How are you doing? - Kiwi Farms Wellness Check

For the first time in a while I had a normal day, purely by will of making myself have a normal day. Do the work I'm supposed to do, do (some of) the hobbies that I cast aside for about a month, reenter my old world. I also hung out with my friend here for the last time before he has to move off. Never was near as fun as my college friends, but was an admirable character in his own right and a good person to have known. I say in the past tense because I'm sure I'll see him more, but when people move off like that it is for all purposes gone. I think there's a sort of sublimity in the natural end of a friendship on good terms.
 
Had my first panic attack a few weeks ago. Sat down on the chair in the lounge room, I was breathing heavily. I was sweating so much I could see the droplets start to form on the carpet, even though the aircon was going full blast. Circulation started to leave my hands and feet, could feel my consciousness and hearing start to fade out. I literally thought I was dying.

I don't recommend it.
 
Middling at best. Health issues that limit my ability to do hobbies/projects persist, dealing with hardware problems that have all my shit needing to be redone from scratch, and just generally feeling like nothing I'm doing helps.

Pair this with a general feeling the world is in a strange death spiral in a way and I'm not exactly hopeless but I feel this apathy to life and would probably just lay down and die if it were that easy. But alas. Will keep trucking.
 
i really feel like i'm genuinely going insane. a friend of mine ghosted me for two weeks, just days after we hung out irl, then deleted his account which was the only method of contact i had with him.
my ass actually wasted like $3 for one of those doxing sites because the only other info i had was his email, which he also hasn't responded to.
i went to the house he was staying at (i know he went back home on the 22nd) and left a note saying what the deal was and my contact info but they haven't responded.
it just feels like there's a huge hole in my heart. there's so much i want to talk to him about. he's always been like this too, huge lack of transparency and will just disappear for days, but never like this. i remember asking him for his phone number and he always darted around it.
i don't understand what makes me in particular so untrustworthy.
 
I'm just fucking tired. I'm moving my body again and my brain is back on but I'm still sluggish as all hell from falling out of shape. I can't really get excited anymore and I end up exhausted easily. I've sworn off hookers after the last time but I'm finding myself going insane with lust from a nurse's checkup and I'm feeling regret for not locking down one of the women in my life who would have likely helped stabilize the household I want to build. This year will be busy.
 
I just remembered an old friend of my mother's I've last seen over 15 years ago when he was at his absolute lowest, his demons (aka alcohol and drugs) really had a tight grasp on him. He was going into rehab some weeks after that. I've looked him up on Facebook, honestly expecting the worst, but he's apparently doing fine for himself. Nice car, stable job, sober/healthy by the looks of it & he found a lovely looking wife. I'm not going to contact him, obviously, but somehow this made me feel pretty happy in a weird way.

Otherwise I'm doing alright. The people at my new job are still a lovely bunch, no drama, everything is chill.
I think 2023 could turn out to be quite alright for me. But hey, we'll see.
 
Had my first panic attack a few weeks ago. Sat down on the chair in the lounge room, I was breathing heavily. I was sweating so much I could see the droplets start to form on the carpet, even though the aircon was going full blast. Circulation started to leave my hands and feet, could feel my consciousness and hearing start to fade out. I literally thought I was dying.

I don't recommend it.
You get used to it and that is meant as supportive and positive advice. It helps being around other people if you're in the mindset that they will call an ambulance if you die, so you don't have to worry about it. In the meantime you can carry on as usual while being a little bit clammy. Avoid caffeine and nicotine.

I've had some absolutely fantastic days lately and got a lot of things done that would otherwise feel like chores. All thanks to a couple of nights of really good sleep, the kind that makes you wake up with that dog-like energy and excitement.
 
You get used to it and that is meant as supportive and positive advice. It helps being around other people if you're in the mindset that they will call an ambulance if you die, so you don't have to worry about it. In the meantime you can carry on as usual while being a little bit clammy. Avoid caffeine and nicotine.

I've had some absolutely fantastic days lately and got a lot of things done that would otherwise feel like chores. All thanks to a couple of nights of really good sleep, the kind that makes you wake up with that dog-like energy and excitement.

Yeah I realized some of that after. At the time, due to various personal issues I was extremely stressed. Very little sleep. My vision was blurry. I looked it up later on and extreme stress puts pressure on the optic nerve. I was drinking around 2 bottles of Vodka a day and it barely did anything. I had other panic attacks too, so I attempted to sleep. I was so scared of having another panic attack in Bed as I had done, so I attempted sleeping on the floor under the air conditioner. However, due to my consumption of alcohol over that past week, my attempts to only sleep over those 8 hours resulted in my body detoxing, so I was attempting to sleep on the floor covered in shirts while seizing.

Fine now though.
 
I was so scared of having another panic attack
That's why you(or anyone reading it) need to learn how to handle it. The fear of the real thing is like kindling, if you start to fear that you will have a panic attack you might just start having one because of it. Figure out how to manage that and you're all good. How do you do that? Don't let it interfere with what you are doing, just keep going. If you don't give it attention it will go away. You can also wait a while and then crush a sugar cube between your teeth, results may vary.

This is all assuming it is natural panic attacks, not some delirium from meth or booze.
 
I've done nothing to build my career, but I also feel kind of okay with that. I put in effort early on in my graduate school, had high GPA, won an award (departmental, not like some thing from out in the world), but I didn't do any of the networking or planning out how I'd handle transition to dissertation or anything like that. Basically, I did the bare minimum (coursework and such) very well, but I didn't do anything beyond the bare minimum. I'm not gunning for a super high power job, so it's not an especially big deal, but I do think it's a deal still. I snapped out of my funk the other day and started working again, but I kind of blew it today because I wanted to finish Ace Combat and so just did that when I got home. I could make myself work now, but I won't. I know people usually say that graduate school burns people out from making them work on stuff constantly and feel like they're doing nothing, but I really have been doing nothing but coasting by for ages.

Edit: What I kind of wish was that I had a job where I could just go to that job, for the designated hours, and then not do the job outside of those hours. I know that the sort of work I'd probably be getting into is the opposite of that, many jobs involve somewhat unpredictable extra work. I also know that I'd be putting in way more hours than I currently do, so in reality I'd have gained nothing. But the comfort of not having to worry about making my own resented makework for myself is nice. I could just go to work, come home and game, repeat until my parents die and then I can die.
 
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You all ever notice how many people on here bring up pets dying or having health issues compared to other people?
That could be due to them having issues much more frequently, but I have a suspicion that people tend to rely more on strangers to share that because they feel the same distress about animals as they do people, but don't feel able to share those concerns with people in their life like they can concerns about people. That's the case with me, I brought up my dog here but not to my IRL friend because the guy hates dogs and isn't the most empathetic person.
 
You all ever notice how many people on here bring up pets dying or having health issues compared to other people?
That could be due to them having issues much more frequently, but I have a suspicion that people tend to rely more on strangers to share that because they feel the same distress about animals as they do people, but don't feel able to share those concerns with people in their life like they can concerns about people. That's the case with me, I brought up my dog here but not to my IRL friend because the guy hates dogs and isn't the most empathetic person.
Spergs on the internet are less likely to pester you with sympathy and empty words.
 
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