Dad conned into thinking baby was his 'devastated' - Ryan Hampson says his proudest moment was becoming a father but the child was not his

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A man whose ex-partner forged paternity test results to make him believe he was the father of her child said what she did had ruined his life.

Ryan Hampson was at the child's birth after rekindling his relationship with Beth Fernley after she forged DNA test results to make it appear there was a 99.9% probability he was the father.

Fernley, 26, of Warrington, Cheshire, admitted fraud by false representation at Liverpool Crown Court and was sentenced to 13 months in jail, suspended for 18 months.

Mr Hampson - whose name was on the child's birth certificate - said his proudest moment was becoming a father, but when he found out it was a lie he was "left grieving over a child that was still alive".

He called for a change in the law to allow for mandatory paternity testing before a birth is registered.

But the Home Office said there were no plans to do so.



Beth Fernley forged documents claiming Mr Hampson was the child's father
Mr Hampson told BBC North West Tonight that he asked for the DNA test in 2019 after Fernley told him she was pregnant.

The court heard how Fernley had asked Mr Hampson for £300 towards the test, and then sent him screenshots which she claimed were from company EasyDNA.

Mr Hampson then rekindled his relationship with Fernley.

She later forged another letter when the child was a toddler.

That letter suggested the DNA company had made a mistake and he was not the father, the court heard.

When Mr Hampson contacted the firm, the forgery and deception started to unravel.

He said: "They told me that there was no record of me.

"They never sent the letters to me and they actually told me to seek legal advice because they actually thought I was a victim of fraud."



Ryan Hampson said he wants more recognition and punishment for paternity fraud
He described feeling "shocked", "numb" and "devastated" at the news.

"I honestly couldn't believe it," he said.

His mother, Claire Hampson, said it was "heart-breaking" to watch her son's "whole world fall apart" while trying to process "the fact there's been so much deceit not just to Ryan, but to us as well".

Mr Hampson contacted police in July 2022 and Fernley was arrested.

On sentencing, the Recorder of Liverpool, Judge Andrew Menary, described it as "a particularly dreadful offence".

He said when police became involved she continued to deny she had lied, in a "perpetuation of sinister dishonesty".



Ryan Hampson said he "adored" the child
Mr Hampson and his family want more recognition and punishment for paternity fraud.

"The actions that were committed were utterly dire.

"We are a victim of fraud and I felt like this should have been taken a lot more seriously."

He wanted to keep a relationship with the child who he said he "adored" but the biological father is now back.

"The hardest thing I ever done was to let [them] go," he said.

"I felt like it was the only right thing for me to step away and I have done that to protect [them]."

Mr Hampson said he is having counselling and with the help of his family, was working to rebuild everything that was taken away from him.

'No changes planned'​

A Home Office spokesman said it took such cases seriously.

The spokesman said: "Fraud, and specifically paternity fraud, is a truly terrible crime, and those who provide false information on a birth certificate already face a criminal conviction.

"Work is under way on a new, expanded Fraud Strategy and we continue to work closely with private industry, law enforcement and tech companies to go after those committing fraud."

However, he added: "There are no plans to change the Births and Deaths Registration Act 1953 to include mandatory paternity testing prior to a birth registration taking place."

 

[Clotso Coof]

It’s not an issue to solve with expensive dna tests for literally everyone. The backlog of tests would be unreal.

It's already done.

Most US states do genetic testing on literally every baby born, without even telling the mothers (except burying a notice in the 50 pages of disclosures you sign in the hospital). They're looking for rare genetic diseases. They use the RUSP screen, of 38 diseases, plus some states add up to 20 additional diseases.

There's no backlog on these tests. They get back to your pediatrician really fast to formulate any treatment plan. A paternity test could be added as long as the father appears in the hospital before the baby goes home.

Insidious harlots

That's the name of my next punk band.

 

[Fount of BadSpeak]

It's already done.

Most US states do genetic testing on literally every baby born, without even telling the mothers (except burying a notice in the 50 pages of disclosures you sign in the hospital). They're looking for rare genetic diseases. They use the RUSP screen, of 38 diseases, plus some states add up to 20 additional diseases.

There's no backlog on these tests. They get back to your pediatrician really fast to formulate any treatment plan. A paternity test could be added as long as the father appears in the hospital before the baby goes home

They don't care. None of them care that their arguments to defend cheating, conniving women don't stand up to basic scrutiny, because they began at the conclusion of protecting women from consequences, and they are working their way backwards from there. Even after I already pointed out that the excuses against paternity test are ridiculous, there were still more feminists using the exact same non arguments verbatim, because they do not care that their arguments are bullshit. There is genuinely nothing these people won't say or do to ensure that women are not held accountable under any contexts whatsoever. As I said before, as a man, NOBODY will have your back. Everyone will always support the woman when it comes down to it, no matter how evil her behavior is.

 

[Ser Prize]

I don’t think we should be dna testing everyone routinely for a government database because I don’t trust the government with that info. But I see no reason at all why if someone is claimed to be the parent of a baby and the other parent wants a test, they shouldn’t have one. Refusing to I saying they can’t trust you, either parent should be able to ask for one
With all the dodgy cases around the wrong ivf embryos being implanted, if I had an ivf baby I’d be wanting it checked too.

There's no easy way to ask for a paternity test and not have suspicions. Perhaps fairly so, for by it's own nature it's an act of doubt, and seeking reassurance. You will always be 'her jerk husband who thought she was cheating' and you will never live that down.

If it's just a mandatory thing at birth that doesn't need to happen, you can stop shit like this and you don't have to make men gamble on it for fear of hurt feelings. And as was already pointed out: the government already has your DNA if you do basically anything medical.

 

[Safir]

If it's just a mandatory thing at birth that doesn't need to happen, you can stop shit like this and you don't have to make men gamble on it for fear of hurt feelings. And as was already pointed out: the government already has your DNA if you do basically anything medical.

No. Marriages are built on trust. THe natural marriage relationship is asymmetrical: the husband, living with the wife, sees what's happening to her body, while he can fuck and impregnate sluts and victims, donate and sell navy, or go full elongated muskrat and rent slaves and buy children. The wife trusts the husband to not do this, therefore the husband should trust the wife. If you want a symmetrical relationship with no trust, marry a gae.

If you don't trust your wife to not cuck you, you should not trust her in anything at all (e.g. to not sell or murder or pimp out the baby, to not rob or murder you). That is not marriage.

Cucking a man like that is subhuman, bottom quintile behavior.

However:
- matchmaking matches like to like. WHoever you paired up with depends on who you are. If you wifed up bottom quintile, you're extremely likely to be bottom quintile, too.
- if you don't trust your wife and nevertheless wifed her, you're bottom quintile
- and if you didn't trust your wife and the baby's yours, you need to go to prison forever for saddling humanity and her with a dysgenic baby.

Families of subhumans are such that CPS needs to check on them weekly to see if she remembered to feed the baby and if he rememebered to not rape the baby. For the four upper quintiles, this would be intolerable. Likewise paternity testing. If you think it should be required of normal people, you're bottom quintile, kill yourself.

 

[Sailor Kim Jong Moon]

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It’s a couple of percent. About one in fifty in the uk

im gonna guess that that percent shifts wildly depending on which sub-culture you’re sampling

Again, if my husband demanded my baby take a paternity test, I’d be offended. First that they’re accusing me of cheating, second they’re accusing me of trying to deny a child the right to their biological father.

If you think your sex partner is cheating on you or capable of lying about paternity, you need to reevaluate who you’re fucking.

I also don’t wanna pay extra cash every pregnancy to get an unnecessary paternity test because less than what? 2% of trashy people make poor life choices

 

[Ser Prize]

No. Marriages are built on trust. THe natural marriage relationship is asymmetrical: the husband, living with the wife, sees what's happening to her body, while he can fuck and impregnate sluts and victims, donate and sell navy, or go full elongated muskrat and rent slaves and buy children.

That's retarded and exactly the type of take I'd expect from a child hating dyke like yourself. You phrase it like the wife is doing her husband a favour by sacrificing herself to bear the child. And that the payment is that the husband must support his wife and child(obviously) but blindly trust that she may not take advantage of him? Because 'it's built on trust', apparently.

If you don't trust your wife to not cuck you, you should not trust her in anything at all (e.g. to not sell or murder or pimp out the baby, to not rob or murder you). That is not marriage.

How many stories have we seen where a man is loveblind and trusted a woman he really, really shouldn't? Just "lol fuck him" I guess? Paternity fraud is about the greatest betrayal a wife can do to her husband, and I see no reason why we shouldn't take the barest steps(mandatory paternity testing at birth) to minimize it.

 

[Otterly]

Again, if my husband demanded my baby take a paternity test, I’d be offended.

Yeah I’d be pretty upset by that, but I guess we are both looking at it from a position of stable marriage. Where you’ve got this kind of ‘well it might be yours, or Mike’s…’ situation, or where a man is denying it’s his and doesn’t want to pay for a child that’s not his, or where he suspects a child is his and wants contact, then it should be an option.
I certainly don’t want the government insisting we are all on file.

 

[Sailor Kim Jong Moon]

Yeah I’d be pretty upset by that, but I guess we are both looking at it from a position of stable marriage. Where you’ve got this kind of ‘well it might be yours, or Mike’s…’ situation, or where a man is denying it’s his and doesn’t want to pay for a child that’s not his, or where he suspects a child is his and wants contact, then it should be an option.
I certainly don’t want the government insisting we are all on file.

I also wonder from a bioethics/liability standpoint point.

It’s one thing if a father takes the initiative to test the infant. It’s all on him.

Let’s say a hospital tests a newborn, it’s not the child’s father. That turns the maternity ward into an episode of Jerry Springer. It could lead to violence or instability when a woman is at her physically - most vulnerable.

let’s say the hospital tells the dad the kid isn’t his and he takes it poorly and kills the kid or wife. I imagine a lawsuit would stop the practice because of the ethical consideration. Nobody wants that liability

Men: if you’re worried, do the test yourself. Swab and mail it YOURSELF. Not like the dumb ass in the story.

 

[AnotherPleb]

If YOU want to pester your wife about it, force a cotton swab in your infants mouth, and spend the cash, then fine.

A lot of people don’t stick their dick in crazy.

Out in the real world, shit like this is uncommon.

Having it mandated in every hospital is a waste of time & money for the vast majority of people.

Fathers should trust the mother so they can both bond with the baby before birth ideally. Instead of waiting for some DNA company to give them a green light to love their newborn.

A&N is so fucking weird sometimes. Do you guys know normal young families? Or are you imagining these scenarios from A&N articles?

Marriages are supposed to be built on trust, but bad actors prey on good intentions. After all, there's clear financial incentives for doing so and their friends don't have incentives for calling the bad actors out.

 

[Ser Prize]

It could lead to violence or instability when a woman is at her physically - most vulnerable.

I notice your sympathy for the hypothetical woman, not the hypothetical man who just had his fucking trust betrayed. Quite telling.

Both of your points are "BUT THERE MIGHT BE CONSEQUENCES FOR THE BETRAYAL". And I have to ask: shouldn't there be?

 

[Dr Cruel]

'"If you’ve been following the Brett Fairley paternity fraud saga on TikTok, you probably already know this story has been one wild emotional rollercoaster. But just when we thought Brett might finally be getting some peace after exposing a wild case of paternity fraud, the system pulled a fast one. Again.

If you need a refresher, Brett Fairley went on The Real Stuff with Lucie Fink last month and gave a full breakdown of the viral TikTok story he’s been slowly unraveling in six parts (now deleted). The story makes your jaw drop, your stomach twist, and your trust issues flare.
On The Real Stuff with Lucie Fink, Brett’s story started with a one-night stand in 2020 with a woman named Maria Nguyen. Months later, she reached out asking Brett to be a sperm donor, explaining she wanted to be a single mom. Brett—in what, admittedly, turned out to be a boneheaded move—agreed, without signing any legal agreements in the process. They hooked up two weekends in a row, and Maria claimed she was pregnant shortly thereafter.

And that’s where it got weird."

There’s a Shocking Update in the Brett Fairley Paternity Fraud Saga

 

[pikachudidnothingwrong]

'"If you’ve been following the Brett Fairley paternity fraud saga on TikTok, you probably already know this story has been one wild emotional rollercoaster. But just when we thought Brett might finally be getting some peace after exposing a wild case of paternity fraud, the system pulled a fast one. Again.

If you need a refresher, Brett Fairley went on The Real Stuff with Lucie Fink last month and gave a full breakdown of the viral TikTok story he’s been slowly unraveling in six parts (now deleted). The story makes your jaw drop, your stomach twist, and your trust issues flare.
On The Real Stuff with Lucie Fink, Brett’s story started with a one-night stand in 2020 with a woman named Maria Nguyen. Months later, she reached out asking Brett to be a sperm donor, explaining she wanted to be a single mom. Brett—in what, admittedly, turned out to be a boneheaded move—agreed, without signing any legal agreements in the process. They hooked up two weekends in a row, and Maria claimed she was pregnant shortly thereafter.

And that’s where it got weird."

There’s a Shocking Update in the Brett Fairley Paternity Fraud Saga

Brett Fairley has been arrested​

Here’s the real shocker: Over the weekend, Brett Fairley was arrested in Mississippi on several counts, including contempt of court.

This detail was confirmed by none other than his girlfriend, Nurse Hadley (yes, that Nurse Hadley), who left a comment on TikTok stating that Brett had been taken into custody. Subsequently, Harris County released Brett’s mugshot, revealing he’d been hit with several other charges besides the contempt. While Brett has not made an official statement, all of Brett’s TikTok videos about the case have disappeared.

Why? Because he wasn’t legally allowed to post them in the first place.

Despite a judge ruling in Brett’s favor regarding the paternity fraud itself—acknowledging that the child is not biologically his and recognizing the deception—he did not lift the gag order previously imposed on Brett. Even more frustrating? The court also didn’t require Maria to repay the money she received through this lie. Not the rent-free living. Not the direct payments. Not the back child support Brett was tricked into paying.

So, while Brett may have been vindicated biologically and morally, the court still bound him to silence. By speaking up—by telling the truth—he violated that order, hence the arrest.

How the fuck?! Despicable! judge needs o lose job. It's not just the, general, criminal and civil courts that need cleaned up.. The family courts need totally wiped are reformed.

 

[The best and greatest]

In

im gonna guess that that percent shifts wildly depending on which sub-culture you’re sampling

Again, if my husband demanded my baby take a paternity test, I’d be offended. First that they’re accusing me of cheating, second they’re accusing me of trying to deny a child the right to their biological father.

If you think your sex partner is cheating on you or capable of lying about paternity, you need to reevaluate who you’re fucking.

I also don’t wanna pay extra cash every pregnancy to get an unnecessary paternity test because less than what? 2% of trashy people make poor life choices

Yeah I’d be pretty upset by that, but I guess we are both looking at it from a position of stable marriage. Where you’ve got this kind of ‘well it might be yours, or Mike’s…’ situation, or where a man is denying it’s his and doesn’t want to pay for a child that’s not his, or where he suspects a child is his and wants contact, then it should be an option.
I certainly don’t want the government insisting we are all on file.

"What do you MEAN you want me to waste my money on a test proving I don't have herpes before we sleep together?! Im so offended you'd even think that of me, where's the trust!?!?!?!!?"

If someone else exercising reasonable caution and a basic semblance of self preservation offends you that says more about you than it does them.

 

[Dr Cruel]

I cannot determine who is telling the truth or even if I'm being played for clicks. It does explain the low birth rate.

 

[deleuzeon]

How the fuck?!

Ridiculous. A woman can lie about your paternity and swindle you emotionally and financially and she won't do one day in jail for it. And you can't talk about it and you never get paid back, and this is what the "justice system" says. Feminism honestly BTFO completely and forever. Nothing feminists believe about society is correct. It gives them every possible advantage and affordance.

 

[>IMPLYING]

Mr Hampson then rekindled his relationship with Fernley.

She later forged another letter when the child was a toddler.

That letter suggested the DNA company had made a mistake and he was not the father, the court heard.

When Mr Hampson contacted the firm, the forgery and deception started to unravel.

He wanted to keep a relationship with the child who he said he "adored" but the biological father is now back.

"The hardest thing I ever done was to let [them] go," he said.

"I felt like it was the only right thing for me to step away and I have done that to protect [them]."

Horrific. Tricked one guy into playing the father as a temp until the biological dad came back into her life.

Earnestly, I know it's "cuckoldry/cuck-behaviour" or some other pejorative, but this is a somewhat common issue with step-parents in general, who do form an attachment to the children but then have all contact severed. This bloke invested 3 years of his life into raising this child he thought was his, only to have fatherhood taken from him, and even after learning it was all lies he still wanted to raise it or keep contact, only to have that taken away too.

The way I see it, her plan (justified on her part as providing what's "best" for her child) was probably:
1. Trick guy into playing cuckoo whilst true father is away, raising the child and providing support.
2. Reveal truth later and hope he left of his own accord since the child is what brought them together.
3. True father slides in to replace the cuckoo and nobody is none the wiser.
This plan creates a scenario where nobody is "hurt" by any of this and her motive justified in her view, so she's utterly absolved of guilt. If she never intended for the real father to slide back into things then there was no reason at all for the 2nd forged letter other than to soothe her own conscience; if you steal a thousand dollars but put it back later, you technically did nothing wrong to begin with, right? The alternative to her actually feeling guilty is that she saw he was too happy in the role and she wanted to emotionally devastate him, because she's a vicious cunt.

There's only varying intensities of maliciousness, she's still a massive piece of shit in all of them. The only hope here, seeing as she'll face no consequences for this from the law, is the child being exposed to the truth of who is mother is in the future. Here's hoping "I did it for you" isn't enough to prevent estrangement. She deserves to be alone and utterly unloved, and I hope she's been ostracised by anyone who knows her and of what she did.

 

[Krayt Dragon]

There's no easy way to ask for a paternity test and not have suspicions. Perhaps fairly so, for by it's own nature it's an act of doubt, and seeking reassurance. You will always be 'her jerk husband who thought she was cheating' and you will never live that down.

I think the best solution is to extend a paternity testing right to men, which does not need to be disclosed to the woman in his life. For fairness, we can extend the same right to women (there might be a 0.0001% of cases where it would be warranted)

You test it, it comes back and says "lol u were a dumb retard she didnt lie" and you can trust your partner again.

 

[Ser Prize]

I think the best solution is to extend a paternity testing right to men, which does not need to be disclosed to the woman in his life. For fairness, we can extend the same right to women (there might be a 0.0001% of cases where it would be warranted)

You test it, it comes back and says "lol u were a dumb retard she didnt lie" and you can trust your partner again.

We've debated it before in this thread: I think mandatory paternity testing at birth would solve so many issues.

 

[NoIdeaWhatImDoing]

you can check blood types at the very least

 

[frozen_runner]

I have to say, it would cross my mind, were I in his place, that paying someone to kill the lying bitch might be more affordable than two decades of child support for a kid that isn't even mine. And more just, too.

I wouldn't do it. But I would think about it. And then probably flee the country.