- Joined
- Oct 27, 2021
Occasionally disaster people become better when they become parents. The vast majority do not.
The ones who actually do are the ones who are struck by the physical and general magnitude of being responsible for someone's entire survival and well-being. They roll up their sleeves and start doing real work for the benefit of their children - they prioritize their children, in real, tangible ways, not just fucking heart emojis online for stripper dollars.
Sometimes people change because the very physical all-encompassing nature of dedicated care of a child (especially also having a job) is exhausting and requires (for most people) giving up a lot of personal things, at least temporarily. Reality hits and they pay heed.
For Alex, she cannot physically take care of anyone, so any "bettering" would have to consist of a sincere internal transformation. But she has neither the exhaustion of new parenthood and the stark choice between what responsibility vs neglect looks like (because she will never have physical responsibility for anyone/the jarring reality of what it means to have it for a child), nor the pre-baby depth of character that might transform into dedicated parenting.
TL; DR: she has neither internal nor external factors suggesting any likelihood she'd give up partying just because baby.
To be fair, the baby isn't even home yet so may feel not quite real. However, is it going to feel any more real when it is? Why would it?
Perhaps it's all for the best. Not sure able-bodied Alex would have or develop the temperament to prioritize a child, so perhaps it's not the worst thing that it will always be other people responsible for her child(ren)'s best physical interests.
