idea to remind of it and you will take legal action if anything private gets out to your mother.

My mom does close the door to her office to give me privacy during my appointments. She even asks that she could leave the floor for my sake.
My mom is also my legal guardian due to my mental health, and in one of the papers the therapist had me print out...she had the same institution that my mom threatens me. I also fear that the state will go in her favor due to her status as legal guardian, and it could be worse for me.

 

[Vingle]

My mom does close the door to her office to give me privacy during my appointments. She even asks that she could leave the floor for my sake.
My mom is also my legal guardian due to my mental health, and in one of the papers the therapist had me print out...she had the same institution that my mom threatens me. I also fear that the state will go in her favor due to her status as legal guardian, and it could be worse for me.

She could go outside and windowshop or something, just not be there (and eavesdrop). I guess you have phones.

Sounds like you need the help of an attorney. Your therapist can help with you getting into contact with one. They usually have corporate agreement with a firm, for abuse victims (and it's free).

The state will likely go in her favour, if you give up and don't do anything. Because legal guardian is appointed to those who are helpless and can't do anything for themselves. By doing nothing, you prove them right.
Even if it can be a long process, you prove that they may have to reconsider the status of you needing a legal guardian.
But yes, you need an attorney. Don't even try to take the battle with public employees alone.

 

[Гиджет]

Update: The dude whose vehicle I had towed off today actually a dudette and she was not happy that her vehicle was MIA despite being abandoned in front of my house for the last five weeks. My lack of response to her screaming and beating on my door for 15 minutes resulted in 10 sheriffs showing up and hauling her off. Hopefully I will receive my mail tomorrow.

 

[Vingle]

Update: The dude whose vehicle I had towed off today actually a dudette and she was not happy that her vehicle was MIA despite being abandoned in front of my house for the last five weeks. My lack of response to her screaming and beating on my door for 15 minutes resulted in 10 sheriffs showing up and hauling her off. Hopefully I will receive my mail tomorrow.

God, I love a good karma story like this.

 

[Overcast]

A friend and co-worker of mine suffered some pretty bad luck. Hurt his leg on the job and had to walk around with cast while working, his girl left him in the middle of the night and he later found out she did that because she cheated on him. She then had the gall to demand he give her things that he paid for.

And yet he keeps on going and maintains a positive attitude, telling me he doesn't need something like that in his life.

I want to emulate that kind of strength and conviction.

 

[Vingle]

She then had the gall to demand he give her things that he paid for.

Did he give it?

 

[Pandy Fackler]

It is obscenely, gloriously hot. It is going to get hotter. Went to a friends wedding, got so drunk I slept-walked in the basement room where all of us were sleeping and pissed on a couple people. Got off the flight, took a train, returned to my job, immediately worked three days straight. Only now just hotelled up. Showered, now out by the trucks smoking. First shower in over a week, water was black. Hot damn I love being me.

 

[Rack Of CDs]

After many years of avoiding dating because I was scared, I finally asked a girl out that I was interested in. She promptly ghosted me and while I know it was probably because she wasn't interested, I can't help but feel like there's something wrong with me.

 

[Fucky Chucky]

Thank you so much, unfortunately she's not a fan of how I say things and instantly detects my anger.
Her stellar advice: "It's better to be silent and to not hurt other's feelings"

The only idea I have now is to discuss with the therapist on anger management; oh and I'm told to "not curse to the therapist because it's disrespectful when I assumed that it was venting. And in my first session she made me apologize to the therapist for the grave sin of being bilingual and speaking Spanish at home, and having to excuse myself since she yelled at me in said language. I'm dead serious: My mom deliberately taught me to be bilingual "So I can get closer to my roots." and it's now a horrible thing.

There is so much to unpack here. I don't promise good answers but the people who know me do ask for advice. Maybe they shouldn't. Sometimes they say they think they should.
What is really interesting here is that your mother is this involved in your therapy. This should not be the case. This might be something that your therapist is complicit in or it may not but if you are talking about issues you have with your mother the very last thing you want is her involvement.
Becoming vulnerable to your therapist might be difficult but that is going to be much more difficult if one of the people you take exception with is standing in the wings.
Are you an adult?
You usually don't need to tolerate that sort of thing if you are an adult. Weather or not you are you need to try to separate your mother from your therapy. That's the one thing that rings clear is that you need this to be a private thing for you so that you can discuss things and figure things out.

PS: It's usually fine to curse in front of a therapist but don't curse at them and don't speak to them in languages they don't understand. That is rude and it makes the task impossible.

 

[Overcast]

Did he give it?

He didn't. At least from how he was talking.

 

[Vingle]

He didn't. At least from how he was talking.

Then that's a win, could sell it or give it to his family.

 

[Catman from cat town]

I texted my ex a YouTube video that I believe he ignored. I shouldn’t have hoped for any response so he’s muted on my contacts and I turned off read receipts. I’m still hurt that he’s gone for who knows how long. I want him back but I need to get myself back.
EDIT: he texted back in a completely different response then expected but I’m still muting him for my own sake.

 

[Sped Xing]

After many years of avoiding dating because I was scared, I finally asked a girl out that I was interested in. She promptly ghosted me and while I know it was probably because she wasn't interested, I can't help but feel like there's something wrong with me.

If she ghosts you instead of saying "no thanks," it's her with which something os wrong. That's just chickenshit.

 

[glass_houses]

I'm stressed and pissed off. Our housemate is continually at our throats for everything. Today she ripped into me for telling a lame dad joke. She said that she did not like it or find it, and I quote, "jokeful". Male housemate usually takes the brunt of her aggression because he commits the cardinal sin of working nights and coming home early in the morning and waking her, and I usually cop her incessant complaining about it, but she's decided to shake things up a little and target me too. She's forcefully requested a fourth housemate to bring her rent down further- I fucking hate hate hate doing the housemate search, weeding out the losers and the addicts and the troons, I'm autistic and a terrible judge of character, we ended up with her last time, didn't we?- but I rather think I'm looking for her replacement because I'm sick of all the complaining. Yesterday I went into the bathroom to have a shower, which is next to her room, and I overheard her on the phone talking shit about me and I just wanted to smack her in the mouth.

She told me that when she turned sixteen, not a single person turned up for her birthday party- I wonder why! She's made no friends since she got to this city and has only tried to tag along after male housemate and I when we go out with our friends. She's by no means the worst housemate I've ever had, and not even at this very house, but the way she keeps creating problems is really getting to me. She flatly refuses to understand that male housemate is slightly intellectually impaired and that there's always going to be shortfalls in his abilities, and yes, it's annoying but there's absolutely nothing that can be done about it. Likewise myself, but according to what I overheard, she thinks I'm just a 'hypochondriac'.

I'm over it. I'm over her. I've gone to ridiculous lengths to accommodate her and keep her happy and I'm just about done.

 

[Blackhole]

Not good.

Spoiler: idk if this is powerlevel or not

I feel absolutely fucking horrible. Ever since my mom got her fucking Pfizer shot,i haven't had my period. It's been 5 fucking months,and i can't take anymore. I'm paranoid it's permanent,and that i might be infertile,but my mom keeps saying that it's just temporary,and that it'll eventually come,and that it's not the vaccine's fault,and that everything's fine! I hate myself so much,because i had the chance to stop her from getting it and i didn't take it.

 

[Monkey Shoulder]

Not good.

Spoiler: idk if this is powerlevel or not

I feel absolutely fucking horrible. Ever since my mom got her fucking Pfizer shot,i haven't had my period. It's been 5 fucking months,and i can't take anymore. I'm paranoid it's permanent,and that i might be infertile,but my mom keeps saying that it's just temporary,and that it'll eventually come,and that it's not the vaccine's fault,and that everything's fine! I hate myself so much,because i had the chance to stop her from getting it and i didn't take it.

What does those things have to do with one another?

Didn't work out with the lady.
Been on a speed-fueled drunken binge the last two days.
I'm ok.

Still ok.

 

[Cheerlead-in-Chief]

There is so much to unpack here. I don't promise good answers but the people who know me do ask for advice. Maybe they shouldn't. Sometimes they say they think they should.
What is really interesting here is that your mother is this involved in your therapy. This should not be the case. This might be something that your therapist is complicit in or it may not but if you are talking about issues you have with your mother the very last thing you want is her involvement.
Becoming vulnerable to your therapist might be difficult but that is going to be much more difficult if one of the people you take exception with is standing in the wings.
Are you an adult?
You usually don't need to tolerate that sort of thing if you are an adult. Weather or not you are you need to try to separate your mother from your therapy. That's the one thing that rings clear is that you need this to be a private thing for you so that you can discuss things and figure things out.

PS: It's usually fine to curse in front of a therapist but don't curse at them and don't speak to them in languages they don't understand. That is rude and it makes the task impossible.

I am an adult, just due to my mental illnesses and being sent to institutions I'm considered an "Incompetent Person".
In my last therapy session, I did mention an incident in Costco where two white women without face masks were too close to me and mom's compassionate answer was "Then leave Costco! You can't even stand yourself! Hey, we passed by that institution...want me to take you there with no return?"

As for the cursing, it was because a deceased doctor and family friend confided in my mom "that I have the potential to become a school shooter" despite no guns in the household. And years later, my mom accused me of being rumored to be a serial killer.....for stumbling into a bookshelf and taking out a book at a MLM party where everyone else was drinking themselves into a stupor.
And yes, an MLM full of jealous, petty and manipulative people is ideal for me to socialize!! She even downplayed my first mental breakdown as "just stress"

 

[Nick Obre]

Not good.

Spoiler: idk if this is powerlevel or not

I feel absolutely fucking horrible. Ever since my mom got her fucking Pfizer shot,i haven't had my period. It's been 5 fucking months,and i can't take anymore. I'm paranoid it's permanent,and that i might be infertile,but my mom keeps saying that it's just temporary,and that it'll eventually come,and that it's not the vaccine's fault,and that everything's fine! I hate myself so much,because i had the chance to stop her from getting it and i didn't take it.

I'm gonna assume you mean she got you to get the shot, because otherwise you're not making sense

 

[Blackhole]

I'm gonna assume you mean she got you to get the shot, because otherwise you're not making sense

I didn't get the shot,she got the shot. Sorry if i didn't clarify that well,i'm just freaked out about this.