LONG, SORRY: When she says she is messed up - BELIEVE HER! Or else..lol But really that girl is a Borderline, or that guy is an NPD, or both, or whatever, same difference really.. How do I know? Sometimes all you have to do to "break" those types is to recognize them and insinuate that you know of their true nature. They HATE that, with a passion reserved for chlamydia. I've met so many of them in my life, physically or virtually (including this little troll), that it was only reasonable to make it something I get paid for. Every few months I see one coming out of woodworks and honestly, by now I know precisely what time it is the first few minutes I deal with them and really there is absolutely no need to wait for a specific shade of a red flag, their "fish-like" eyes is a dead give away for one (especially prominent on this one).. However, I still enjoy taking them through their cycle, but at a rollercoster speed. Mad fun! They think they are pulling one over you, but you actually pegged them a while ago. For me honestly it's just for experience, because some are darn good, and if you don't stay sharp you lose your gift. The main clue to whether someone is on an NPD spectrum is how they handle theirs and others vulnerability. This one used to cry about it all the time, "Oh poor me" and "I am a victim", but wised up a but lately. Once you see that, you don't have to jump to any conclusions, you can just peacefully look both ways and cross a road to your conclusions. It's almost comical how tantrumy they get over a smallest suggestion that they are not perfect, or their sickness is fake.. and it's so easy to see how pissed they are, even if they try to hide it. They will get even more viscous if you "accidentally" expose some of your own vulnerabilities ..oops..

. You can even tell them you are doing it on purpose, for added difficulty, and they STILL think they are preying on you! They truly are that dense. If you see someone being super duper sensitive and butt hurt about their imperfections, like the lack of importance, knowledge, beauty, sexual prowess or power and at the same time trying to punish you for basically just being a living breathing human with issues, you know you've gotten yourself one of those nasty little critters. They are comical really, and the biggest serpentariums are Instagram and Youtube. My discoveries so far include Megan Parken, Teal Swan, Meghan Rienks, Autumn Asphodel and Lauren Elizabeth. Ya know, the health or lifestyle or beauty "gurus", or "just-a-girl-next-door-just-look-at-me-LOOK-AT-ME!" types. The ones you can't imagine make enough to basically live on youtube the way they do, except it's about much more than piddly pay per view they make by placing adds into their masterpieces. It's about the all forgiving, ego pumping fan base, that they are addicted to. Addicted is actually a major understatement! Not all can be diagnosed due to age limitations, but they don't need a DX really, it's not like they are actually going to work on their issues. It's much easier to learn few textbook coping skills, consider yourself cured and start teaching others, or not even claim that you are "enlightened" and just joke and posture your way into the minds of the gullible crowds, ready to clap at the most mundane of statements. Actually, working on few more as we speak. It's amazingly easy to play with them and see them respond, especially if you let your own true emotions engage them. It feels real to them so it must be real, and for me it's just an exhilaration! They are so gullible and easily controlled, one doesn't have to do much to have them dancing, not a rocket science! All you have to do is show your 100% approval and interest and let them idealize you for few weeks, then add a dash of your own vulnerability (to taste), see them swing into a devaluation a tad, then critisize (offend) them slightly in a constructive way (and hear them rage behind the scenes) and few maneuvers later they act like a complete "word salad" throwing, innuendo and hidden message (gaslighting) wielding puppets.. Or just go away and sulk quietly, even though you are actually being pretty nice about things, like this one did. Then you hold a "mirror to their face" and let them see themselves in all their glory, by making few statements describing or hinting to their condition and bow out. One can do it with facebook posts, and yes I know, immature, but .."when in Rome", and because they are known cyber stalkers. I probably need to grow up and stop messing with spoiled kids like that, but it's just too much fun. I'm sure I'll get tired of it some day though, but for now, show must go on.. In reality though, the hope is that they will see at least some of their patterns, and have a chance to address them (that's why I am posting this now, because my last Narc may possibly have some potential, and googles themselves regularly), so it's not all self-serving, but knowing what NPD is made of I never hold my breath for that.