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The Feline Solution 2 said:
See, didn't even cross my mind because what poor person ever invested money? Questionable if the amount i have is high enough to make it worth it but anything is better than letting it rot in a savings account i guess. I got a not-too-distant relative who is an investment banker (or was, we haven't seen each other in years), guess i shoot him a call in the coming days.
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If you put every spare dollar you have into an index fund even in partial shares you will be so so glad you did. Schwab has very low fees. Get a brokerage account with them. Half of the bitching about the world and politics here is people with no clue about the world and money to match. Invest passively and into big funds, you will not feel wronged or miss the money. Do not wait or time the market, dump money into blue chips and index funds and vanguard funds and shit like that. Your future depends on creating passive income by getting enough money working for you. Pick a thing and invest like you have no curiosity or desire to win big. The stock market is a casino where on a long enough time scale you and the house win.
 
I was recently shot down out of a job after an interview. This one stung a lot more because I had a reference inside the company and a bit of relevant experience for a job that didn't require any experience. This just makes me want to stop trying entirely. I've been looking after deciding that my last job really wasn't for me. Apparently that may have been the worst mistake of my entire life because I've now been unemployed for two years and no company wants me. I feel like a burden to my parents, and that I'm wasting away my prime years unable to do anything.
 
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Not great. I got fired yesterday and spent the rest of my day applying to new jobs. Got into a fight with my friend and then started drinking.
Ive been just kinda having the worst go at it since I lost my meds and the last job I had laid us off due to budgets. This job was shit but it makes me feel like more of a failure than I already did.
 
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Sorry for posting here so much, I’m doing it for accountability. I talked to my therapist and she’s gonna get me on meds, I was very hesitant at first cause of that hurdle that I’ll seem retarded but when she laid it out for me I realized she was right. I could finish school, get a job, move out. The main thing hindering me from all of these was how unstable and schizo I was, meds could fix all of that. I’m weighing it between people judging me and me actually living my life, the latter sounds more important I guess.

I’m nervous but I think I’ve got this, I’ve been medicated before and it’s how I graduated high school, it’s how I had the drive to make genuine friends, it’s how I felt the need to go outside. I don’t know if they’ll prescribe me Prozac again, but I can hope that whatever they prescribe it’ll be ok.
 
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Uncle Bass said:
What belt are you up to?
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Just working my way through white. I am getting the sense that this is the hardest one to work through, in that it requires the biggest jump up in your mentality, fitness, nutrition, etc. 80% of people who start don't make it, so I'm taking this pretty seriously. I do primarily do no-gi though, I wish it was the primary style.

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I’m hesitant to contact the psychologist, mainly because I’m still worried I’ll look gay getting mental help. I’d ask for someone to goad me on but that sounds even gayer
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"Therapy" is a mess, but so is everything else. Don't listen to internet personalities who say its "feminine" or gay or fake or whatever, and that your solution is to just lift weights, or join rob rundo in giving each other brain damage out in the woods.

At the core of it, you can avoid a lot of the negatives of it by simple ignoring pop-therapy, getting a legit therapist, who is fundamentally someone that is paid to 1) look at your problems in a dispassionate, third perspective and 2) with the goal of improving your outlook on life and mental processes that are standing in the way of your success.

If you engage with the process in a goal-oriented, honest manner, where you are an active partner in your own success and give the therapist what they need to make suggestions on changes, your chances of success go through the roof.
 
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GoysGoneWild said:
"Therapy" is a mess, but so is everything else. Don't listen to internet personalities who say its "feminine" or gay or fake or whatever, and that your solution is to just lift weights, or join rob rundo in giving each other brain damage out in the woods.

At the core of it, you can avoid a lot of the negatives of it by simple ignoring pop-therapy, getting a legit therapist, who is fundamentally someone that is paid to 1) look at your problems in a dispassionate, third perspective and 2) with the goal of improving your outlook on life and mental processes that are standing in the way of your success.

If you engage with the process in a goal-oriented, honest manner, where you are an active partner in your own success and give the therapist what they need to make suggestions on changes, your chances of success go through the roof.
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You actually came at the perfect time. I just got done doom scrolling pop therapy and “If you eat junk food you will get schizophrenia AND aids” content, and I think you’re right. I think it just makes me feel more shit and want to die more. I think I should just listen to what my therapist has to say and ignore all the other voices. I don’t drink alcohol so I’ll have a soda to have my “stare solemnly in the window and think about the future” moment now.
 
Based on the pattern of where my job has been sending me out to work the past couple of weeks then to now see that I'm just suppose to report to the office/shop for work tomorrow leads me to only think they've either got their priorities screwed up and think "boy the shop really needs to be cleaned up and the fatfuck shop manager can't be asked to do it" or they might just tell me I'm laid off since work has been "slow". I'm already in a pretty shitty mental state because of my stupid ass getting a speeding ticket. I'm also having to now replace the tail lights on my car after they both decided to stop working. On top of that, I'm also dealing with the car's AC not blowing cool air and being terrified that it's something more serious than a coolant leak, and finally, having to give up a house and return to the shit ass apartment life in the coming weeks. So yeah I'm pretty strapped for cash as it is not mentioning some other bullshit I have to sort out.

I really think if the worst comes to pass tomorrow I might just end up in a looney bin or worse.
 
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