Megathread Non-binary genders / Enbies - When Male and Female Aren't Special Enough

"All you're really doing is playing gender cop"

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Have any of you guys actually met an enby IRL? If so, what were they like?

As a zoomer, I've encountered a couple in my time:
1. A person from my school, who was actually pretty popular, nice, and well-adjusted, if definitely annoyingly woke and SJW-y
2. Another person from my school, "the autistic kid". You know the one, we all have one.
3. A bunch of people I met when I was in the Pagan community (yeah, I know)
4. A crazy bitch I dated for a short amount of time (it's a long story)
 
Have any of you guys actually met an enby IRL? If so, what were they like?

As a zoomer, I've encountered a couple in my time:
1. A person from my school, who was actually pretty popular, nice, and well-adjusted, if definitely annoyingly woke and SJW-y
2. Another person from my school, "the autistic kid". You know the one, we all have one.
3. A bunch of people I met when I was in the Pagan community (yeah, I know)
4. A crazy bitch I dated for a short amount of time (it's a long story)
No, but anybody who's my age and is being dramatic about being an "enby" or their noun-pronouns, has likely already engaged in other behaviors that are a flashing red light of "drama bitch here! come for the drama, run away because of the toxic personality!"

When I was a teen it wasn't a thing, but then I was a teen during the whole trenchcoat mafia drama llamas.
 
Plenty.

1. An annoyingly insecure lesbian who taught gender studies.
2. Like 5 other lesbians who just wanted to feel speshul.
3. A lot of gay First Nations dudes claiming twospirit cause antiquated gender binaries are somehow better than modern ones.
4. A smelly furry who did sex work. Probably dead in a gutter by now.
5. An intersex person who could pass anyway toward Sunday, actually a functional adult.
 
When I was a teen it wasn't a thing, but then I was a teen during the whole trenchcoat mafia drama llamas.

Wew lad, that took me back.

Funny how this comes back around with the Wachowskis now saying The Matrix is a trans allegory, and everybody was wearing trench coats... partially due to The Matrix.
 
Have any of you guys actually met an enby IRL? If so, what were they like?
I'm actually close to an enby who's in their 30s. They're masculine and came out as lesbian at first, but eventually adopted the enby label. They're SJW-y for sure but is more adjusted than your typical online enby, as they won't throw a fit if you use pronouns aside from they/them. I don't even recall them putting pronouns in their online profile.
 
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Have any of you guys actually met an enby IRL? If so, what were they like?

As a zoomer, I've encountered a couple in my time:
1. A person from my school, who was actually pretty popular, nice, and well-adjusted, if definitely annoyingly woke and SJW-y
2. Another person from my school, "the autistic kid". You know the one, we all have one.
3. A bunch of people I met when I was in the Pagan community (yeah, I know)
4. A crazy bitch I dated for a short amount of time (it's a long story)
I have and it was in 6 week long program. She was in her mid twenties and looked like a normal girl. Not very feminine but also not masculine, just t-shirt and jeans type stuff. She was very artistic and actually very good at drawing. It became very clear that she had mommy and daddy issues, some fair enough and some definitely not. This was also her reason for different gender identity. She according her own words couldn't identify as female because her parents had pushed chores and such according what was proper to a girl. I found her very annoying, especially when she brought up stuff like her tinder date not being woke about sex work. She was generally very negative, judgmental and stuck in teenage mentality but was trying to work towards healthier mind set. Don't get my wrong she wasn't an awful person, just immature and had issues. She could be fairly fun and did encourage others if she saw potential, like gave some numbers to contact about work opportunity. Not the worst experience but definitely still made my mind about how dumb this none binary is.
 
Have any of you guys actually met an enby IRL? If so, what were they like?
Yeah, I've met a person... female but is apparently legally enby on driver's license, if I'm to understand that is a thing.

I used to tolerate this person until recently. You see, 13 fucking years ago my friend adopted a black cat from the animal shelter. Shelter named the cat "Spook." Friend decided to keep that name for the cat.

But this certain non binary snowflake, whose skin is as white as a snowflake of course, without even asking for context, decided she was going to get her little panties in a knot over the name of a cat, and she started shit-talking my friend for being racist because some other people named a cat over a decade ago.

So yeah, pretty much your stereotype right there, looking for excuses to be offended over EVERYTHING even when they have nothing to do with her.

Needless to say I no longer tolerate this person. I just straight up disdain her attention-whoring ass.
 
Have any of you guys actually met an enby IRL? If so, what were they like?

As a zoomer, I've encountered a couple in my time:
1. A person from my school, who was actually pretty popular, nice, and well-adjusted, if definitely annoyingly woke and SJW-y
2. Another person from my school, "the autistic kid". You know the one, we all have one.
3. A bunch of people I met when I was in the Pagan community (yeah, I know)
4. A crazy bitch I dated for a short amount of time (it's a long story)
Just a couple, most of them casual acquaintances so I can't say much. One is a crazy bitch, another appears tumblr-y but is actually pretty nice. Another one is a friend whos so fucked up, the least interesting thing about her is her gender identity.

I'm also friends with this chick who identifies as a demigirl, I think? Either way its some non-binary shit. We were having a conversation about gender identity and I asked her why she feels nonbinary, and she said because sometimes she likes being boyish and sometimes she likes doing feminine things like going to the mall.

Bruh. It was then that I realized she has no fucking idea what she's talking about. I usually don't give much thought to people's gender identities because I honestly don't care, but this chick just about gave me an anuerysm.
 
Have any of you guys actually met an enby IRL? If so, what were they like?

As a zoomer, I've encountered a couple in my time:
1. A person from my school, who was actually pretty popular, nice, and well-adjusted, if definitely annoyingly woke and SJW-y
2. Another person from my school, "the autistic kid". You know the one, we all have one.
3. A bunch of people I met when I was in the Pagan community (yeah, I know)
4. A crazy bitch I dated for a short amount of time (it's a long story)
The ones I know are both female and on the autism spectrum, and actually okay to be around so long as you don’t bring up your political opinions. Out of respect for them as people I’m willing to use “they” pronouns even if I think their self applied labels are a bit ridiculous and unnecessary. Not sure if the crazy lady who identifies as different labels as she sees fit (NB included) would count, but that’s a story of its own.
 
A close friend of mine is essentially gender neutral in the truest sense of the term, in that while I default to calling her a she because we've known each other in real life for years, she literally does not give a shit what pronouns people use with her. She's very androgynous and people have asked her what she identifies as, and she just shrugs. Sometimes she'll just say she identifies as "a meat popsicle."

Honestly that seems like the most stress-free way to go about being an enby.
 
Have any of you guys actually met an enby IRL? If so, what were they like?
Let me just... Ahhh *cracks knuckles*. There's only one enby I used to know who straight up came out for attention that I can't tolerate anymore.

She was always a little "off" and was always kind of an attention seeker for as long as I'd known her. The only memory I have of her from school that sticks out is her trying to (or making it look like she was trying to) slit her wrists with a plastic ruler. She was one of those kids.

She moved schools (can't imagine why) and later on, one of our mutual friends (as well as myself) came out as trans. She then came out as nonbinary out of the blue and cut her hair. She tried to pass for about a month, then grew her hair out and just presented as completely female again. Fast forward to now, she still claims to be nonbinary while posting kinda-shirtless selfies with her tits out online. I tried to talk to her once about trans issues/dysphoria/etc and unsurprisingly, it all went over her head.

It does not stop there, however. Because of the sods law of "small world", my boyfriend knows her and also can't stand her. She moved to his school. From what I understand, she came out and everyone went with it when she tried to pass for about a month. Eventually people started forming their own opinions and noticed that she was just hopping on the bandwagon for attention and saw that it was another stunt being pulled by her for attention. When they stopped giving her attention for being non-binary or humouring her, she started to present fully as female again. Boyfriend has put it down to attention seeking and possible narcissism. I believe it did eventually come to light that she was faking it for attention but I can't remember for sure.There are multiple people who know both me and her who have told me this- it can't be a coincidence at this point.

He went on to tell me that the only reason nobody has said anything or called her on her shit is either
A- out of fear of being shouted down by the "tolerant" mob
B- because it would just be "kinda sad for her"
or C- because it would mean acknowledging and possibly enabling her attention-seeking behaviour.

Real talk, transtrenders like her are pretty fuckin harmful to the community they're trying to pretend they belong to. I mean, think about it. Someone thinks "well, don't trans people just do it for attention?" (as opposed to just wanting to treat dysphoria by transitioning and live their lives) and then they see people like that girl who actually came out for attention. Not only does that confirm their belief of trans people doing it for attention, but they also have 'proof' of it that they can use as ammo against people who aren't faking it and aren't actually doing anything wrong.
 
I've known and encountered several nonbinary people and my tolerance for their identity depends on who they are as a person, the level of effort they put into expressing their nonbinary identity, or how prone they are to lashing out at others for making mistakes with pronouns/correcting others/whatever.

The most common thing I've noticed when it comes to the gender revolution of the 2010s is that identifying as nonbinary/trans/whatever is an unhealthy coping mechanism that does not actually address the issues the person is going through, so they latch onto the cool and trendy thing thinking that's the issue rather than truly looking inward and seeing "gee, maybe I am so unhappy because I am unemployed/have no education/spend 18 hours a day on the internet/have untreated mental illness" and so on. I think it also depends pretty heavily on how ingrained they are into tumblr/twitter/woke left culture.

In general I am wary of enbies in the same way I am a lot of people who are open about other facets of their identity because it signals to me they are completely devoid of personality outside of said identity.
 
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