Kiwis with stigmatized mental conditions, how do you cope?

[Lingering butter taste]

A disorder like Borderline is 100% rooted in some form of trauma, at least the ones I've met weren't born with their brains broken but these are also BPDs who've actively recognised they have issues and have/are working towards something resembling a life worth living. Someone like Anisa Jomha doesn't appear to have gone through trauma (that we can fact check anyway, she has a lot of claims of trauma like her infamous tiktok rape dance) but she's very clearly broken.

If you’re saying she hasn’t gone through trauma because of her blase almost joking attitude about it, I will say that’s actually very common amongst trauma survivors. INCREDIBLY unhealthy and looked down upon by other trauma survivors, but it’s not indicative of not having gone through anything. It’s very common in African American communities, where they’ll joke about how bad they were beat as if it’s just next Tuesday. I don’t know anything about Anisa though.

For some reason it won’t let me reply, but as for the guy above me, stigma really is slowing down research and that’s mostly our fault. Again, people love to call any mildly eccentric woman “BPD”. I remember I saw one of those online BPD tests and one of the questions was unironically “Do you dye your hair and have leftist politics?”.

In my experience, the severity of BPD is entirely dependent on the patient. It’s a disease that thrives off of being self-unaware, as fucked up as it is to say, things like “Trust yourself” and “You’re your best judge” are poison to people with BPD. But at the same time there’s a lot of sick men who want to take advantage of them, so they need some self love. It’s a hard balance to reach that not many do. But I don’t think it’s hopeless to people with BPD, rather it’s timed. The sooner you are told this after diagnosis, the better chance you have.

I’d take a guess that the main difference between BPD and CPTSD is CPTSD gives you moments of raised hackles, BPD makes you constantly on edge. Though I’m not sure.

 

[ArnoldPalmer]

"My ex was borderline" really is the "my ex was a narcissist" for men.

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It's possible that it's real but for 90% of the time I refuse to believe it because it's tossed around so much and just used to mean "crazy bitch." It doesn't help that it's criteria is extremely vague and at best reads like having PTSD or some type of abused dog syndrome. But I guess you can say that for many mental illnesses.

All women are bi. The onus is on you to determine whether their bi is sexual or polar. Borderline is very literally "crazy bitch disease", so of course it's going to be associated with crazy bitches.

I can't tell if having BPD is worse than getting the diagnosis, but from experience, I can tell you that they're in the same league. As soon as they're diagnosed, they LOVE wearing it as a badge, and using it as an excuse for everything, like retards who get diagnosed with Autism/Aspergers.

 

[Carlos Thin]

I cope by going on a forum and mocking those with lower self awareness than myself.

 

[Hulkster]

I have terminal ligma and I try to cope with it by trying to talk to other people with my condition, but whenever I ask them they start laughing. We truly are the most stigmatized group of people.

I was diagnosed with long-form ligma during the pandemic, but after I cut out seed oils and started drinking raw milk, I was cured. Thanks, RFK Jr.

 

[PetiteFeet]

If you’re saying she hasn’t gone through trauma because of her blase almost joking attitude about it, I will say that’s actually very common amongst trauma survivors.

No, I'm saying it's because she's Anisa. I've met a lot of different people with different diagnoses over my life and we've almost always bonded over our dark humour regarding our diagnoses, so I wouldn't brush off an awkward attempt at making light of the worst situations a person can find themselves in.
I don't know exactly what Anisa Jomha suffers from, as I am not a doctor just a mentally ill bitch online, but I also know she's a serial liar.
I do agree with you on everything else, I've experienced on my own body that just because you don't fit 1:1 with this weird box that's a diagnosis it means you're not mentally ill, or mentally ill enough to be taken seriously.
It's heartbreaking, knowing friends of mine have gone through a living nightmare but because of the wrong doctor that fails to see through the masking, the eloquence and the jokes, it can mean they won't get the help that they need.
Some diagnoses are over-diagnosed, some doctors are too quick to write prescriptions on pills just because some retard says they're depressed and lack purpose in life and people's expectations of what mental illness is/isn't all contribute to the stigma and lack of research in certain fields.
Psychology is closer to guess-work and the experience a medical professional have/don't have, especially when it comes to something that isn't responsive to medication or certain types of therapy.

 

[Lingering butter taste]

No, I'm saying it's because she's Anisa. I've met a lot of different people with different diagnoses over my life and we've almost always bonded over our dark humour regarding our diagnoses, so I wouldn't brush off an awkward attempt at making light of the worst situations a person can find themselves in.
I don't know exactly what Anisa Jomha suffers from, as I am not a doctor just a mentally ill bitch online, but I also know she's a serial liar.
I do agree with you on everything else, I've experienced on my own body that just because you don't fit 1:1 with this weird box that's a diagnosis it means you're not mentally ill, or mentally ill enough to be taken seriously.
It's heartbreaking, knowing friends of mine have gone through a living nightmare but because of the wrong doctor that fails to see through the masking, the eloquence and the jokes, it can mean they won't get the help that they need.
Some diagnoses are over-diagnosed, some doctors are too quick to write prescriptions on pills just because some retard says they're depressed and lack purpose in life and people's expectations of what mental illness is/isn't all contribute to the stigma and lack of research in certain fields.
Psychology is closer to guess-work and the experience a medical professional have/don't have, especially when it comes to something that isn't responsive to medication or certain types of therapy.

Honestly this is why I always disliked the “exposing fake disorders” movement. Too often people’s evidence is someone making a joke, the idea that the mentally ill are just miserable miserable and even more miserable is outdated 1950s garbage. Not saying people don’t fake disorders, just that a joke isn’t indicative of it.

I’ll have to look into Anisa though, my jaw dropped when I watched the first second of that TikTok trauma video. You could not torture me for that information.

 

[Hulkster]

All jokes aside, I have really bad social anxiety and OCD. I'm pretty sure they are related to each other. Anyhow, it's extremely debilitating. I've had a really bad flare-up recently. I keep thinking I'm having a heart attack because I had heart palpitations from drinking too many Coke Zeros. I have also been obsessively washing my hands, and my family keeps wondering why I take so long in the shower, which kind of sucks that they don't understand what I'm dealing with, but hopefully the cyberbullying trannies site can relate to what I'm dealing with.