Off-Topic Losing people to transgenderism support thread - Support group for trans widows and other people who lost loved ones to troonism

[Vingle]

I had a verbally & mentally abusive ex

he were on hormone treatment to transition into a woman and I mean his voice drastically changed into a more feminine voice but immediately regretted his decision & now he's fucked.

Hah, get fucked! Karma on him

 

[snake aids]

HAHA. NOW MY EX HAS A BOYFRIEND AND IT HASNT EVEN BEEN 2 MONTHS. I've really opened my eyes and realised that he is a pedophile troon piece of shit anyway, hope he kills himself. I know he knows how to tie a noose!~

Edit: sorry I just woke up and I was freaking out as usual. I should control myself more. Sorry again

 

[FeatherPlucker]

Little update on my ex. I messaged him today to ask him to please cancel something we were meant to go to together or book it at another location because I couldn't stand thinking of seeing him in person ever again. After that, I was just asking how life is going, general small talk, and it doesn't sound good. He's being medicated for his mental health issues which is good but he's also lost a significant amount of weight. He has a BMI of 16. I might not like what he has done (break up with me after many years, troon out, etc.) but I don't want him to die of starvation. I think he is actually going to die. He already had issues with not eating enough but he has never lost this much weight. I think he's lost almost 20kg since I last saw him. He trooned out and now he's withering away. It is incredibly painful watching someone I loved so much decline so quickly.

That's his problem. I sound harsh, but don't get "sucked back in" to the vortex in order to "rescue" him. It seems they always want someone to feel sorry for them and coddle them. Make sure that person isn't YOU.

 

[Captain Obvious]

Little update on my ex. I messaged him today to ask him to please cancel something we were meant to go to together or book it at another location because I couldn't stand thinking of seeing him in person ever again. After that, I was just asking how life is going, general small talk, and it doesn't sound good. He's being medicated for his mental health issues which is good but he's also lost a significant amount of weight. He has a BMI of 16. I might not like what he has done (break up with me after many years, troon out, etc.) but I don't want him to die of starvation. I think he is actually going to die. He already had issues with not eating enough but he has never lost this much weight. I think he's lost almost 20kg since I last saw him. He trooned out and now he's withering away. It is incredibly painful watching someone I loved so much decline so quickly.

Thanks for the update. Please don't let your compassion cause you to become involved with him again.

 

[tiggles]

Allow me to provide a little levity.

My friend’s mom told him he can’t be mom to his kid and he’s having a meltdown.

 

[The Emperor Skeksis]

HAHA. NOW MY EX HAS A BOYFRIEND AND IT HASNT EVEN BEEN 2 MONTHS. I've really opened my eyes and realised that he is a pedophile troon piece of shit anyway, hope he kills himself. I know he knows how to tie a noose!~

Edit: sorry I just woke up and I was freaking out as usual. I should control myself more. Sorry again

I hope he enjoys many years of begrudgingly sucking cock only to keep his delusion up. Sound fun

Allow me to provide a little levity.

My friend’s mom told him he can’t be mom to his kid and he’s having a meltdown.

Based, more moms need to tell their adult kids the truth.

 

[Bob jensen]

lately narcolepsy is what's kicking my ass

I've been exactly here to the extreme. Many moons ago, not related to the current thread topic. You mentioned PTSD, my narcolepsy was directly related to my PTSD. I jumped through hoops to prove it was mental, not physical. Once I finally got sleep studies and biometrics observed, I was treated for the cause.
Push it. Get studies done. There's a correlation between your physical symptoms and mental health.
Unfortunately sometimes we have to force them to see it, and not throw bullshit treatments our way.
Fight for your life.

 

[snake aids]

Allow me to provide a little levity.

My friend’s mom told him he can’t be mom to his kid and he’s having a meltdown.

Hell yeah. Absolutely based, don't give into your adult kid's delusions. Tell them how it is.

 

[AMHOLIO]

I'd like to remind everyone here that while this may be a powerlevel thread, this is kiwifarms. You're all brave to powerlevel, but remember you are still on a public forum where anyone can sign up and call you a fag for no reason. Remember to be careful with what you post and if you're ever genuinely panicking over something, call a friend IRL.

Spoiler: snaids

@snake aids if you're still having suicidal thoughts or are panicking, call a friend and ask to sleep a night at their house if it isn't too much trouble. Or even check in to a mental hospital for a few days. It seems like you're onto different emotions at the moment so that's good, I think.
My other advice is throw yourself into a hobby or work. Delete social media from your phone for a bit, focus on you as others have said. Worse comes to worse, ask your doctor's office for someone to quickly vent to while they're on sick leave.

Spoiler: Jensen

@Bob jensen There's good advice in this thread but I want to emphasize that you should also use a psych or therapist for support in addition to our suggestions. If you're considering them, go over it with them as they (usually) have more experience with mother-daughter relationships than retards on the internet who say retard and DIRTY CRAPPED BRIEFS as a form of humor. If you feel like you're getting too personal, confide in IRL people you know.

I kindly ask for everyone to be careful. We are supportive here, but sometimes people stumble in and call you a fag or dig up things because of how you sound. Don't forget to get offline.

 

[snake aids]

I'd like to remind everyone here that while this may be a powerlevel thread, this is kiwifarms. You're all brave to powerlevel, but remember you are still on a public forum where anyone can sign up and call you a fag for no reason. Remember to be careful with what you post and if you're ever genuinely panicking over something, call a friend IRL.

Spoiler: snaids

@snake aids if you're still having suicidal thoughts or are panicking, call a friend and ask to sleep a night at their house if it isn't too much trouble. Or even check in to a mental hospital for a few days. It seems like you're onto different emotions at the moment so that's good, I think.
My other advice is throw yourself into a hobby or work. Delete social media from your phone for a bit, focus on you as others have said. Worse comes to worse, ask your doctor's office for someone to quickly vent to while they're on sick leave.

Spoiler: Jensen

@Bob jensen There's good advice in this thread but I want to emphasize that you should also use a psych or therapist for support in addition to our suggestions. If you're considering them, go over it with them as they (usually) have more experience with mother-daughter relationships than retards on the internet who say retard and DIRTY CRAPPED BRIEFS as a form of humor. If you feel like you're getting too personal, confide in IRL people you know.

I kindly ask for everyone to be careful. We are supportive here, but sometimes people stumble in and call you a fag or dig up things because of how you sound. Don't forget to get offline.

Thanks for the reminders and advice :-)

Spoiler: rambling

I've been emailing my psychologist, talking with my parents and hanging out with friends and while it helps in the moment, sometimes I just flip out a little. I have been considering admitting myself, but I still live with my family (I promise I'm not a stinky basement dweller) and I don't want to scare them. You and everyone else here have been very kind and understanding, I hope you're doing well. I think I would be more fucked if this thread wasn't recommended to me. Just hearing other peoples experiences and knowing that I'm not the only one makes me feel better.

 

[AMHOLIO]

Thanks for the reminders and advice :-)

Spoiler: rambling

I've been emailing my psychologist, talking with my parents and hanging out with friends and while it helps in the moment, sometimes I just flip out a little. I have been considering admitting myself, but I still live with my family (I promise I'm not a stinky basement dweller) and I don't want to scare them. You and everyone else here have been very kind and understanding, I hope you're doing well. I think I would be more fucked if this thread wasn't recommended to me. Just hearing other peoples experiences and knowing that I'm not the only one makes me feel better.

Gotcha homie. Glad to hear you're near people, taking care of yourself, and doing a bit better.

 

[Ser Prize]

I'd like to remind everyone here that while this may be a powerlevel thread, this is kiwifarms. You're all brave to powerlevel, but remember you are still on a public forum where anyone can sign up and call you a fag for no reason. Remember to be careful with what you post and if you're ever genuinely panicking over something, call a friend IRL.

Spoiler: snaids

@snake aids if you're still having suicidal thoughts or are panicking, call a friend and ask to sleep a night at their house if it isn't too much trouble. Or even check in to a mental hospital for a few days. It seems like you're onto different emotions at the moment so that's good, I think.
My other advice is throw yourself into a hobby or work. Delete social media from your phone for a bit, focus on you as others have said. Worse comes to worse, ask your doctor's office for someone to quickly vent to while they're on sick leave.

Spoiler: Jensen

@Bob jensen There's good advice in this thread but I want to emphasize that you should also use a psych or therapist for support in addition to our suggestions. If you're considering them, go over it with them as they (usually) have more experience with mother-daughter relationships than retards on the internet who say retard and DIRTY CRAPPED BRIEFS as a form of humor. If you feel like you're getting too personal, confide in IRL people you know.

I kindly ask for everyone to be careful. We are supportive here, but sometimes people stumble in and call you a fag or dig up things because of how you sound. Don't forget to get offline.

Faaaaaaag.

 

[AMHOLIO]

Faaaaaaag.

You know it baby

If we get another poster like Angry Canadian way too overly sperg here though I'll consider it a win.

 

[Bob jensen]

I'd like to remind everyone here that while this may be a powerlevel thread, this is kiwifarms. You're all brave to powerlevel, but remember you are still on a public forum where anyone can sign up and call you a fag for no reason. Remember to be careful with what you post and if you're ever genuinely panicking over something, call a friend IRL.

Spoiler: snaids

@snake aids if you're still having suicidal thoughts or are panicking, call a friend and ask to sleep a night at their house if it isn't too much trouble. Or even check in to a mental hospital for a few days. It seems like you're onto different emotions at the moment so that's good, I think.
My other advice is throw yourself into a hobby or work. Delete social media from your phone for a bit, focus on you as others have said. Worse comes to worse, ask your doctor's office for someone to quickly vent to while they're on sick leave.

Spoiler: Jensen

@Bob jensen There's good advice in this thread but I want to emphasize that you should also use a psych or therapist for support in addition to our suggestions. If you're considering them, go over it with them as they (usually) have more experience with mother-daughter relationships than retards on the internet who say retard and DIRTY CRAPPED BRIEFS as a form of humor. If you feel like you're getting too personal, confide in IRL people you know.

I kindly ask for everyone to be careful. We are supportive here, but sometimes people stumble in and call you a fag or dig up things because of how you sound. Don't forget to get offline.

Well received and thank you!

 

[Rich Evans Ayypologist]

We are supportive here, but sometimes people stumble in and call you a fag or dig up things because of how you sound.

Something people also seem to forget is that this shit is here forever. If you say it, barring you going back and deleting it (and even then), someone can just look through your post history. "Who would do that, sit there for five hours and read everything I wrote?" Gee, I dunno, a crazy jilted troon lover? a very fat man with lots of time on his hands? but i repeat myself

While I get that there's rarely places one can publicly air their grievances out about troons on the internet, but there are still plenty of private opportunities. If you lack friends in the real world, you should probably concentrate on getting those first and foremost - and bear in mind, this place isn't exactly a great pool of potential buddies.

If you're really at wit's end, vent to people you've had prior contact with primarily through PMs or while in the middle of grooming them over discord (uwu), not in a thread anyone can easily see. And, even then, practice non-retarded opsec - leaks of private message chains happen about as often as bowel movements here. You won't see me posting that my real address is 4210 Wolfetown Rd, Cherokee, NC 28719, for example.

If we get another poster like Angry Canadian way too overly sperg here though I'll consider it a win.

so i looked at the reaction scores on the op and checked to see if you posted in the thread, both nada
is this a stunning and brave coincidence or did you already know he got a thread

 

[AMHOLIO]

If you say it, barring you going back and deleting it (and even then), someone can just look through your post history. "Who would do that, sit there for five hours and read everything I wrote?" Gee, I dunno, a crazy jilted troon lover? a very fat man with lots of time on his hands?

Perfect way to word it. Considering users here have autistic dedication to mantain the cwciki and hunt for doxes for days, it isn't a stretch.

so i looked at the reaction scores on the op and checked to see if you posted in the thread, both nada
is this a stunning and brave coincidence or did you already know he got a thread

I wish I could say I was psychic, but I knew. I remember him running to deep thought to politisperging when he got kicked out of the former Janke subfourm for autistically sperging off topic. I thought it was harsh for someone to get a thread that fast but then I read his post and my mind changed just as fast.

Edit:... Wait, this is a new thread. I thought they kept the old one on him. Maybe I really AM psychic...

 

[snake aids]

Spoiler: Many words

I'm feeling a little better, I told my friends about him trooning out and they all think he's a dumbass and not a woman. Even my most troon positive friend who is nonbinary thinks he's a massive retard and doesn't think of him as anything but a perverse male. It feels really great that I'm not just a terrible person and other people around me feel anger toward him. I've still been getting crazy mood swings, feeling shitty, all that mental illness faggotry but overall I don't feel as horribly hopeless. He's done a lot to me that is too TMI for me to post even in a PL thread, I didn't realise how fucked up it all was until now.

But yeah, TLDR; I'm still fucky and angry but I feel much better that other people around me are supportive and don't just think I'm a complete asshole or a schizo bitch.

 

[sasanian]

My girlfriend decided she was really a boy, or non binary (but really wants the fake penis). I really just don't get it. I'm hoping she doesn't actually go through with it but I haven't heard from her in a while.

Spoiler: Spergery

She apparently always had a strong desire to have a penis and be the active partner with it, particularly with another female. Being a straight male, I of course had no problem with this. I thought it was just a fetish, and she'd realize she wouldn't actually be able to do it. Another thing that probably contributed was feeling inferior to her sister, who was better than her athletically, taller than her, generally got more attention for being attractive, and was basically a shithead to her when they were growing up (I don't think more than any two siblings close in age, but still). Her parents were not very involved in her life outside of sports either. I definitely also screwed up with her and made her feel like a failure as a woman, which I really regret. Last time I talked to her, she seemed to be happy that her plan to mutilate her body was making me upset. I've tried to reach out to her a few times since then to no avail.

TLDR; I'm retarded. I've pretty much given up on her now.

 

[AMHOLIO]

But yeah, TLDR; I'm still fucky and angry but I feel much better that other people around me are supportive and don't just think I'm a complete asshole or a schizo bitch

The biggest way you know you fucked up is when even other trans people go "what the fuck is wrong with you". This is what I like to hear, good choice in friends mate.

My girlfriend decided she was really a boy, or non binary (but really wants the fake penis). I really just don't get it.

To this day I don't get nonbinary but wants hrt/penis either. Truly a mystery for the ages.

 

[sasanian]

To this day I don't get nonbinary but wants hrt/penis either. Truly a mystery for the ages.

Apparently, she wants to have features from both sexes that are attractive, to be some sort of sexy androgynous... thing. I tried to gently explain to her that this would make her look like a freak that neither men nor women would find attractive, but she didn't listen.