Megathread Non-binary genders / Enbies - When Male and Female Aren't Special Enough

That’s how natural large breasts look. They’re not perfect round spheres.

She wears a lot of makeup. They all do. It’s weird, because nerdy women generally don’t, and yet it’s the ones who are ‘non-binary’ who pile it on.
Ah, okay, so it was a moment of idiocy on my part. My bad.
And yeah, I've noticed. what is it with 'non-binary' women and makeup?
 
Ah, okay, so it was a moment of idiocy on my part. My bad.
And yeah, I've noticed. what is it with 'non-binary' women and makeup?
I really don’t know.

Nerdy girl fashion types:
-aggressively practical. She wears cargo pants from the men’s section. Her hair is long but unstyled—a braid, maybe. She’s not dressing like this to resist the patriarchy or something, she just doesn’t care that much. A formal outfit for her is a blouse and slacks.
-Emily Dickinson. Long, loose skirts and dresses. Light makeup occasionally, and she’ll try a 19th century bun for a special event. Real quote from one of these types: “I wore my shortest skirt—knee length.” Might own a corset, but it’ll always be worn correctly as underwear.
-Pin-up wannabe. This girl is insecure. She wears TARDIS dresses with push up bras, corsets on the outside, Fluevogs, and anything sold by ModCloth. She was rejected in high school and now she’s trying to be hot—but not like the other girls. Has a lot of tattoos. ‘This is what an angry feminist looks like.’
She’s also more likely to always be dressed like that. Emily Dickinson girl can be seen occasionally in leggings and a hoodie. Pin-up girl is committed to her look even when it’s inappropriate. She’s cool! She’s sexy!
Lot of consooming. The type to have a ‘nerdy wedding’ where the cake has Avengers characters on it. She needs to cling to her identity as a geek.

Being non-binary is ultimately about being insecure, especially in your sexual role. Aggressively practical girl and Emily Dickinson girl might also be insecure, but they don’t have the same burning desire to be seen as sexy.

Other people can feel free to disagree with me on any of this, of course.

edit: Also, pin-up girl wants to be part of the ‘queer community’ and if she’s straight, or bi but dating a man, this is a way to do it. There really isn’t any other space for women who behave in non conforming ways, and it’s a cycle because as more women become ‘enbies’ the rest feel they have to also. It’s also because gay people are, like, cool and edgy, and she really wants to be cool and edgy. Again, she’s not like other girls.
 
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Nerdy girl fashion types:

That's pretty good, but I think this might be a bit closer to the mark:

- Good girl who goes to church, overall likely to land herself a man and/or a stable job down the line. Dresses pretty feminine. Likely to have been a horse girl. (Might be your Emily Dickenson type, but I've never met someone like that in real life.)

- Female neckbeards (legbeards?), complete with stuff like anime/wolf t-shirts and sometimes questionable hygiene. Often dress butch, but out of laziness. Extreme cases will own something like an ahegao hoodie.

- Performative, insecure women who inexorably draw soyboys into orbit. (Basically, the pinup girl described above)

Of course, this discounts subcultures and stuff, but still.
 
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That's pretty good, but I think this might be a bit closer to the mark.

- Good girl who goes to church, overall likely to land herself a man and/or a stable job down the line. Dresses pretty feminine. Likely to have been a horse girl. (Might be your Emily Dickenson type, but I've never met someone like that in real life.)

- Female neckbeards (legbeards?), complete with stuff like anime/wolf t-shirts and sometimes questionable hygiene. Often dress butch, but out of laziness. Extreme cases will own something like an ahegao hoodie.

- Performative, insecure women who inexorably draw soyboys into orbit. (Basically, the pinup girl described above)

Of course, this discounts subcultures and stuff, but still.
Oh, sure, I wasn't trying to make a grand proclamation about how nerd girl culture is divided into three parts or whatever.
The thing about 'Emily Dickinson girl' or 'good girl who goes to church' is that she is feminine but not in a sexy way. Like lolita, but not a subculture.

This could be stretching it, but I wonder how many of the final type are basically the failed gifted kid. They peaked in 8th grade academically, and that's why they still read YA--it reminds them of when they were smart. A lot of them are administrative assistants or something like that. They're into consooming 'nerd' stuff, but they aren't into intellectual pursuits, nor are they into sewing or other handicrafts like the first type of girl. They've heard of impostor syndrome but can't realize they are, in fact, impostors.
 
Also, I don't take Kate Leth for being the kind of person who has any dysphoric tendencies at all, which makes it all the more hilarious that she makes comics like this talking about having dysphoria and shit. But I don't know shit about Kate Leth so I'm not entirely qualified to make that assumption. Though, how does one have "non-binary dysphoria" at all?
Honestly considering she used to be a wannabe weightlifter and has a whole paleo diet phase - complete with bragging how much she could dead lift and claiming she had a six pack - compared to now where it seemed like she gained like 100+ in two months, I wonder if her sudden interest in dysphoria has anything to do with insecurities about that are less than graceful aging.
 
I feel like I should weigh in here, but meh. Boobs are boobs, and follow the rules of gravity.

Most people don't seem to know how to draw breasts of any given size.

Make-up is makeup. Make-up goes on, make-up goes off. People are very critical on the Internet. You can't please everyone. You can do what you want with your body, it's only a vessel for your mind, in the end. Who knows what the future will hold?

The only thing inevitable in this life is change and that time goes in only one direction.
 
Some personal highlights:




https://twitter.com/michaeljknowles/status/1215773369041215488





There's even "postbinary", I guess it's like the post-genre genre in music:

That BJ guy creeps the fuck out of me. He looks like he belongs on some predator list. He probably thinks coming out as nonbinary will make him attractive to sexually confused girls who want attention from daddy.
 
so apparently u dont even need the "they them" pronoun now, making it even easier for tumblr users with no personality to jump on the nb bandwagon and feel special.

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It's actually true that they/them pronouns are not a requirement. But tumblr in general misunderstands that non-binary is an incomplete form of gender dysphoria, the thing they get triggered over like flat-earthers with globes. Also, this person is very hard to take seriously when the point is presented like...that.

Also they contradict themselves a lot when they assume they/them for everyone else and bonk it so hard when it's their pronouns, then make things like this.
 
Nb is the element symbol for Niobium. Next time you see someone call themselves "nb" you can say, "Oh, you're Nb? So you're Niobium?"

No point, just thought that was kind of funny.

What's funnier is that the namesake of Niobium was Niobe of Greek mythology.
Her father was Tantalus, a demigod, and she herself had 14 children. She talked shit about Leto, the mother of the gods Apollo and Artemis, and exalted herself as the heir to the realm of Thebes.
So then Artemis and Apollo killed 13 of them to take her down a notch. Then her husband committed suicide and she turned into a rock statue that wept forever.

Bragging about your sex life and relationships, and then getting your shit kicked in? Yeah, I'd say that's accurate.
 
People say they're non-binary for the same reason people think they're actually animal spirits in a human body: attention. I don't think there's much else to it. It's just a label to slap on yourself that doesn't really mean anything so that you can claim oppression points when people rightfully call you a freak
 
People say they're non-binary for the same reason people think they're actually animal spirits in a human body: attention. I don't think there's much else to it. It's just a label to slap on yourself that doesn't really mean anything so that you can claim oppression points when people rightfully call you a freak
It's a shame because there is a very small minority of people for whom these are real experiences and cultural beliefs, not just made up to feel special. But the well has been poisoned to such a ridiculous degree by these speds, the sane ones are forced to keep a low profile now, or be associated with that speddery.
 
I think "Cis" is the opposite word of "Trans" and is used a bit in chemistry, so it makes sense why it caught on. Imo it's not that big of a deal; it sounds more like an ego thing to get pissed about.
Eh, I've typically found that a lot of genderspecials, and sometimes even trans people, use 'cis' to mean 'I feel like I was destined to be my sex' rather than 'I don't have gender dysphoria'.

As in when someone honestly asks them what it feels like to be in the wrong body they snap back "oh i dunno, what does it feel like to be in the right body?" and somehow be surprised that the person backs away slowly from the lunatic.
 
I just created this account to share a story with you guys. It involes a genderspecial I used to be friends with and I really need to get that off my chest.

I knew that person for some years and I could literally see how she more and more turned into the typically tumblrina over time. Which is actually kinda sad since despite her flaws she was a nice person. Yes, no typo here.
Anyway she identified herself as non-binary which I always thought was weird but since in our language she was comfortable to go with "she" I didn't care much about that most of the time. But there were days when I talked to her she simply drove me low-key crazy. I can't count how often we discussed trans stuff and how often I was explaining that people without dyshporia aren't trans. Ofc she insisted they were. Usually we just dropped the topic because we couldn't change each others opinion, but one day she was staying over and this fucking topic came up again. That was also the day..or more specifically night when I asked her why she identifies as nb. I knew she was gender-special but she also had a lot going on in her life which kinda made me understanding and I was sure she would grow out of it. But nothing could have had prepared me for the answer I got. I couldn't believe my ears when she told me she feels uncomfortable to be called 'she' because she got harassed one time by some guys. I tried to keep a cool face but internally I was facepalming so hard because I simultaneously remembered how she used make-up, called herself a lesbian, and even posted a picture with a deep neckline on instagram. Overall she dressed feminine and acted like it. We then kinda talked about that she maybe feels that way because she got mental issues and experienced a shitty situation which just stamped her. I'm still surprised that she agreed with me that this could be the reason and she maybe will stop considering herself nb when she gets better one day. The moment I thought she isn't a lost case was also the very moment when everything went down the hill. I can't remember all details of that night but a short while later it happened that she called me a terf. I got angry and was about to throw her out. In the middle of the night. She was lucky I was reasonable and didn't do it. She also must have realised she went too far and didn't say much more to it after that. She knew exactly well she insulted me with this since I was friends with some trans people and supported them.
From that weekend on our contact decreased until one day she literally exploded at me via text. I still don't know what caused that outburst and what I -in her opinion- did wrong but I guess she just got influenced by her tumblr sjw 'friends' and dragged down more. In the end her outburst was actually a relief for me because since that stay over I more and more considered to break off that friendship. The only reason I didn't was because she always had told me how much she cherishes me as a friend and that she is glad that I always listen to her and tried to help.
Well, now I don't have to worry for her anymore.
 
Books listed P-3 this is how it starts out:
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It led me to this "lovely" pdf on other books to read to introduce transgender and non-binary to children:
I like how "Ruthie" is shown in a dress with long hair and her pages have a pink theme and butterflies and "Xavier" is shown playing actively and his pages have a blue them. Real cool. Super cool. Gender stereotypes, gotta get em young.
 
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