How are you doing? - Kiwi Farms Wellness Check

[Core Theorist]

My teeth hurt

 

[Laplace's Victim]

More unscrupulous with each passing day

 

[Betonhaus]

Work went well. today we accomplished a task. Now to see if we have a task tomorrow.

Also I can see when driving now. my headlights were so crazed that I couldn't see shit, but a $20 polishing kit from Crappy tire fixed that. Now i should really do my windshield

 

[Outer Space Traveller]

My work is going well, and I'm thankful for it. I hope everyone who is looking for one to find it.

I am having a course and sometimes I feel like I am going to slow. It doesn't help I have to share tabs on my computer, and I have been waiting for a computer from my work.

It has been slow.

 

[Neighborhood Janny]

Well, I didn't get the lead position I was hoping for...but another opportunity opened up in its place and I am now happy to say that I will finally be back to working 1st shift beginning tomorrow.

Such a huge weight off my shoulders. I can finally build my marriage back up, spend more time on hobbies, and hopefully attend some sobriety meetings along the way.

We're gonna make it, kiwibros. We're all gonna make it!

 

[Flavius Claudius Julianus]

So for years now I've been trying to figure out why my body temperature is just so insanely hot - all the fucking time. Like my skin is burning, and I'm giving off visible heat aura.

I've settled on the fact that 99% of it is due to the side effects of hyperhidrosis - axillary in my case (excess sweating of the underarms.) Not a bad example of it, and one I've had under control for almost 15 years by way of aluminium chloride deodorants used once weekly. Still, that does nothing to combat the heat.

I can't wear a sweater except in the thick of winter, otherwise I will be like am exploding star, feeling like I'm choking from being too warm. I can no longer wear gloves, scarves, or multiple layers - even in winter. I'm just too fucking warm.

This obviously got slightly worse when I gained weight (good weight, I'm jacked as fuck, not fat,) though I refuse to change my entire lifestyle because of this faggot condition.

I figure once I hit 40 I'll slim down and go back to cycling - at least then it was tolerable, and I could live more like a 'normal' person.

At least I don't have plantar/cranio-facial hyperhidrosis. That shit would make me suck start a shotgun.

 

[Laplace's Victim]

I'm trying to code this exceedingly complex gore system in Unreal Engine 5, and it's painful.
I've been awake for 40 hours, working almost non-stop on the project, fueled by Ritalin. Then I slept for 7 hours and did it again.
It's not exactly healthy or productive, as my IQ drops by 15-25 points when I'm severely sleep-deprived, but it's a compulsive urge not to sleep
fml

 

[Brain Power]

Another day of being harrassed by annoying and rude kids, and on top of that, the ones today were venecos, or if they were locals, they had the extremely annoying and loud as shit "acentico" stick to them from spending time with venecos at schools. On a better note, the noise cancelling wireless earphones I ordered arrived really fast and are pretty comfortable, I just need to adjust the configuration until they sound exactly how I want them.

 

[AnOminous]

Work has burned me out, and I've come to the fact that I'm gonna have to find a roommate due to rent being high.

The rent is too damn high!

 

[56 others]

I dont even have time to be a drunk

 

[Nick Obre]

Had an illuminating talk with Kid.
Turns out she's far more perceptive than I thought. Pleasantly surprised.
She realizes more about things than I expected, and said something that helped me move past something.

She's a great kid.

 

[DenseDeerFather]

It's a tropical night. It's been hot as balls for the past many days and it's September. It's been so bad that there's talks about moving summer break into September so people can "enjoy more of the summer".

As someone who neither likes summer or the heat or the sun, fuck all that.

The weekend is going to be sweltering. I find myself sweaty and sticky and uncomfortable and exhausted and irritable. I take a shower and then I go out, get home and I need to shower again because it's hot as balls and I've been sweating like a pig despite a t-shirt and capri pants.

I've also been traveling a lot due to various appointments, meetings, obligations, other stuff and I feel really stressed to the point where I'm considering being a lil demon and staying home for one day. Nothing bad will happen if I just do it once so I'll take advantage so I don't burn myself out. I think it's the current heatwave that's just making me really overwhelmed easily.

 

[Betonhaus]

I think I'm having a mild allergic reaction to the chemicals in my new uniforms, I'll ask if i could get one washed a little early.

 

[MARlNA]

It's been a little over 3 weeks since putting my cat down and I am still struggling. I just feel so empty without her; she got me through so much. I also feel guilty because so many people around me are frustrated that I'm still so upset. It's rough, to say the least. I know grief isn't linear and that I'll manage to pull through, it just really sucks right now.

 

[doomocract]

Rechecked and it turn that i did lost password for kf account. lost access email too. do i beg @Null for mercry... (saw rule or thing same and you need ping person if you say them, so apology if wrong)

i careful but i still ruin it. yolo dumb

 

[Juan But Not Forgotten]

Replaced morning coffee with non-garbage bagged but true and honest leaf green tea and you know what? I feel much better. Less anxious and more chill. Maybe I should quit caffeine entirely, I don't know. Take care.

 

[Ravier Xavenblood]

You ever just text someone you had a massive falling out with because you got drunk and decided to check up on them? Of course I didn't do it directly. I pretended to be someone who sort of, kind of knew him in high school and made a fake Snap account. I even said "my" job was the same as Jimmy's from Fishtank. He took the bait, answered some of my questions and apparently he works at the garbage dump near my shithole hometown.

The schadenfreude is amazing right now. Still can't believe he actually fell for my tomfoolery too.

 

[Brett DeLawyer]

Spoiler: Brett needs help with boomers

How do you deal with boomer family who are so turbo-normie they angrily question why on earth you’re wearing a costume on Halloween when you’ve been out trick-or-treating with your toddler, as if this is socially unheard of?

They will pick out any petty, meaningless thing as a failure and bang on about my stupidity regarding it for years. They’re starting to have a go at my toddler in the same way. They don’t seem to realize they’re doing this, because when it’s done to them by other family with similar personalities it can start a multi-year feud of “how dare so-and-so say such-and-such! What right have they to question me!”

Now that I have the only bub in the family they auto-expect our presence at all gatherings, our input is not required. When we don’t show up for a while (because bitching) they’ll start buying things for my kid and then bitching about how the stuff is taking up space in their house… then bitch I only come over to get stuff.

I used to just suck it up and fake it as hard as possible to deal with them because want to make people happy, family obligation, wanted to set a good example for kid etc but them turning their picking onto said very small kid is going to make me snap eventually and I’d rather not give them the satisfaction.

How to win? What to do?? The holidays are coming up. The bitching will only increase. I am too retarded for this. I just want to grill reeee

 

[TapewormSalesman]

Spoiler: Brett needs help with boomers

How do you deal with boomer family who are so turbo-normie they angrily question why on earth you’re wearing a costume on Halloween when you’ve been out trick-or-treating with your toddler, as if this is socially unheard of?

They will pick out any petty, meaningless thing as a failure and bang on about my stupidity regarding it for years. They’re starting to have a go at my toddler in the same way. They don’t seem to realize they’re doing this, because when it’s done to them by other family with similar personalities it can start a multi-year feud of “how dare so-and-so say such-and-such! What right have they to question me!”

Now that I have the only bub in the family they auto-expect our presence at all gatherings, our input is not required. When we don’t show up for a while (because bitching) they’ll start buying things for my kid and then bitching about how the stuff is taking up space in their house… then bitch I only come over to get stuff.

I used to just suck it up and fake it as hard as possible to deal with them because want to make people happy, family obligation, wanted to set a good example for kid etc but them turning their picking onto said very small kid is going to make me snap eventually and I’d rather not give them the satisfaction.

How to win? What to do?? The holidays are coming up. The bitching will only increase. I am too retarded for this. I just want to grill reeee

They will definitely keep getting worse as they age and the more you cave, the more they'll bend you and the kid will suffer along the way. The "mature" way would be to step away as far as possible, boundaries, yadda yadda.
However, the more entertaining way (and the only way if you're stuck living with them, which you're lucky to not be) is to purposefully piss them off as much as possible until their system overloads and they are forced to suck it up.
They hate costumes? Too bad, you're now goth! They bring up minuscule shit you did wrong years ago? Do the same. They pick on the kid? Take the kid and leave the event, nobody needs grandparents like that.
I know stirring the pot can seem counter-productive, but sometimes you gotta get it boiling over before it calms down even a little bit. The only way to break out of a present helicopter parent is to blow up at them while aggressively sticking to your guns and doing your own thing, and this is much the same. They might throw you out themselves, call you disrespectful, as is the American way, but eventually they should calm down a bit and try to start over.
This is what my grandparents are doing with my mom, she always tried to be the good daughter, so they've always piled shit on top of her, while someone more confrontational like my uncles or me don't get nearly as much because they know they'll get a much worse shitstorm back.

 

[Brett DeLawyer]

if you're stuck living with them

Spoiler: cut for more derp

They live an hour-ish away and cannot comprehend why we don’t “drop by.” Much resentment has been built up over this. Meanwhile they’ve got full-on gramnesia if they think anyone with a toddler is dropping by anywhere.

I guess I just don’t get why they’re like this, or what they actually want. The years long loop of: invite someone over; guilt or bribe them into coming if necessary -> relentlessly snipe at them and theirs about everything until they leave -> wonder why they haven’t come round; blame them for being disrespectful -> repeat! is just baffling. It makes me feel like I’m the idiot for missing some solution that everyone else has seen because I’m the only one who’s catching hell. They seemingly like everyone else just fine.

My husband sent me this meme which helped but wasn’t particularly illuminating re: how to actually handle them going forward.