How are you doing? - Kiwi Farms Wellness Check

[Juan But Not Forgotten]

Got 7 day vacation and on the very first day it is stormy as fuck. Don't care though, have enough stuff to catch up onto while at home.

 

[Swipez The Fox]

I have a interview with a pipe and drainage cleaning service on monday. Hopefully everything goes well.

 

[Rekeita's Kidneys]

July 4th was cool, went out, had some drinks. Got to see the fireworks and all which was cool. Some idiots around here fired off a mortar and I'm *fairly* certain it came back down and blew out some car door windows lmfao

I just feel really really lonely in crowds. I do not feel like I belong and all and it's fucked up man. It's not resentment or anything, I do genuinely want people to be better etc

It's just me, I'm missing out on life. It's depressing as fuck seeing normal healthy families, young couples with friend groups etc. I'm just some fucked up looking sperg drinking alone trying to talk to people and being completely unable to relate. Nobody was outright mean or anything but I sure as fuck feel alienated as all hell.

How do you guys cope with it honestly, farms is good cope but it doesn't replace IRL friends and shit unfortunately

 

[Lovely Kin]

How do you guys cope with it honestly, farms is good cope but it doesn't replace IRL friends and shit unfortunately

Nothing will replace irl friends and family in my opinion. Someone can try to cope, but it will always fall back on them and crippling loneliness will kick in. Doing something as simple as listening can help you feel less lonely, and others will appreciate you more, and may invite you into more conversations and social events. However, making friends does get more difficult as you get older and more people become busy with family and work. Going out is always the first step, and beats locking one's self inside 24/7.

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Fourth of July for me was eh. It thankfully didn't rain but the parade was disorganized compared to past years. Felt rather frustrating when some tourists would block the view of everything, but I had a fun time. Went to check on my dad afterwards to make sure he was okay, really wish he came along but he admitted he wasn't feeling well enough.

 

[GreaterHacaryguaspear]

I am drinking my coffee, yesterday I was drinking 1 galloon of Alcohol and some Rum with my family, I'm still with headcaches but with natural drinks as Coffee and water, I'm going to make Chicken Soup with my family.

Yesterday we enjoyed July 4th, now today we gonna celebrate July 5th (Venezuela Independence Day)

 

[Yours Truly 2095]

On a whim I decided to try to track down my paternal grandfather's family. I knew nothing about anyone before him. I have now tracked his family as far back as I can in the US. To the 1700s. And by a miracle many of them are buried just an hour away. I need to go visit them. I cannot believe how close they are, given how my family and I moved around. Maybe I'll have my burial plot there too.

Also now finding my wife's family. All the way back to pre revolution

 

[Señora Airi]

On a whim I decided to try to track down my paternal grandfather's family. I knew nothing about anyone before him. I have now tracked his family as far back as I can in the US. To the 1700s. And by a miracle many of them are buried just an hour away. I need to go visit them. I cannot believe how close they are, given how my family and I moved around. Maybe I'll have my burial plot there too.

Also now finding my wife's family. All the way back to pre revolution

What are you using to find all this out? I'd like to find a genealogy site that isn't Ancestry

 

[Yours Truly 2095]

What are you using to find all this out? I'd like to find a genealogy site that isn't Ancestry

Mostly I used find a grave, family knowledge of very specific areas I knew they were from, my grandfather's military service records to verify some information, and I used ancestry one time to connect my grandfather's father to his father. Once that connection was made I got lucky. All of them were buried and lived in the same area my grandfather grew up in or at least was from originally. It's almost a family cemetery.

For my wife her grandfather didn't have a find a grave entry yet, but we found his sibling. We got super lucky. A distant family member had meticulously catalogued her maiden name lineage back to the pre revolution colonies, including photos of her ancestors who served in the CSA and units. With grave photos and sources of history, many of them are buried in a family cemetery. Unfortunately too far to visit easily. We reached out to that guy today. Hope to hear back.

We got lucky mostly I think. I can't tell you how much it pained me to never even know who my grandfathers parents were. They had passed before he had my Dad. And I guess never talked about them. His Mom is buried nearby too and doesn't have a grave photo on find a grave so I'm going to fix that. Like I said given my families travel history it's a miracle they're around where I am

 

[Plantation Barbie]

Had a very hectic day at work, but my laptop is still running so maybe the damage from yesterday's spill is minimal.

 

[WhatInTheActualFuck]

The goth-adjacent gf had a melty yesterday morning. To be fair, we were hanging out at the local watering hole until last call and she was likely still a little drunk when she woke up and decided to be turbo-weird, but she lost her shit over basically nothing.

I responded with calm reality (a bit of a feat at 5AM) and talked her down. Even when things are good, you end up having to be the sanity in the fucking relationship sometimes, I guess.

Aside from that, things are good. In the middle of buying a house, so lots of other things on the menu.

 

[Lovely Kin]

Really really upset with someone I thought was a friend. My dad went to the hospital last night, and I had to cancel seeing him, and heaccused me "You always have excuses." No, I'm making sure my father is alright. Why the fuck is it that complicated for people to understand?

 

[WEEKEND]

I feel like I'm on crazy pills.

Spoiler: Here's the story

I was talking to a co-worker who I'll call M like two months ago. She in her early 20s, in uni and I don't see her that much on account of her being part time. We where joking around and another co-worker accused us of flirting (joking around to be fair) and told us to get back to work. Well another co-worker who I'll call D (more of a close friend) started taking the piss out of me saying I'm trying to fuck her. I won't go into it but I've slept with a few co-workers over the years. Anyway, he was annoying me so I told him to shut up or I'd tell M he was talking about her and that's pretty much the end of the story.

Cut forward a week and D had gone and told M about the joke he was having at my expense because the retard thought he'd get ahead of the issue. I wasn't in that day but I'm told by a few people that M started to laugh and wanted to join in on the joke. D and M began planning on how they would embarrass me the next time we where all in together. D told her he's going to message me but M tells him to not to.

The next day M comes up to me in front of three other co-workers with an attitude and tells me that we aren't friends, she doesn't appreciate people talking about her and she really doesn't want her name mentioned in messages. We had a brief conversation where I told her that nothing was being said, this is just D being a dickhead and no one is talking about her in messages. I told her she could check my phone if it'd put her mind at ease which is me being defensive apparently.

That was pretty much the end of it as far as I was concerned. I later found out that M had gone crying to the women's toilet to another co-worker who we'll call K. Apparently I'd told M that D, K and myself had a Whatsapp group talking about her. That D and I had a competition to see who can sleep with K first and she doesn't want to get caught up in any drama. And that I'd embarrassed M by airing this out in front of other people. This is just bullshit. I never said anything of the sort to M. I've only mentioned her like five times in the years she's worked with me. I've fucked K already so that "competition" doesn't even make sense. M came up to me first, I'm not a mind reader, how the fuck would I even know what was going on if she didn't approach me. So I don't know what her problem is on that.

We got pulled in by K the day later and told we needed to apologise to M. This whole thing started as a joke at my expense that M was happy to be involved in. For whatever reason K jumped to blaming me for telling M about this joke and embarrassing her even though that wasn't me who did either.

Like two weeks later on our next shift together I try to apologise just to keep the peace and the little bitch jumps down my neck. I thought I'd just leave it alone before I made it worse. She's since gone to the manager with this 50% exaggerated/50% made up sob story. It's been like another fucking month since this started and it's still going on if today is anything to go by. There's not much they can do officially on account of most what she's crying about (the non existent messages) being out of work hours and it being a "he said, she said" situation, although I've got multiple people who can back me up on what I told M when she first spoke to me. If I get so much as a word said to me tomorrow I'm quitting on the spot.

This has honestly pissed me off. M is usually pretty chill and mature but this whole thing has been completely retarded. K blaming me for this is a joke in itself. Worst mistake I ever made was fucking her, she's BPD or something but only with me. She's great and has a laugh with everyone but turns on me real quick. To be honest K's been a fucking cunt with me for a while now. It's like I'm her boyfriend and she's fighting with me. Woman needs to get a grip.

 

[YHWH's Strongest Soldier]

I won't go into it but I've slept with a few co-workers over the years

Don't fuck your co-workers.

 

[WhoBusTank69]

I've slept with a few co-workers over the years

Has nobody told you to not eat where you shit?

 

[WEEKEND]

Don't fuck your co-workers.

Has nobody told you to not eat where you shit?

Well to be fair, most of them happened years ago when I was in my 20s with women that no longer work at my place. Never really had a problem with any of these women afterwards, I even had a year long relationship with a co-worker that turned out fine even after we broke up.

The crazy thing is that the only woman I'm having problems with is someone I haven't fucked. I'll give K a pass on account of how stressed out she is with some personal stuff. We're normally pretty close friends. I think half her problem is that whole "familiarity breeds contempt" thing.

 

[YHWH's Strongest Soldier]

Well to be fair, most of them happened years ago when I was in my 20s with women that no longer work at my place. Never really had a problem with any of these women afterwards, I even had a year long relationship with a co-worker that turned out fine even after we broke up.

The crazy thing is that the only woman I'm having problems with is someone I haven't fucked. I'll give K a pass on account of how stressed out she is with some personal stuff. We're normally pretty close friends. I think half her problem is that whole "familiarity breeds contempt" thing.

At work, you're asexual. You don't fuck anyone nor give any indication that you would fuck them even in jest. Once you start fucking your co-workers, you risk pissing off your exes and the women that you didn't fuck because they're jealous or angry that you fucked their friend. It's that easy.

 

[Señora Airi]

Really really upset with someone I thought was a friend. My dad went to the hospital last night, and I had to cancel seeing him, and heaccused me "You always have excuses." No, I'm making sure my father is alright. Why the fuck is it that complicated for people to understand?

There's too many people who care more about themselves than others. Not sure the specific rules of the hospital your dad's at, but he could have at least tried to also come down to see if you and him are alright.

Speaking of, is your dad doing better? Or is he still in the hospital?

 

[Throwing Romans]

What are you using to find all this out? I'd like to find a genealogy site that isn't Ancestry

FamilySearch is a good site that is free. Run by the Mormons (they're very into genealogy) as a public service.

 

[Lovely Kin]

Speaking of, is your dad doing better? Or is he still in the hospital?

While I think my dad is going to be better, it's going to be a few days at the hospital for him. He never likes going and is fucking stubborn so it was a pain making him go, and it hurt me to see the state he was in. I was too emotionally drained to see my friend after dealing with my father, and I even offered we can talk in the morning, or next evening, and my friend just wouldn't listen to me, and got all unreasonable.

 

[LonesomeDud]

I did and ate a bunch of my favorite things today:

- walkin' around
- these spicy noodles that are also cold
- making kids food that is not goofy ethnic food and seeing my culture win
- swimming
- farm fresh sour cherries
- feeling the ache of tension leave my body because I'm with people I love

I have these coworkers that always are going on these huge trips, ridiculous meals, expensive lounges. I'm not shaming anyone for liking what they like, but I went on bigger adventures than going to the safety of a resort, and honestly, I can say it wasn't nearly as good as things are now.

I won't religious sperg to excess, but I have always put God first, pursued God's heart, and try to value the same things God does. It is not that I am morally pure, but I am so thankful God has given me a soft season in life.