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My cat died and I feel like shit.
A couple weeks back mine did. He had had a couple fairly recent close calls but got better for a final period of a few months of at least being reasonably healthy with an appetite. One morning he just couldn't move and was laying in the litter box because he'd gone incontinent. He'd done that once or twice before but this time it was pretty obvious he was a goner.

He had a slight rally the day after where he ravenously ate everything he could and drank water, but he still couldn't move. I set him a bed and left food and water with him if he went back to eating but he didn't. What I fucking hated is he was absolutely terrified to go outside even when in good health and if he was going to the vet he wasn't coming back.

He still seemed lucid and aware and would track you with his eyes, and liked to be petted, but he stopped eating and drinking. I was worried he'd linger on and I'd ultimately have to get him the jab, but he didn't seem to be in any immediate pain, just really feeble. And about the day after he stopped eating he passed away quietly in his sleep, so he got to die at home.

This cat was sick all his damn life but still lasted something like 17 years.
 
A couple weeks back mine did. He had had a couple fairly recent close calls but got better for a final period of a few months of at least being reasonably healthy with an appetite. One morning he just couldn't move and was laying in the litter box because he'd gone incontinent. He'd done that once or twice before but this time it was pretty obvious he was a goner.

He had a slight rally the day after where he ravenously ate everything he could and drank water, but he still couldn't move. I set him a bed and left food and water with him if he went back to eating but he didn't. What I fucking hated is he was absolutely terrified to go outside even when in good health and if he was going to the vet he wasn't coming back.

He still seemed lucid and aware and would track you with his eyes, and liked to be petted, but he stopped eating and drinking. I was worried he'd linger on and I'd ultimately have to get him the jab, but he didn't seem to be in any immediate pain, just really feeble. And about the day after he stopped eating he passed away quietly in his sleep, so he got to die at home.

This cat was sick all his damn life but still lasted something like 17 years.
Mine got put to sleep, but it was very much time. Had been old, sick, and wasting for a long time, weaker and trouble chewing, then got an infection, really disgusting one, probably would have had to stay at the vet on IV to fix it. Wasn't going to torture my old friend like that, so time to say goodnight.
 
People in my life have been really unreliable. They've been forgetting every plan, dropping out swiftly when they do, and generally just making it feel like a waste of time to take the effort to remain connected. I can sympathize with having things come up, they do plenty. Yet.. every single time I'm not buying.

Stop flaking. Just tell me you are busy, you are tired, or you won't make it. I have no problem respecting that.
 
Police won't do shit unless you're black, so it doesn't matter.
I'm pretty sure it's illegal to murder or attack people whether or not you hate them while you're doing it.
 
I should be excited for my new job starting early July, but finding an apartment has been a bitch. I'm moving from NE Ohio to SE Pennsylvania, roughly an hour or so from Philadelphia. Every time I find something good in the area, either it's at the high end of what I can afford but no utilities, there's no availability until at least August to as late as November, or it gets snapped up when I'm in the process of trying to set up some kind of showing. The middle of the city has lots of crime so I want to avoid if at all possible but idk. Everything I get suggested so far from people I've talked to at the location ends up not panning out for the above, and in one case I got suggested a complex only for it to be seniors only. I found a listing where the building looked ok but not in a great area....but the apartments.com listing was entirely in Spanish. WTF.
 
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I'm getting the quote bug.
You didn't do the wrong thing at all. And if you have to give her the brief stress of a trip to the vets before she goes - it's a very small amount of suffering compared to the good life experiences you gave her. I've let rats die at home, after long illness and I've had them euthanised and there are no life endings when you don't think about what you could have done better - but you're clearly an experienced and caring rat owner and you've given her a good life while you had her. She sounds like a really great old lass, they just keep going, don't they?
If she's still with you, tiny amounts of dark chocolate is a broncho-dilator for rats with myco. It can give them temporary relief while you get them to the vet. It really helped one of my girls when she was struggling for breath.
My best wishes to you both.

ETA: I'm OK. Got a week off work. Got about a billion things I need to catch up on but 'll be happy if I achieve 3.
 
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Came to kitchen to see my sister procrastinate by building a well out of MY sausage pieces (paused to read mid-dinner prep)
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I'm just going to rant. Apologies.

Commerce overall is starting to get outrageous.
Trying to do things over the internet is becoming absurd because at this point shipping via usps even just a couple states over with a fairly small box costs like fucking 15$ or 20$; it's already tough to undercut places like Amazon, and USPS/fed ex shipping usually takes longer, but what do you do when shipping starts costing half the price of an item?

Not that it matters, since nothing sells anymore anyways. Regular people don't have money, people who do have money seem to mostly be retarded consoomers who will buy from whichever option is the quickest regardless of price or quality, and I can't even totally blame them because the quality of online dealers has gone down the drain.


The only people you can deal with anymore are local, except people have developed this sort of learned helplessness where they legitimately cannot orient themselves without using the internet somehow, and everyone has become a bunch of squirrely neurotics to the point it's starting to aggravate me.

They won't speak to other people; if you actively make it clear, no, me and you are speaking to each other now, then they'll usually wake up and converse with you and they seem very happy to be doing so, and it's nice, people on the whole are pretty alright, but it's like...if you enjoy social interaction, why the fuck don't you just talk to each other then and not force people to pull teeth? Even in places where you'd think people were going to be really outgoing they all seem to be scared of each other, and there's no excuse for it. I'm not an especially social a person.

The problem is since nobody speaks to each other, that's produces an issue where there's no local exchange of information or services. Nobody knows anything you couldn't find out online, nor can they spread the word that they need anything, you could be living two houses down from someone who has some multiple hundred dollar device or something you could fix within 15 minutes, they could have a simple car issue, whatever, and you won't even know it, they'll go "Oh well, nothing I can do I guess", toss it in the garbage, and order a new one from fucking Amazon, or way overpay some franchise company to do whatever they need done. Contracting opportunities have gone out the window.

Personally I feel just fine, but I seriously have no idea what is going on anymore or what the hell to do about it.
 
The more I reflect at work and during my commute the more I resent my family. I rebelled, but they were extremely strict and basically wanted me to be a nu-male and not criticize the government. Missed out on spending a summer with my close friends including teenage crushes when I was much younger because they smoked weed and family went through messages and sent me to grandparents for example, three of the girls have since done professional modelling.

They want me to date single moms, volunteer for Ukraine, and get offended that I'm anti-refugee. I kind of expected it to work out, but now I'm coming to realize that I missed out on some great experiences because the TV said so.
Made up story
 
Not too bad. Fragglet has started smiling. Went to see My Chemical Romance fairly recently at one of their live shows-Mr Fraggle surprised me with last minute tickets so we had to abandon the Fragglet for a cross country road trip, which exhausted me and made me sick for a couple days but was worth it.
 
Got out of town yesterday and saw Kraftwerk, in St Louis, with a buddy from college. I had never seen them live or really listened to their music, but I was itching to get out and do something. Wound up being a super fun show, especially since they do all of these 3-D projections using old school computer graphics. I'll have to see them again, the next time they come by.
 
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