The health risks associated with advanced paternal age are greatly exaggerated, and the scientific literature on the subject generally only shows a correlation between paternal age and birth defects when it is coupled with advanced maternal age. Interestingly, when the mother is young, the findings are far less conclusive, which I'd say very clearly points towards the risks not being equal for men and women.
I wish I could 'trust the science' like I used to be able to in this kinds of stuff. But the cat is out of the bag and science is unfathomably political these days so it wouldn't surprise me if "WELL AKSHULLY MEN CAUSE BIRTH DEFECTS" was pushed by bitter, aging feminists.
Stuff like this is why I never put much stock in "the science is settled" even before COVID. Years ago, I recall reading an article suggesting women are better than men at doing something or another and it dawned on me that I don't see a lot of articles that ever throw men a bone. Then I realized that if any university professor came across that data, he'd probably either bury it or massage the numbers so much they don't even share the same ZIP code as the truth. If you managed to snag yourself tenure at a major university, do you really wanna jeopardize your cush job so some green-haired feminists can yell at you? Or are you going to decide that actually yes, women are better than men in every measurable way and it is only because of the magnamity of wahmen that we are permitted to draw breath at all.
I've seen a couple girls go from freethinkers to niggercattle after dating older guys, strangest thing. Granted the one I know the most details about started talking to the guy when she was 16 and he was 24 and would come to our high school parties.
It's sad that people believe in 'true love' and 'meeting their soul-mates' and what not.
It honestly sounds like you are just bitter about the concept of love itself and how Hollywood has trivialized it to a bunch of emotions rather than the reality that it is another job. Just because romance movies have a highly romanticized (pun not intended) concept of what love is doesn't mean it doesn't exist. It just means that it actually involves some measure of work to keep that relationship afloat and when one person gives up on it, the whole thing falls tits up.
That doesn't really change anything now does it? I can further expand on the idea, because it's obviously not perfect and shouldn't dictate a decision. The idea of half your age plus seven only works for a window of ages, for example if you're 60 then maybe 37 isn't a great idea, and it doesn't take anything but age into consideration. The idea is half your age plus seven is something to consider but it shouldn't make the determination because there's a lot of factors in relationship chemistry rather than just age. This is also why I ended with saying it depends on the people in the relationship. There is a lot that goes into a relationship and age is just one factor.
It's wholly relevant. It's a completely arbitrary calculation based on no principle, but the only reason why you find violations of that convention objectionable is because you give credence to the objection in the first place-- either because you enjoyed Friends, or because you had no reason to be skeptical of it at the time you accepted it. It's circularly justified.
I'm so very sorry that whatever has happened to you left you feeling this way. I promise you can have these things in your life. Anyone can. You just need to figure yourself out first, believe in your own worth, etc, and then the rest will happen naturally over time.
It’s because white women are so privileged that any inconveniences they face are now considered deep societal problems. A “career” woman in her late 30s with over 100 notches on her bedpost and can’t find a man to settle down with sees her male cohorts in relationships with younger women. Therefore age gaps are a crisis that must be addressed immediately. Even if she dated older men when she was younger, that doesn’t matter, the concept of hypocrisy or accepting consequences for her actions is something she doesn’t believes applies to her.
