Dad conned into thinking baby was his 'devastated' - Ryan Hampson says his proudest moment was becoming a father but the child was not his

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A man whose ex-partner forged paternity test results to make him believe he was the father of her child said what she did had ruined his life.

Ryan Hampson was at the child's birth after rekindling his relationship with Beth Fernley after she forged DNA test results to make it appear there was a 99.9% probability he was the father.

Fernley, 26, of Warrington, Cheshire, admitted fraud by false representation at Liverpool Crown Court and was sentenced to 13 months in jail, suspended for 18 months.

Mr Hampson - whose name was on the child's birth certificate - said his proudest moment was becoming a father, but when he found out it was a lie he was "left grieving over a child that was still alive".

He called for a change in the law to allow for mandatory paternity testing before a birth is registered.

But the Home Office said there were no plans to do so.

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Beth Fernley forged documents claiming Mr Hampson was the child's father
Mr Hampson told BBC North West Tonight that he asked for the DNA test in 2019 after Fernley told him she was pregnant.

The court heard how Fernley had asked Mr Hampson for £300 towards the test, and then sent him screenshots which she claimed were from company EasyDNA.

Mr Hampson then rekindled his relationship with Fernley.

She later forged another letter when the child was a toddler.

That letter suggested the DNA company had made a mistake and he was not the father, the court heard.

When Mr Hampson contacted the firm, the forgery and deception started to unravel.

He said: "They told me that there was no record of me.

"They never sent the letters to me and they actually told me to seek legal advice because they actually thought I was a victim of fraud."

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Ryan Hampson said he wants more recognition and punishment for paternity fraud
He described feeling "shocked", "numb" and "devastated" at the news.

"I honestly couldn't believe it," he said.

His mother, Claire Hampson, said it was "heart-breaking" to watch her son's "whole world fall apart" while trying to process "the fact there's been so much deceit not just to Ryan, but to us as well".

Mr Hampson contacted police in July 2022 and Fernley was arrested.

On sentencing, the Recorder of Liverpool, Judge Andrew Menary, described it as "a particularly dreadful offence".

He said when police became involved she continued to deny she had lied, in a "perpetuation of sinister dishonesty".

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Ryan Hampson said he "adored" the child
Mr Hampson and his family want more recognition and punishment for paternity fraud.

"The actions that were committed were utterly dire.

"We are a victim of fraud and I felt like this should have been taken a lot more seriously."

He wanted to keep a relationship with the child who he said he "adored" but the biological father is now back.

"The hardest thing I ever done was to let [them] go," he said.

"I felt like it was the only right thing for me to step away and I have done that to protect [them]."

Mr Hampson said he is having counselling and with the help of his family, was working to rebuild everything that was taken away from him.

'No changes planned'​

A Home Office spokesman said it took such cases seriously.

The spokesman said: "Fraud, and specifically paternity fraud, is a truly terrible crime, and those who provide false information on a birth certificate already face a criminal conviction.

"Work is under way on a new, expanded Fraud Strategy and we continue to work closely with private industry, law enforcement and tech companies to go after those committing fraud."

However, he added: "There are no plans to change the Births and Deaths Registration Act 1953 to include mandatory paternity testing prior to a birth registration taking place."
 
I have to say, it would cross my mind, were I in his place, that paying someone to kill the lying bitch might be more affordable than two decades of child support for a kid that isn't even mine. And more just, too.

I wouldn't do it. But I would think about it. And then probably flee the country.
Her getting caught saved him that fate. If she got away with the lie entirely, and he broke up with her, then he might've agreed to some sort of arrangement with her whilst the actual father slides back in. I'm not sure if this is a thing in America but in the UK a lot of separations work out private arrangements for maintenance.
The 2021 Survey of Separated Parents showed that separated families with family-based arrangements were characterised by more amicable relationships between parents than those with a statutory arrangement or no arrangement. Of parents with low levels of conflict, 75% had arranged their financial support privately, compared to 52% of parents with high conflict.

Looking into it, I discovered that if there's disagreements about parentage and you made an arrangement using the state to sort it all out, you can ask them to conduct a DNA test if you feel that the child isn't yours.

If you prove you’re not the parent​

When this happens, the Child Maintenance Service may:

  • refund the payments you’ve made since the date you denied you were the parent
  • offset the amount you’ve paid in child maintenance against maintenance for another child you pay for
  • refund the cost of any DNA tests arranged through the service
  • ask the other parent to pay back any child maintenance to you
I'm pleasantly surprised at this.

And if you discover the kid isn't yours independent and you work it out privately you can just stop paying. Not like she can force you to. Moral obligation and attachment to the child might but that's your a personal circumstance.
 
Never gonna happen. It's an issue that only affects guys so nothing will happen. It sucks but that's life for a guy.
The only way that will happen is if we lift the plight of the trans polycule where the man is pregnant and one of the ladies might be the father(hopefully not the one that is going to prison for sex crimes against children).
Or if it helps regular polycules with one fat non-binary chick and a bunch of skinny dweebs.
Situations like that is the only way to get a foot in the door on an issue like this.
 
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