KingOfCucks
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- Joined
- Jul 3, 2016
So for such a serious decision, would you say that a lot of discussion and thought went into it, or did you just sorta go for it?
Also, while cheating is universally uncool, were you concerned at the prospect of being with someone who cheated while they were engaged? Dating is one thing, but when your engaged it shows a concerning lack of regard for other people....
We're a diverse group here. Not all of us think the same, and opinions on lolcows vary.
You are, however, avoiding the question. Are you happier now that you were before you were with Alison?
We discussed on and off for a time, but it's not really something one can predict all the parameters of. So when it came time, I'd say we talked about it probably more than others do, but there is still the jump into the deep end feeling.
We spoke about the cheating and acknowledged how shitty it made us feel as humans, hence wanting to explore that option in non-deceptive ways.
The happy question is hard man. There's so many other things in my life beside Alison that affect my happiness. Is the question "Are you happy she entered you life?" I'll say yes.
what would you do if fran wanted a more settled relationship with you?
would you sacrifice that just to look after your wife and her BPD rants?
I am personally pretty relationship anarchic, that's a development that happened once I actually started feeling like I had two very significant partners. If any partner in my life ever wanted solely monogamy, I couldn't give that to them, be it Alison, Fran, or any other person that enters my life.