There isn't a whole lot I can say that hasn't already been said in this thread, so I'll just sum it up best I can:
You want to meet someone and start a family, and you're not having much fun with the Farms right now. In my eyes, the solution is simple.
Take a break.
No, a real break. Go out and meet some women. Let the mods handle the day-to-day. Don't stress about the people assigning blame to you over something Dick did or didn't do, and don't worry about defending him. Just take a break. Start moving towards that goal of starting a family. Maybe you'll meet someone special during your break. Maybe you won't. But you'll be better off for it regardless, because you're obviously burnt out right now and further grinding yourself into this place on the grounds that it's your responsibility serves neither you nor the users.
So, I reiterate: Take a break. Meet some women. Move towards your own goals. Rely on your mods a bit more. This ship can't exactly sail itself, but you don't have to be at the helm 24/7 when you're feeling down. Nobody worth a damn would blame you for taking a break. Whether or not you're idealizing some 'trad lifestyle' is not for anyone but yourself to decide.
I just hope you're back and happier than you are now when elections start, because that will be a wild ride we should all be on together.