deep thots on polyamory - and other relationships with more than 2 people

[potatofarms]

simple fix: women belong to the father at birth and until he sells her to a husband. when the husband gets bored of her shit 247 he applies for a swap with some other nagged, disinterested chap. no divorce, no cheating, no lawers picking the bones of the fallen. and also no welfare hoes.
if a mate cant be arranged in the first place, or there is no father, she becomes ward of state and used for practice sex or breeding programmes

 

[WelperHelper99]

Take it from a Mormon: don't try it

Even by some small miracle your marriage(s) is successful, you will be mocked and shunned and hunted down by the wider world for centuries. And I do mean CENTURIES. That includes those that never took part in it but are related to those that did, either by blood or simple affiliation. It's not worth it bros.

 

[CastrationFrustration]

In poly there's an active manipulator who just wants to fuck and mooch from different peiple and then beta cucks who orbit that person because they have low self esteem or feel tolerating an emotionally abusive arrangement is the only way to get breadcrums of affection.

Poly is always one sided even when they claim partners have equal rights and can both cheat. Its never the case. Someone is always getting the short end of the stick

Most poly people are fat and ugly and i would bot have sex with them. Its a scheme for low quality people to find other low quality people and make a secual time-share scam . Decent folk with something to bring to a relationship don't need poly and wouldn't tolerate it.

This is something I've noticed popping up on my social media feeds a lot more lately. None of these people in these poly relationships are conventionally attractive; they're usually all autistic or a female autist who's surrounded by ugly but otherwise normal dudes with low self esteem.

I also dislike when they bring children into the situation. As in, a partner they bring in has children and they all become "parents" to said children. That's way too goddamn confusing to these poor kids. Just to be swingers or whatever the fuck you are without getting the kids involved in your clusterfuck of a dynamic.

 

[LinkinParkxNaruto[AMV]]

also dislike when they bring children into the situation. As in, a partner they bring in has children and they all become "parents" to said children. That's way too goddamn confusing to these poor kids. Just to be swingers or whatever the fuck you are without getting the kids involved in your clusterfuck of a dynamic.

at least the oldschool marriages where the parents fucked around knew enough to keep their private stuff away from their family life. But there's always gonna be selfish retards thinking they can reinvent the wheel and reinvent warm water for coom's sake, all the sexual liberation hippie communes should have been a wake up call of the horrible stuff that happens to kids under these types of dinamics, nothing good came out of all those social experiments.

 

[Delight]

I don't believe you can both love and respect a partner if you have desires to be with someone else alongside them. I wouldn't consider that love, if your partner is not enough to sate all your desires and goals in romance. What's the point then? Perhaps you're a very selfish person or you're a deviant. Like many have said in the replies: someone always comes out losing, or someone is generally too weak to walk away from the partner suggesting it or they are simply easily manipulated into agreeing to things; people-pleasers are unfortunately some of the biggest victims when it comes to polyamory. Monogamy rocks!

 

[catinasock]

If there's a way to make polygamy work it has to be something both parties are looking for BEFORE any relationship begins. If a partner tries to introduce it to a pre-existing relationship I think it's doomed at that point. People will always be jealous of the other parties and subtly keeping score. I'm sure there are a couple redditoids who are happy in their situation, but for the general public it's just not something i think people are emotionally developed enough to handle.

I think there is some nuance to the idea of having one romantic partner and multiple sexual partners. A married man could solicit a prostitute and still love his wife. There are situations where it could be compared to porn at that point.

But no, I don't think multiple partners is a good idea in general

 

[74164978231]

I think there is some nuance to the idea of having one romantic partner and multiple sexual partners. A married man could solicit a prostitute and still love his wife. There are situations where it could be compared to porn at that point.

Yeah, going off and fucking someone riddled with genital herpes/warts and bringing back to your wife is totally the act of a loving husband.

 

[SpergioLeonne]

I think there is some nuance to the idea of having one romantic partner and multiple sexual partners. A married man could solicit a prostitute and still love his wife. There are situations where it could be compared to porn at that point.

Yes, I think men have an easier item isolating sex as just sex. But that doesn’t address the part of how your wife feels about it. It doesn’t help her out at all.

So what if she says she wants things to be even, she doesn’t want to be a girlcuck? Now does it help, knowing that she is more likely to form an emotional attachment out of it?

 

[wtfNeedSignUp]

The current focus on polyamory is the result of multiple generation of deeply selfish people spurred by a media legitimising that selfishness. As well as trying to relive their past before becoming engaged. Suffice to say it's extremely harmful.

 

[Bloitzhole]

If there's a way to make polygamy work it has to be something both parties are looking for BEFORE any relationship begins. If a partner tries to introduce it to a pre-existing relationship I think it's doomed at that point.

Judging anecdotally from polyamorous relationships in my vicinity, that seems to be the most common denominator of success. I am aware of two that have held for a decade+ and it started with both agreeing that while they were each other's "mains", they also wanted to see other people in future for w/e reasons.
All previously exclusive relationships that "opened up" later were either in their death knells to begin with, or turned sour as a consequence because one party was always less okay with it than the other and just went along.

 

[SilentDuck]

When I hear the Polywords I hope its in conjunction with that person being young, horny/perverted, inexperienced, traumatized or just an all around poor decision maker. Just a phase and a few STDs later, and finding yourself being cheated on anyway regardless of the relationship configuration you've agreed to you'll understand why monogamy became civilization's gold standard.

Hearing all the not 20 something people that are far older go on about it like it's a personal religion, cure-all for the human condition and fixes all the "negative" aspects of monogamy that require you to be responsible for your own actions and decisions when it comes to an intimate partner always ends in insanity. Just variations of the same deranged rhetorical excercise to justify shitty behaviors.

Just admit to being a horny retard who either chooses relationships poorly or isn't going to be happy with who they are with, no matter who that person is because they project their own dysfunction onto their partners and need to blame them. Some of these fuckers are parents with adolescents and teenagers and go the one step further and start mixing their kids around other polytard "families" to try to legitimize it like it's the Brady Bunch. Those people should be shamed, fined and run out of town, etc.

Older I get the more I suspect the greasy swingertards are the only normal people with any kind of a grasp on reality.

 

[Moths]

You could probably go pretty deep in the thot

 

[Faggy Blanket]

I don't think it's possible to have a fully realized, "true" relationship with more than one person. It's already almost impossible to maintain it with one person, let alone 2+. Most examples of poly that I see are just people atomizing of the components of a relationship (emotional support, sex, etc) with different people, which is frankly gross and disturbing. I can only see it working with young, eternal bachelor/bachelorette type people who will inevitably move on from the arrangement.

 

[Fougaro]

Sorry for the late and homosexual answer!

I dunno about that. If it is artificial why is being cheated on or dumped such a painful experience that in the case of cheating can drive otherwise sane people to murder?

Because betrayal is something we humans tend to get really butthurt about.

Also marriage is kind of a universal concept among human cultures, even those disconnected tribal highlander types in papa. On the otherhand, Polygamy is not nearly as widespread and among certain cultures like Western ones is almost nonexistant in recorded history except for heavily persecuted groups like Mormons.

Polygamy is, outside of some weird religious cults, not as widespread because it makes, for reasons I already mentioned, civilisation itself impossible. Hence why the institution of marriage is so ubiquitous. While monogamy may not be natural for primates like us, it is just the next logical step if you want to leave the stone age. The reason why it used to be the norm way the fuck back during our earliest beginnings is because that's how primates, including us humans, evolved.

We could technically go back to polygamy, eating lice of each other's hair and getting felted by sabre-toothed cats, but I'd personally prefer not to. But then again, that's just me.

 

[Fukase]

It never works. The nature of humans does not work that way. We are programmed to be monogamous. We may be predisposed to change mates in some cases unlike some animals that are programmed to completely mate for life, but not to have two at the same time. This is why jealousy exists. And by this I mean within an emotionally driven relationship, not just 1-time sex.

Even people who claim they don't feel jealousy do to some degree and are coping. Sure, people get excited at the idea of having multiple women or men to fuck but they don't want to be on the receiving end. This is why you see so many cases of a partner asking for an open relationship and getting angry when the other one finally goes out and fucks around too. They don't want to actually deal with it, as much as they've deluded themselves.

Eventually it falls apart. No man, as much as they say otherwise, wants to see a woman they are in love with have another man's child. No woman wants to see a man they are in love with impregnate another woman. It is in our biology to feel that way. Even without the factor of children someone is going to get less attention, resent it and it'll all blow up.

 

[CornBogFitz]

I have a ton of swinger friends and poly and pan fags I hang around. Everyone knows it’s bullshit. It’s always someone stringing someone along that can’t deal with the heartache of break up. Other times is so easy to tell that they love eachother too. They need that copium of “oh they left, makes sense, we were in poly relationship” it’s also just fear of commitment. Sometimes it’s just they’re fucking ugly. They never work. Even those in them know it.

 

[Not A Bunny]

Take it from a Mormon: don't try it

Even by some small miracle your marriage(s) is successful, you will be mocked and shunned and hunted down by the wider world for centuries. And I do mean CENTURIES. That includes those that never took part in it but are related to those that did, either by blood or simple affiliation. It's not worth it bros.

It's also a recipe for civil unrest.

People talk about how awful this kind of society is for women, but imagine being a young man who can't find a wife because all of the women of his age have been scooped up by richer, older men.

You now have a breeding ground for unrest because said young men may not have a path to his own prosperity and fulfillment.

You get enough of those and, well, there's a saying about someone not feeling the village's warmth will burn the village down to feel it.

 

[CornBogFitz]

Everyone imagines poly couples as some thing like whore+cuck. This is more rare than you think. I know a lot of poly couples they all seem to fall under a few categories

1. The codependent couple that is afraid of commitment so they just pretend they’re having fun

2. The lonely lesbian + psycho BPD whore + revolving door of simps

3. Man is in prison.

 

[equinsu_ocha]

From my personal observations with polyamory, and a small dabbling, it's fucking retarded. People are exhausting. Maintaining a monogamous relationship is hard, imagine throwing more people into the mix and having to intimately consider the thoughts, needs and emotions of all parties involved. When you're in a stable and loving monogamous relationship, it's the most beautiful feeling in the world. Akin to the security you felt as a young child in a safe, loving familial environment. If you were fortunate enough to have that environment. You do not have that shit in polyamory, just selfishness and drama. Anyone who says otherwise is either a liar or ignorant. Again, personal opinion based off experience.

 

[Ser Prize]

It's also a recipe for civil unrest.

People talk about how awful this kind of society is for women, but imagine being a young man who can't find a wife because all of the women of his age have been scooped up by richer, older men.

You now have a breeding ground for unrest because said young men may not have a path to his own prosperity and fulfillment.

You get enough of those and, well, there's a saying about someone not feeling the village's warmth will burn the village down to feel it.

Look at the rates of young male virginity vs female. We're already at that point.

Instead of reflecting the female answer is to call those young hopeless men creepy incels who deserve it.